You're hanging out with the wrong chicks, my friend. We do come in the not-bat-shit-crazy variety, but we're not on the market long or we're put in the friend zone....for 20 years.
There's a fine line between treating a woman well and letting her walk all over you. My father told me at a young age that women will rip your heart out in a second IF you let them.
I'm finally getting to the point where the women that I date have either grown tired of that BS, or never played into it in the first place. I'd much rather wait and find a girl that appreciates my genuine nature, than to deal with a bitch just 'cause there is chemistry. Not that there aren't girls that never grow out of that juvenile mentality, but it's been my experience that a woman in her upper 20's to mid 30's, that has a head on her shoulders, gives respect and expects the same.
I'm finally getting to the point where the women that I date have either grown tired of that BS, or never played into it in the first place. I'd much rather wait and find a girl that appreciates my genuine nature, than to deal with a bitch just 'cause there is chemistry. Not that there aren't girls that never grow out of that juvenile mentality, but it's been my experience that a woman in her upper 20's to mid 30's, that has a head on her shoulders, gives respect and expects the same.
Trust me..in my experience..very few women appreciate "genuine nature". I am 33 and I know plenty of of women my age that don't have their head on straight. So to label upper 20s to mid 30s as "safe" is interesting...
I depends on life experience. I had a handicapped son at 26 and had to "grow up" faster than I wanted to and it shaped my perceptions...
I did not mean to imply that chemistry is all that matters..you can find it in a bar at any given night..
but I will agree that respect is a two way street.
Most people talk big to get what they want but actually finding something worth while is very hard to do. I am grateful for the man in my life that appreciates all of my needs. I went through a ton of BS and shitty relationships to get here.
Trust me..very few women appreciate "genuine nature". I am 33 and I know plenty of of women my age that don't have their head on straight.
I did not mean to imply that chemistry is all that matters..you can find it in a bar at any given night..
but I will agree that respect is a two way street.
Most people talk big to get what they want but actually finding something worth while is very hard to do. I am grateful for the man in my life that appreciates all of my needs. I went through a ton of BS and shitty relationships to get here.
Then I guess that's the type of woman that my demure nature attracts. There is something to be said for chemistry, it's absolutely necessary in my opinion, but to be in a relationship where that's all you've got is assinine. I felt completely different at 21-25, ass was ass, but lately my tolerance for BS is pretty much non-existent. which sucks, because in San Diego there is a whole lot of BS.
I suppose that the 30ish range has been alot more fruitful than girls younger than that. You're right, there are plent of "off" women of all ages.
I guess that's the yin and yang of life, there are alot of assholes in the world, so there are alot of women that want assholes to balance that.
FWIW Rick Modena is one of the biggest assholes I know, I dunno what he is bitching about.
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