Friend of mine embezzled about $4000 from my company.

[Labora]

That is rough but atleast you know you tried to do the right thing. May not make writing that money off any easier thou.... Hopefully he doesn't try and do something stupid like retaliate in some way.

[mardyn]

No good deed goes unpunished...

mardyn

[Cobraman]

Yea never stopped ^^

It was a reference/joke to the alcoholics, druggies , and degenerates on here

[BMCSean]

Fuck you!

[kingjason]

I've learned to disassociate with anyone that has been to jail, had a drug problem, alcohol problem, or theft problem. I don't care if you've been clean after 20 years those addictions will ALWAYS pop up and will involve you especially if you are close.

I had a friend of 20 years steal a full bottle of meds from my house. Little did he know I already knew what he was up to and I switched out my Xanax for blood pressure pills that look exactally the same.

He ended up in the hospital because he took around 20 mg of lisonapril. His wife called me and asked what I had in my bottle that they found in his room. He recovered but was arrested for embezzeling from his job. He was an apartment manager, raised peoples rent enough that he could skim around 50 to 100 each month per person he targeted.

I lived at the same complex and was sent a check for 750 for reparations.

Needless to say, let these people die in their own feces.

I agree with this. I have seen many many re offenders. I can smell a rat from a mile away. Had some " family " recently that I made some comments on and got told I was just being fussy. Yeahhhhhh over a two year period the guy burned everyone he was associated with, including his family, who was letting him stay rent free and fucking paying for his college. Towards the end the entire family, even his father from out of state, was wanting me to let him have it. I was like "nope, I got barked at last time I brought it up". He ended up moving back home and still makes shitty remarks on face book. The best one was were he was talking about who his "real family was", five shitbags all piled in a trailer doing odd jobs. I almost went off on him, however I chose to let it go and just watch him burn.

[jluv]

Fuck that. There are a few people in my life that I would help without question with whatever they needed but you have to earn that in my eyes, I have faith in no one.

Now that I think about it, there are a few people I would trust/help without hesitation, but it would still be one of those things where I'm not jeopardizing that much money. As mentioned, I would likely just give them what I felt okay with never getting back. No way to be disappointed that way if they never pay it back. And as someone else mentioned I would probably only get involved into a business venture with someone who is investing and risking as much or more than I am.

Sorry OP, but to pay for this dude's stuff, give him a place to stay, trust him with your vehicles, equipment, and clients... I say this in the most constructive way possible... I hope you learned your lesson. Keep your fucking guard up!

And I agree with calling the law and taking as much action you can against the POS. He obviously hasn't learned his lesson, and will keep fucking nice people over.

[jluv]

I can appreciate that you have experienced situations that make you believe this, but it's simply untrue. There absolutely are people that will never truly change, but there are also those who do permanently change their ways, and never go back to that old behavior. You have to look at how they are living their life today, based on their actions and the people around them, not what they tell you.

See, I agree with this. In fact, it's not an opinion, but a fact that some people can turn their ways around. 20 years FFC? That's silly. If someone fucks up bad and then gets back on track and lives a good life for that long, they may be more trustworthy than someone with no record. Now, fresh out of jail or rehab, be wary. If you judge people based on mistakes they made a decade or more ago, you'll likely miss out on knowing some really cool folks.

[FunFordCobra]

So are you guys saying Jarred will be cool in 20 years? As long as he doesnt put his peepee in any more kiddos? Werd. No?

But felony theft, murder, rape, drug use/possesion/trafficking is ok?

Sure I was a roughian when I was 17-21 who wasn't. But if they are a grown ass men/woman with full mental capacity and commit those crimes, they have no excuse. They are the filth of society.

[Forever_frost]

I've done this repeatedly with my little brother. When he got out of the AF he got on meth and it cost him his house and wife and kids. He stripped my 66 Mustang for parts (I left it to have a new carb to be put on) and I had to tow it home after his house was foreclosed on.

I brought him to my house to detox and got him in the Army. He was other than honorably discharged and I opened my house again. During that time he melted sugar across teh wife's new glass top stove, cut ruts in my yard with his PS truck, used my wife's 4 cylinder car to drag his C1500 out of the mud while we were away, set fire to the yard and asked me to buy him a truck so he could get to work. I did. A Z71 4x4 Suburban. Getting it on the trailer he crushed my fenders and then didn't pay me for the truck after he pulled the engine and sold it 4 times. yes, he sold the same engine 4 times.

Then he asked to ride my motorcycle to work in Whtieright while I was in Wichita Falls. I came home to find it totaled and he didn't have a scratch on him so he probably loaned it out and the rider dropped it at speed. I'd hate to see the rider considering the damage to the bike. Then he asked me to bail him out of jail and get him into school so I started in processing him in the VA and got him enrolled in welding at PJC.

He stopped going to school and collected the GI Bill until they cut that off and moved out of state with his VA inprocessing in the starting phases.

