Friend of mine embezzled about $4000 from my company.

[Big A]

Sucks when the heart gets involved in business, makes for making some blind decisions occasionally. We always want to see the best on people, and some are really good at taking advantage of that.

I'd never do business with someone that wasn't investing half and assuming half the risk. He was more of a really shitty employee, that gnawed off the hand that was feeding him. He'll get greedy again, and it will catch up with him. If he's willing to bilk a friend out of $4k, the sky is the limit with strangers, and and hopefully it'll land him back in jail, if not prison.

[D. Lil]

I think the moral of the story is don't trust a convict to run your business. LOL

[46Tbird]

I guess I am more of an asshole than I ever thought.

From the very beginning of your story, it was clear to me that you were setting yourself up to get fucked over bad. I know you were trying to be helpful, but to me, I couldn't imagine any other outcome, except maybe something worse than what actually happened.

And then to read that some of you others have been screwed over for money like that... I can't picture any situation where I would make that kind of money potentially vulnerable like that. I don't care if it's a close friend or family member.

I guess maybe because I really didn't get any help or handouts as a young adult, and had to bust my ass to make it, I firmly believe in the theory that others need to get their own and find their own way. I'll donate money to causes and try to be generous with gifts for loved ones and stuff like that, but I don't loan money to anyone and I don't give anyone the chance to get over on me. No one helped me, and I went through some really hard shit, but I truly believe it made me better in the end. I have a close relative who has been a mooch her whole adult life, and at 32 years old, she still can't get her shit straight to this day, and just depends on people's handouts to keep her propped up. She knows not to ask for anything from me, and instead continues to take and take from other family members who don't have anything to spare. And heck, I blame them for giving in. They have enabled that behavior.

If a close friend or family member needs someone to talk to, a couch to crash on for a night or two, or something like that, I'll help. Heck, I might GIVE them a little cash to help them out, especially if they don't ask for it, but it's not a loan and I don't expect it back, AND they understand not to come back asking for more.

As I type that, I realize it does make me sound like a cold-hearted asshole, but I'm not changing my ways.

Agreed 1000%. Except I wouldn't let them crash on the couch, lmao.

[ELVIS]

Agreed 1000%. Except I wouldn't let them crash on the couch, lmao.

im with Jared and Danny. if my dumbass can "successfully" navigate life, everyone else should be able to figure out whats gonna work for them.


god bless.

[FunFordCobra]

I've learned to disassociate with anyone that has been to jail, had a drug problem, alcohol problem, or theft problem. I don't care if you've been clean after 20 years those addictions will ALWAYS pop up and will involve you especially if you are close.

I had a friend of 20 years steal a full bottle of meds from my house. Little did he know I already knew what he was up to and I switched out my Xanax for blood pressure pills that look exactally the same.

He ended up in the hospital because he took around 20 mg of lisonapril. His wife called me and asked what I had in my bottle that they found in his room. He recovered but was arrested for embezzeling from his job. He was an apartment manager, raised peoples rent enough that he could skim around 50 to 100 each month per person he targeted.

I lived at the same complex and was sent a check for 750 for reparations.

Needless to say, let these people die in their own feces.

[Baron Von Crowder]

I guess I am more of an asshole than I ever thought.

From the very beginning of your story, it was clear to me that you were setting yourself up to get fucked over bad. I know you were trying to be helpful, but to me, I couldn't imagine any other outcome, except maybe something worse than what actually happened.

And then to read that some of you others have been screwed over for money like that... I can't picture any situation where I would make that kind of money potentially vulnerable like that. I don't care if it's a close friend or family member.

I guess maybe because I really didn't get any help or handouts as a young adult, and had to bust my ass to make it, I firmly believe in the theory that others need to get their own and find their own way. I'll donate money to causes and try to be generous with gifts for loved ones and stuff like that, but I don't loan money to anyone and I don't give anyone the chance to get over on me. No one helped me, and I went through some really hard shit, but I truly believe it made me better in the end. I have a close relative who has been a mooch her whole adult life, and at 32 years old, she still can't get her shit straight to this day, and just depends on people's handouts to keep her propped up. She knows not to ask for anything from me, and instead continues to take and take from other family members who don't have anything to spare. And heck, I blame them for giving in. They have enabled that behavior.

If a close friend or family member needs someone to talk to, a couch to crash on for a night or two, or something like that, I'll help. Heck, I might GIVE them a little cash to help them out, especially if they don't ask for it, but it's not a loan and I don't expect it back, AND they understand not to come back asking for more.

As I type that, I realize it does make me sound like a cold-hearted asshole, but I'm not changing my ways.

Im with you.

[CJ-95GT]

everyone else should be able to figure out whats gonna work for them.

They have as career free loaders and scum. They keep doing stupid shit cause nobody makes them pay the consequences for their actions.

O/P, you need to bust your "former" friend in the mouth the next time you see him.

[Big A]

I've learned to disassociate with anyone that has been to jail, had a drug problem, alcohol problem, or theft problem. I don't care if you've been clean after 20 years those addictions will ALWAYS pop up and will involve you especially if you are close.

I can appreciate that you have experienced situations that make you believe this, but it's simply untrue. There absolutely are people that will never truly change, but there are also those who do permanently change their ways, and never go back to that old behavior. You have to look at how they are living their life today, based on their actions and the people around them, not what they tell you.

[inline 6]

I always say "charity starts right here", as I point to myself.

[FunFordCobra]

I can appreciate that you have experienced situations that make you believe this, but it's simply untrue. There absolutely are people that will never truly change, but there are also those who do permanently change their ways, and never go back to that old behavior. You have to look at how they are living their life today, based on their actions and the people around them, not what they tell you.

Yea I hear ya but just through experience, this is how I live now. Some people change, but the majority do not. The minority looses because of the majority that they were apart of.

I do agree some people can change, but I'm not one to find out. Had enough drama to last me to 300.

[Cobraman]

I've learned to disassociate with anyone that has been to jail, had a drug problem, alcohol problem, or theft problem.

I see you still post here

[90MarkVII]

It is bad enough that there are thieves that break into your vehicle or home and steal from you.
This is worse, in my opinion. THIS thief accepted the help of one of the few people in the world that would consider helping him, then stole from him.

I say call the Law on him.

[Frank]

Dang, here I am sweating it over $400 I loaned someone the other day. I still think I did the right thing and the evidence I have I believe the guy will do the right thing, but I think his situation will get worse before he can meet the terms.

[FunFordCobra]

I see you still post here

Yea never stopped ^^

[lowthreeohz]

Fuck that. There are a few people in my life that I would help without question with whatever they needed but you have to earn that in my eyes, I have faith in no one.