Women: the choices we struggle to make as men.

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I could write out a long winded diatribe about a decision I am faced with but I will try to cut to it as much as I can.

Basically after being single for the last 3 years-ish I have found out that either my standards are unrealistic or there just aren't any women out there that fit what I want (and are willing to date me). I can find women that meet my physical requirements no problem but it seems with that type that's all they bring to the table. They are either lacking in the personality dept or are worthless and its like I would be raising a second child as they either don't work or have a worthless job. I am looking for the type that has their shit together but it seems that when I find this type they don't fit the bill in the looks dept.

My conundrum is this... I have been dating a woman off and on for the last 2 years and out of all the women I have dated she has her shit together more than any other I have dated. Without the gory details she is in the 6 figure income range, has no kids, and takes care of herself physically (does CG 4-5 days a week). She is a little older than me at 40 and while I can fuck her with the lights on I have had better looking women under me. She is extremely good to me and my kid and seems to let me be when I don't want to be up anyone's ass for a while. She cooks, cleans, blows me in the parking lot of whatever establishment we have been drinking at, blah blah blah... Basically she is everything I am looking for except I wish she was a little better looking.

At what point do you sacrifice a little of something that is important to you because everything else is right? Before you ask there will be no pics of this one. I need opinions of the situation as everyone's personal standards on looks are different.

[Ratt]

Basically after being single for the last 3 years-ish I have found out that either my standards are unrealistic or there just aren't any women out there that fit what I want (and are willing to date me).

Those two scenarios are the same thing.

I can find women that meet my physical requirements no problem but it seems with that type that's all they bring to the table. They are either lacking in the personality dept or are worthless and its like I would be raising a second child as they either don't work or have a worthless job. I am looking for the type that has their shit together but it seems that when I find this type they don't fit the bill in the looks dept.

One with all three is called "The Unicorn." While you might eventually find one in the wild, you'll never be able to catch it.

At what point do you sacrifice a little of something that is important to you because everything else is right

That point is now. You'll be hard-pressed to find someone better than her. If she arouses you at all, then you're attracted enough to make a lasting relationship as long as everything else falls into place.

[jluv]

What you really have to decide is whether or not you would be able to stay faithful.

On paper, if everything else lines up, and you are at least "fairly" physically attracted to her, that should be enough. As you said, she has her shit together, and that's a really big deal, and can be very hard to find. Looks will fade eventually, anyway.

BUT, if she's not hot enough for you, and you crave bumping uglies with someone hotter, AND you have the opportunity to do just that, can you resist temptation?

I think it's important to get with someone who you find hot enough that any hotter strange that you could want would be out of your league.

[jakesford]

Looks fade so who gives a shit. So if you are attracted to the person that's all that matters.

If you are worried that others won't think she is hot enough, then you should probably stick to dumb sluts.

If you are the person that is always looking for a hotter, younger piece, then it probably doesn't matter who you are with. There is always going to be better out there based purely on physical appearance.

[Taylor]

Improve yourself and get the girls you want?

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Improve yourself and get the girls you want?

I honestly haven't met one whether she was willing to date me or not who fit who I am as a person and had everything else going for her that I like. Its like I have to sacrifice somewhere or all the way around a little bit.

[Scott Mc]

I get what he is saying. Dating at, well my age of 36 is difficult. Often it is like choosing from broken toys(not saying I am perfect). It is a whole lot more common for men to have their shit together and not have baggage then women. I went out last week with a girl that had all her shit together, badass career, same interests, honestly a cute girl, but 4'11". My stupid brain recognizes that she may carry dwarfism in her DNA a little bit and is messing with me bad. I am not going to let it make me stop seeing her but logically I should have no issue because currently neither of us want kids.

[Scott Mc]

Also in my fun journey I have found there are two types of girls. One is fun, pretty and grabs your emotions. Great fun to play with, but do not expect a partner, like you said, a kid. The other well, will make you more successful and happy in that sense. As Taylor said, work on yourself and that will elevate the quality of tail.

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My stupid brain recognizes that she may carry dwarfism in her DNA a little bit and is messing with me bad. I am not going to let it make me stop seeing her but logically I should have no issue because currently neither of us want kids.

LMFAO! extreme case there. I am 36 as well so you get where I am coming from.

[chronical]

I'd rather have a 5 who has their shit together.

[Unicorn Jeff]

I get what he is saying. Dating at, well my age of 36 is difficult. Often it is like choosing from broken toys(not saying I am perfect). It is a whole lot more common for men to have their shit together and not have baggage then women. I went out last week with a girl that had all her shit together, badass career, same interests, honestly a cute girl, but 4'11". My stupid brain recognizes that she may carry dwarfism in her DNA a little bit and is messing with me bad. I am not going to let it make me stop seeing her but logically I should have no issue because currently neither of us want kids.

That is fuckin hilarious.

[helosailor]

What you really have to decide is whether or not you would be able to stay faithful.

On paper, if everything else lines up, and you are at least "fairly" physically attracted to her, that should be enough. As you said, she has her shit together, and that's a really big deal, and can be very hard to find. Looks will fade eventually, anyway.

BUT, if she's not hot enough for you, and you crave bumping uglies with someone hotter, AND you have the opportunity to do just that, can you resist temptation?

I think it's important to get with someone who you find hot enough that any hotter strange that you could want would be out of your league.

^^^ This is why we is friends.

And inline...if you decide against keeping her around, send her my way. The value of someone you can grow old with is something you'll appreciate more as you, well, grow older.

[ELVIS]

Did you just manage to come across as a bigger prick than usual? Kudos to you sir!

God bless.

[slow99]

Shit, I'm a sucker for super short chicks.

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Did you just manage to come across as a bigger prick than usual? Kudos to you sir!

God bless.

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