Thinking about asking her to move in with me......

[Sleeper]

As a few of us have delt with this.

The only thing you can do is ask her what she wants to do.

There is nothing more degrading for an elderly person than being told they cant do something. They have lived full lives and have seen more shit than anyone of us could imagine.



Good luck. I actually enjoyed living with my grandmother. It was a time for me to ask any questions i had before her mind went.

[93LXHORSE]

My plan is to ask her for a portion of my inheritance while she is still alive to see it put to good use.... I will buy a piece of land and build us a nice house on it, and put a shop with a lift, etc... and we can live out the rest of her years enjoying each other's company, LOL !

[Sean88gt]

Admirable. I'll have to get to a different point mentally before I can bring family in.

[Sleeper]

This is where it gets tricky.

You say your part of the inheritance, get a lawyer to draw up papers.

My stepmother had hell with her family when her parents died. None of them lifted a finger to take care of them, but they sued her for the house and a bunch of shit. I think it took about 10 years to get it all done and over with.

People are some greedy bastards.

When it comes to stuff like that it is always best to cover your ass.

[93LXHORSE]

My grandma faithfully visited me in Lew Sterret 11 years ago, every two weeks, while I was living there temporarily... She drove me 5 hours up to Tulsa to a rehab, bought me a shot of dope so I wouldn't shit and puke in the car on the drive up there... watched me do it - Told me "That is the first and definitely the last time I am ever going to pay money to watch you do something so vile...."

She forgave me for pawning all her shit, breaking into her safe and stealing 600 bucks out of it... She threw me out of the house for that one, though.

She has lived to see me pull myself out of a life of crime and dope and become employable, watch my quality of life improve slowly but surely, was overjoyed when I was able to buy a house and she could come over and watch football on my home theater... when years ago I would think nothing of taking anything of value I owned right down to the pawn shop and sell it for a couple of bags of smack.... she is the only one that never judged me for my actions and allowed me the comfort level to be straight up honest with her now matter what the situation may be..

A few years back she loaned me 18000 dollars to buy my truck @ 4% interest... because she could only get 3.75% on a CD - she actually trusted me to the point where I was a better investment than the bank! It felt really good.

So.... I'd do just about anything for her,

[Saleen781]

This is where it gets tricky.

You say your part of the inheritance, get a lawyer to draw up papers.

My stepmother had hell with her family when her parents died. None of them lifted a finger to take care of them, but they sued her for the house and a bunch of shit. I think it took about 10 years to get it all done and over with.

People are some greedy bastards.

When it comes to stuff like that it is always best to cover your ass.

This. Seems like this happens 90% of the time when someone dies, really shows you how bad people can be.

[Sleeper]

A lady i work with is moving her mother and her step father to a house in town they purchased for them.

The fathers three kids demanded that anything of any value be signed over to them now.

Fucker aint even dead yet and they are vultures. The daughters of the guy where trying to take the mothers shit as well.

[Machx2]

I say do it. Spend alot more time with her before she goes.

[Snatch Napkin]

Sounds like a no brainer to me.


Do it.

[ceyko]

I am thinking about pitching the idea to her that we get a house that has

I don't know you and you don't care about my opinion of you, but it is quite high right now.

I recommend doing it. In the past I've not done what I could for family and I regret very often.

At this point I do anything I can for close enough family. i.e. my mo-in-law has been living with me for over 10 years now - after her husband passed away from cancer. No regrets.

Now, if it is family that you're constantly fighting with - that's one thing. However, the sad reality is at 95 you won't have much time to do what you can for her and you'll be glad you did - if you can of course.

[CRASH]

Dude, I say go for it. I miss my Maw Maw every single day and given the opportunity, I would do the same thing you are contemplating, if she were still alive.

Congrats on turning your life around too, man.

-Aaron

[ozzeran]

Wow you guys are making it harder for me to move into my own place which is end of this month. I moved back in with my mom for a few year's, we get along so great but I know it's time to move on, but I will be over there making sure everything is ok, that's for sure. I was really self conscious living with her because I'm a grown man, but meh. Regardless, I'll be out again.

[bard]

Your heart is in the right place, but IMHO she needs to move to an assisted living center. Not necessarily a nursing home. They aren't quite the same thing. That way she can be as independent as she wants, but have access to all the help she needs 24/7. You will never be able to provide that on your own unless you work from home, never leave home and have extensive medical training specializing in senior care. Find one close by and visit often.

[TRAXX]

She seems like a special person in your life Chris. In fact, I remember you speaking highly of her a couple of years ago when we were wrenching on cars together. Id say do it. My better half's Mom lives out in Haslet in a neighborhood with acre lots and the people across the street did something similar. They added a completely separate small addition for their mother to live in. The addition and the main house are connected by a covered patio. Ill ask my mother in law, but I think it has worked out well for them.

[SNEAKY]

only do it if you get to pimp the Olds around town.