A dating decision must be made, need advise (flamesuit on)

[TXFordChic]

While she was dating the "guy she left you for in the first place" did she even give you a second thought....probably not, she is toying with you to see if she can get you to ditch the girl you are currently with just to have bragging rights or something. I've met way too many females like her saying the same crap, "I don't want him, BUT I dont want anyone else to have him either." If she didn't want you before or was talking to someone else the WHOLE time you guys were seeing each other, she isn't in to you it seems more to me like she is into winning.

[SVT Lurch]

she is into winning.

She should date Sheen.

[Vertnut]

While she was dating the "guy she left you for in the first place" did she even give you a second thought....probably not, she is toying with you to see if she can get you to ditch the girl you are currently with just to have bragging rights or something. I've met way too many females like her saying the same crap, "I don't want him, BUT I dont want anyone else to have him either." If she didn't want you before or was talking to someone else the WHOLE time you guys were seeing each other, she isn't in to you it seems more to me like she is into winning.

Listen to this chic...

[mstng86]

Bang the second one and send the vid to the first one.

[momo]

We still get along, hang out, shoot the shit, and hang in the same circle of friends. I couldn't completely avoid her if I tried. Even if we don't date again (won't due to overwhelming response to NO) we will still remain friends.

oh, that's dumb. you should stop that.

[Nash B.]

Too many times these days, it seems the simplest, most effective solution is overlooked. Try hitting her.

[Doug Hatton]

You're both still the same age, right? What's changed since the first time she dumped you? NOTHING! RUN!

[caddyjack]

didn't read the thread but it looks like post #2 was the correct answer

[Treasure Chest]

All I can tell you is quit chasing these chicks. Work on yourself, school, work, working out,finances, educations, etc and let these women chase you.

~Nate

^This.

It doesn't seem to be the age that's the issue as much as the type of girl you're going for. I've seen plenty of twenty somethings that are determined, educated, and goal oriented, and plenty of 40 somethings that are no where NEAR having their shit together.

They're basically the same stupid dramatic party girl the OP described, aged 10-20 years, complete with 10-20 years of baggage.

[LaserSVT]

Too many times these days, it seems the simplest, most effective solution is overlooked. Try hitting her.

[DaisyDoesDallas]

Abandon ship with the 39 yr old, IMMEDIATELY, regardless of the second girl.

Agreed!!!

[DaisyDoesDallas]

too many times these days, it seems the simplest, most effective solution is overlooked. Try hitting urself hard in the small head and think with the big head.

fixed

[Nash B.]

fixed

Can't we do both?

[Jonny00GT]

The older lady played you, lied and was messing around behind your back. Nuf said. Had she been up front and honest about you not being the only one she was dating, might have been a different story.

The fact that she's acting interested again is a product of 2 things:
1) Women want what they can't have or other what "the other woman" has!
2) She's lonely and you're the shortest distance between being alone and not.

Trying to be friends with her will poison your next relationship. Don't do it!

Have you dated enough to know what you really want?
Are YOU the right person? (More important than "finding the right person"!)

If you like YOU and you know what you want out of a partner and what you don't want, make a list. ...I'll give you my main ones as an example:

- Must be able to compromise.
- Must be able to admit when she's wrong.
- Must be able to REALLY forgive...not save up your f-ups as future ammo.
- Must have a brain, be able to form an opinion and carry on a conversation.
- Must have a thoughtfull disposition towards family, friends, those under her at work, wait staff, pets, kids, etc.
- Must have a good sense of humor and thick skin.
- How she looks must be important to her, but not all consuming. (Not a lazy slob)

Anyway...that's what worked for me. Good luck, Bro!

-Jonny

[DaisyDoesDallas]

Can't we do both?

No, I think it's physically impossible for a man to think with both heads at the same time.

Name one time you have been able too?