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    Marriage, kids, and back surgery

    Well, the last 3 months have been a roller coaster. Jenn and I got married November 14th. We both found out that we would be having a baby within 12 hours of the wedding. She found out the night before when her bridesmaids made her take a pregnancy test and I found out the day of. Needless to say, the honeymoon wasn't quite what we were hoping for! We were both in shock, we were wanting to spend a few years traveling and enjoying life together. Instead we had to begin planning for another of life's huge milestones.

    Days after the wedding, I began having back issues again. The doctors say I am headed for another back surgery. I say "I'll show them".

    The first week of January we got the results back from the genetic panel for the baby to see if it had any markers for birth defects. Apparently a result of this testing is that they can tell with about 80% certainty what the sex of the baby will be.

    So, somewhere around July 4th, 2016 we will be welcoming a baby boy into the world!
    Originally posted by Leah
    Best balls I've had in my mouth in a while.
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    Congratulations man!

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    • #3
      Congrats
      "It's another burrito, it's a cold Lone Star in my hand!"

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Scott Mc View Post
        Congratulations man!
        Originally posted by dee View Post
        Congrats
        Thank you. It took a while to get over the initial shock and the hold $#@& what are we going to do now. Then we found out it was going to be a boy and I started to get excited. Now, I can't wait!
        Originally posted by Leah
        Best balls I've had in my mouth in a while.

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        • #5
          Congrats, life can be a bitch, roll with the punches! Kids can also be a huge pain in the ass but you will never love something like you will your kids, very much worth it.
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          • #6
            Congrats on the kid, man! I hope your back is an easy fix.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Mach1 View Post
              Congrats, life can be a bitch, roll with the punches! Kids can also be a huge pain in the ass but you will never love something like you will your kids, very much worth it.
              Well said.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by SVT Lurch View Post
                Congrats on the kid, man! I hope your back is an easy fix.
                Thanks. Time will tell on the back. The "progression" I have made since the first of the year without any sort of rehab has me hopeful that I can rebuild my strength and flexibility and dodge the scalpel.
                Originally posted by Leah
                Best balls I've had in my mouth in a while.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Mach1 View Post
                  Congrats, life can be a bitch, roll with the punches! Kids can also be a huge pain in the ass but you will never love something like you will your kids, very much worth it.
                  I was TERRIFIED at first, I had convinced myself I didn't want kids. I was content to not have that financial drain and finally be at a point where I can have some toys and enjoy life a little more. As we get closer to the due date, I get more excited. Walking the toy aisles and get excited for Ninja Turtles and Legos. Now to just convince the wife that we need to be one and done.
                  Originally posted by Leah
                  Best balls I've had in my mouth in a while.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by black2002ls View Post
                    I was TERRIFIED at first, I had convinced myself I didn't want kids. I was content to not have that financial drain and finally be at a point where I can have some toys and enjoy life a little more. As we get closer to the due date, I get more excited. Walking the toy aisles and get excited for Ninja Turtles and Legos. Now to just convince the wife that we need to be one and done.
                    That's almost exactly my situation. I never had a strong desire to have kids, but I knew part of the deal marrying my wife was that a kid was part of the it. Short, easy negotiation said ok, but one kid only (I am an only child and it rocked). She struggled with it a bit when the kid was a toddler because momma hormones said "MORE!" but now that our daughter is almost 10yo, my wife reminds me often how happy she is that we just had the one kiddo.

                    It can be a giant pain in the ass on a regular basis, but I never could have foreseen the joys baked into it as well.

                    Parenthood is both the most difficult and wonderful thing that can happen to you.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by black2002ls View Post
                      I was TERRIFIED at first, I had convinced myself I didn't want kids. I was content to not have that financial drain and finally be at a point where I can have some toys and enjoy life a little more. As we get closer to the due date, I get more excited. Walking the toy aisles and get excited for Ninja Turtles and Legos. Now to just convince the wife that we need to be one and done.
                      Congrats man, I was indifferent on having kids, with a slight lean towards not. I'm really glad we had them, even though the process of having them and everything after has been difficult.

