Anyone have their Ex increase the child support on you?

[petyweestraw]

Bring anything you can prove you've paid for. Also look up father's for equal rights. This is all they deal with. I hired them years ago and she can't take my son outside of her county without me knowing about it first.

They saved me quite a bit of money in the long run. Hopefully they are still around and can help you. Good luck my friend.

[mikeb]

Sounds like with your son hitting 16 she knows her time is running short and she wants more from you before the gravy train stops altogether. Your son will never see a dime of any extra money you are forced to pay so lawyer up and keep it from happening.

[AnthonyS]

The problem with the child support laws is they are set up to punish the lowest common denominator or the "deadbeat" dad. Well my son lives with me and I pay for everything.... and guess what I still pay. Yes I still pay child support to my ex. If that sounds too expensive just wait until you get the lawyers involved.

[Denny]

The problem with the child support laws is they are set up to punish the lowest common denominator or the "deadbeat" dad. Well my son lives with me and I pay for everything.... and guess what I still pay. Yes I still pay child support to my ex. If that sounds too expensive just wait until you get the lawyers involved.

$ssssssucker!

[03mustangdude]

Glad I don't have kids with any of the exes

[Doug Hatton]

With all due respect, and I mean that....with ALL DUE RESPECT.... are you FUCKING RETARDED???

The problem with the child support laws is they are set up to punish the lowest common denominator or the "deadbeat" dad. Well my son lives with me and I pay for everything.... and guess what I still pay. Yes I still pay child support to my ex. If that sounds too expensive just wait until you get the lawyers involved.

[SSMAN]

Sounds like with your son hitting 16 she knows her time is running short and she wants more from you before the gravy train stops altogether. Your son will never see a dime of any extra money you are forced to pay so lawyer up and keep it from happening.

U hit the nail on the head

[SSMAN]

The problem with the child support laws is they are set up to punish the lowest common denominator or the "deadbeat" dad. Well my son lives with me and I pay for everything.... and guess what I still pay. Yes I still pay child support to my ex. If that sounds too expensive just wait until you get the lawyers involved.

He has actually lived with me about half the time. I agree on the keep paying. Women have way too much power in cases like this

[SSMAN]

Bring anything you can prove you've paid for. Also look up father's for equal rights. This is all they deal with. I hired them years ago and she can't take my son outside of her county without me knowing about it first.

They saved me quite a bit of money in the long run. Hopefully they are still around and can help you. Good luck my friend.

Thanks, will go see FER Thursday. Thank u for your input. I appreciate it a lot my friend

[bcoop]

He has actually lived with me about half the time. I agree on the keep paying. Women have way too much power in cases like this

If he lives with you half the time, why would you not prove that, and have child support thrown out all together? If you can prove it, there's no reason a judge shouldn't agree to 50/50 custody on paper, and if you've got the kid half the time there is no reason to pay ANY support outside of maybe his health insurance. I'd hire an attorney out of Ft Worth (don't waste your time on the podunks), quickly, and I'd go for her fucking throat. She'll be sorry she ever brought it up.



As for AnthonyS paying a mother that the child doesn't live with... You're either far behind in child support, or stupid. So which is it?


I hope everyone lets this be a lesson. No, your situation is not different. No, your soon to be ex wife is not different. It doesn't matter how "amicable" you are/were/want to be. When money is involved, all bets are off. She will get ugly. She will be vindictive. She will ALWAYS want more money. There is no satisfying that. Just say no to giving your ex wife one red cent over what the judge orders. She will see it as weakness and bleed you dry no matter what you agreed upon in the divorce. A "cash settlement" only proves to her that she can do it again in the future. And she will. I guaranfuckingteeit.


EDIT: Father's for Equal Rights is great. I've learned a shitload from them. Beware, however, you should have joined that back when you got your divorce. Depending on how she is going about requesting this increase in child support, there may not be enough time to go through that deal and learn what you need to. Which is why I recommended hiring an attorney now.

[SSMAN]

Bcoop, no real way to prove it. She would fight it an lawyer fees would be high. This would also not be in my sons best interest. He loves her unconditionally. I dont mess with unconditional love. Just my thing

Most lawyers are not worth a plug nickel. So I would rather spend that money on my son. I am just batshit crazy that way

[bcoop]

Bcoop, no real way to prove it. She would fight it an lawyer fees would be high. This would also not be in my sons best interest. He loves her unconditionally. I dont mess with unconditional love. Just my thing

Most lawyers are not worth a plug nickel. So I would rather spend that money on my son. I am just batshit crazy that way

Unless you're a drunk, rageaholic, completely irresponsible, or drug addict, the child spending equal time with you and his mother is absolutely in his best interest. I don't see you as being any of those things. I'd even say at his current age it's in his best interest to spend more time with his father than with his mother.


You don't have to mess with unconditional love, and I'm not telling you to. What you do to her in court doesn't need to be a subject between you and him. I see what you're getting at, I just completely disagree with it. There is zero room for compassion or a soft heart in these matters. As you've learned first hand, she will bend you over and fuck you in the ass at every hint of an opportunity. You're selling yourself short by not responding with the same.

Family lawyers are far different than other lawyers, so don't let that general opinion cloud your judgement. You asked for help, I'm just offering up what I would do if I were in your shoes. Of course, I wouldn't have "settled" with her either. Just look where all that goodwill and cash got you. I'm not saying you should skate the financial responsibility either, but judging solely on what's been posted here, you do more than your fair share. I just know what my move would be.

[Denny]

More people passionatly devote so much to fighting over money, rather than fighting for their kids.

[bcoop]

More people passionatly devote so much to fighting over money, rather than fighting for their kids.

Most women are only interested in the pay check and could give a fuck less about the kid.

[asphaltjunkie]

You guys are slipping.


Have you tried hitting her?