He blames losing his stuff on me because I took it out of my travel trailer I foreclosed on from him and he refused to take his stuff out because he thought I'd give up and give it back. I let his stuff go with the trailer so everything is my fault.

I haven't heard from him in 6 months until a few weeks ago when he wanted me to write his GI Bill appeal request because they denied it due to bad grades and lack of attendance and to pull strings in Springfield, Il to get him fast tracked into the Va. I dont' have strings up there. Without him in Texas though, my blood pressure has dropped and I'm much more peaceful.

[Big A]

So are you guys saying Jarred will be cool in 20 years? As long as he doesnt put his peepee in any more kiddos? Werd. No?

But felony theft, murder, rape, drug use/possesion/trafficking is ok?

Sure I was a roughian when I was 17-21 who wasn't. But if they are a grown ass men/woman with full mental capacity and commit those crimes, they have no excuse. They are the filth of society.

I'm not saying that anyone specifically will be cool in 20 years, just that some people do turn their life and priorities around, and I personally see it quite often. You are basing your view on a relatively narrow life experience, and are judging the majority based on the few people that you know.

There are sick people in the world, I'm not denying that, but there are also decent people that stray off their life's path in an downward spiral (usually due to drugs or alcohol), that snap out of it at some point, and they spend the rest of their lives climbing up, out, and away from the old them.

[jluv]

So are you guys saying Jarred will be cool in 20 years? As long as he doesnt put his peepee in any more kiddos? Werd. No?

But felony theft, murder, rape, drug use/possesion/trafficking is ok?

Sure I was a roughian when I was 17-21 who wasn't. But if they are a grown ass men/woman with full mental capacity and commit those crimes, they have no excuse. They are the filth of society.

Whoa whoa whoa... Lol.

First you said "Anyone that has been to jail, had a drug problem, alcohol problem, or theft problem". Now you're talking about murder, rape, and child abuse.

Ridiculous.

[line-em-up]

I've done this repeatedly with my little brother. When he got out of the AF he got on meth and it cost him his house and wife and kids. He stripped my 66 Mustang for parts (I left it to have a new carb to be put on) and I had to tow it home after his house was foreclosed on.

I brought him to my house to detox and got him in the Army. He was other than honorably discharged and I opened my house again. During that time he melted sugar across teh wife's new glass top stove, cut ruts in my yard with his PS truck, used my wife's 4 cylinder car to drag his C1500 out of the mud while we were away, set fire to the yard and asked me to buy him a truck so he could get to work. I did. A Z71 4x4 Suburban. Getting it on the trailer he crushed my fenders and then didn't pay me for the truck after he pulled the engine and sold it 4 times. yes, he sold the same engine 4 times.

Then he asked to ride my motorcycle to work in Whtieright while I was in Wichita Falls. I came home to find it totaled and he didn't have a scratch on him so he probably loaned it out and the rider dropped it at speed. I'd hate to see the rider considering the damage to the bike. Then he asked me to bail him out of jail and get him into school so I started in processing him in the VA and got him enrolled in welding at PJC.

He stopped going to school and collected the GI Bill until they cut that off and moved out of state with his VA inprocessing in the starting phases.

He blames losing his stuff on me because I took it out of my travel trailer I foreclosed on from him and he refused to take his stuff out because he thought I'd give up and give it back. I let his stuff go with the trailer so everything is my fault.

I haven't heard from him in 6 months until a few weeks ago when he wanted me to write his GI Bill appeal request because they denied it due to bad grades and lack of attendance and to pull strings in Springfield, Il to get him fast tracked into the Va. I dont' have strings up there. Without him in Texas though, my blood pressure has dropped and I'm much more peaceful.

Sounds like my relationship with my brother. No matter what I have done to help him over the last 40 years, he only seems to remember the negative things (some real, some delusional). I cut off communication with him about 3 years ago.

[slowturbocar]

Sounds like a drug addict, stay away from him and the best thing that can happen is he makes his way back to jail. Fuck me once.....thats enough for me.

[FunFordCobra]

Whoa whoa whoa... Lol.

First you said "Anyone that has been to jail, had a drug problem, alcohol problem, or theft problem". Now you're talking about murder, rape, and child abuse.

Ridiculous.

You're right my bad, I kinda went extreme there. I'd have no prob with some with petty misdemeanor issues but felony status, well once you screwed the pooch.

OPs friend committed a felony so that's what I was steering towards.

[Forever_frost]

Sounds like my relationship with my brother. No matter what I have done to help him over the last 40 years, he only seems to remember the negative things (some real, some delusional). I cut off communication with him about 3 years ago.

I have noticed it's helped my PTSD. My marriage was on the brink of dissolution because I was pulling money from the family budget to get him out of jail over and over, took him food and gas money no matter where he was, got up at 3 am to drive to Paris to take him a heater, drove him to Whitewright a dozen times in my V10 truck because he had to take his tools with him and even, high on Ambien because I took it before noticing that he hadn't come home, I drove from my house to Paris and back, an hour round trip because he had decided to sneak off and get laid and not tell me where he was.

Nope, none of that counts.