                      BTW, my son and I are cool, but he's very much a momma's boy, and my little girl has me wrapped around her finger.
                      "If I asked people what they wanted, they would have said faster horses." - Henry Ford

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by BLAKE View Post
                        That's almost exactly my situation. I never had a strong desire to have kids, but I knew part of the deal marrying my wife was that a kid was part of the it. Short, easy negotiation said ok, but one kid only (I am an only child and it rocked). She struggled with it a bit when the kid was a toddler because momma hormones said "MORE!" but now that our daughter is almost 10yo, my wife reminds me often how happy she is that we just had the one kiddo.

                        It can be a giant pain in the ass on a regular basis, but I never could have foreseen the joys baked into it as well.

                        Parenthood is both the most difficult and wonderful thing that can happen to you.
                        Yep, almost identical situations. I knew going in to it that I would have to give in and have a kid. She grew up basically as an only child, all of her siblings are older. I grew up with 2 brothers. Both of us come from divorced marriages so money was always tight. She had the benefit of being able to vacation and go on trips with her family, they all lived pretty close together and were close knit. We went to Kansas once a year with mom and Oklahoma once a year with dad. That was vacation for us, a trip, typically a weekend, to see family. We didn't take vacations the money was never there. I went back to school and listened to friends talk about what they did that summer, Disney World, Yellow Stone, Mexico, etc. My brothers and I stayed at home, while mom worked 60 hrs a week to pay the bills and keep food on the table. We ate TV dinners, spaghetti O's and played video games.

                        I want more than that for my kid. I want to be able to go on vacations and do everything he wants to do. I feel like the more kids we have, the chances of that happening are slim.
                        Originally posted by Leah
                        Best balls I've had in my mouth in a while.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by black2002ls View Post
                          I want more than that for my kid. I want to be able to go on vacations and do everything he wants to do. I feel like the more kids we have, the chances of that happening are slim.
                          Taking my then-7yo to Disney World was fucking awesome. I think Universal Studios (largely for Harry Potter) and Legoland is next. It's pricey, but it's not absurdly expensive if you're smart about it. Definitely cheaper/easier with just one kid.

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                          • #14
                            Interesting perspective on the only child thing, guys, thanks.
                            My wife and I are in the opposite boat - my son just turned 4 and we decided a while ago to go full in and try for a 2nd. Having our first was very challenging, so we knew it'd be tough. We tried a few months on our own, then dropped a fortune on IUIs that unfortunately didn't work. We're currently meeting with doctors and seriously contemplating dropping an additional $10k on IVF. I can't give you a concrete reason other than: 1) we really love being parents and want another; and 2) we really want our son to have a sibling. The odds aren't in our favor with the IVF, I'm still on the fence about the whole thing.
                            Originally posted by davbrucas
                            I want to like Slow99 since people I know say he's a good guy, but just about everything he posts is condescending and passive aggressive.

                            Most people I talk to have nothing but good things to say about you, but you sure come across as a condescending prick. Do you have an inferiority complex you've attempted to overcome through overachievement? Or were you fondled as a child?

                            You and slow99 should date. You both have passive aggressiveness down pat.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by slow99 View Post
                              Interesting perspective on the only child thing, guys, thanks.
                              My wife and I are in the opposite boat - my son just turned 4 and we decided a while ago to go full in and try for a 2nd. Having our first was very challenging, so we knew it'd be tough. We tried a few months on our own, then dropped a fortune on IUIs that unfortunately didn't work. We're currently meeting with doctors and seriously contemplating dropping an additional $10k on IVF. I can't give you a concrete reason other than: 1) we really love being parents and want another; and 2) we really want our son to have a sibling. The odds aren't in our favor with the IVF, I'm still on the fence about the whole thing.
                              Screw it, provide twice the life for your first!

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