How do you tell your significant other.....

[BMCSean]

Good luck with whatever you do OP. Sounds like there is a lot of experience and advice chiming in.

We have been married 7 years now and there has been rough times throughout.

I tend to keep track or pay close attention to the ebbs and flows of our relationship. I have come to the conclusion our happiness is closely related to our money situation. It completely stresses both of us out and we take it out on each other. But like most things, that is a cyclical issue.

Also, that red river cycle comes around and every hurtful thing she says in that time period runs off my back.

Pun intended?

[Rick Modena]

You were underage back then!

No shit, what was he like 9 yrs old...

Also, that red river cycle comes around and every hurtful thing she says in that time period runs off my back.

See thats bullshit, its her cycle not yours. She needs to take some pain relief or Pamprin medicine to help her cope. No need to be a flaming bitch when its her cycle, she need to take that up with God. I have never understood that shit, my wife and I have an agreement, she lets me know when its her cycle and I try and not be around and it helps me not talk about certain subjects that could start an argument.

Another thing that has helped our relationship is to not fight about money or kids, but they tend to sometimes involve both unfortunately.

[bcoop]

It's not you, it's me ..

No no. It's definitely you.

[Sean88gt]

Nut up, you made her a promise years ago that you'd stick with her thru thick and thin. There's plenty of other shit to try to spice it up, keep trying. If my marriage fails it won't be because of me not trying.

Edit: unless she's cheating

I get what you're saying, but marriage is tough. I hit 16 years this year, and we've had some really high ups and really low downs. This past summer was the closest we came in a long time to calling it quits. My time is damn near non-existent, as is her's, and we both seem to be on edge. One of the terrible things about law school is that you change, drastically. People that you have known for a long time don't understand you, you begin to do everything at the same level you study, i.e., everything becomes a binge (studying, sleeping, working out, eating, drinking, etc.). Balance seemingly disappears and the world shifts.

On top of that, I'm an asshole, always have been. I couldn't blame my wife if she threw a deuce and walked out, I understand it, if for no other reason than I've been taught to analyse all sides of an argument. She is seriously a saint, but that doesn't keep me from being me. So yes, while we made a commitment, the terms of the deal changed. I hope we survive, but at this point, I can't guarantee it and recognize that at the end of the day, I may become part of a much larger statistic as I chase down what I think would make me happy while potentially pushing away what I know makes me happy.

[Rick Modena]

Well that sucks, Sean. Hopefully it will work out broham. The prize is worth the sacrifice.

[Sean88gt]

Well that sucks, Sean. Hopefully it will work out broham. The prize is worth the sacrifice.

I'm ass deep at this point. I have to finish. Ultimately, I think we'll be fine, I just don't have the time to work on it, which only exacerbates the issues. The moment a semester ends and I can breathe, we tend to balance out really fast, it's just the 15-17 weeks in between that are a dumpster fire.

...And if does leave, I'm taking a job prosecuting traffic tickets in a small jurisdiction making $32,500 a year as a big giant "fuck you". And once finalized, then I'll go make cash

[dsrtuckteezy]

how do you know when someone is in law school?

[Tremor14]

Bang!

[KBScobravert]

Bang!

Where?

[Sean88gt]

how do you know when someone is in law school?

Yeah yeah, but it's relevant to what I was trying to paint. At least it isn't crossfit.

[Cobraman]

how do you know when someone is in law school?

Lol, I meant to post that.

[Tremor14]

Where?

Lmao!!