My dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer

[yellowstang]

Wow, that's fucked up, sorry to hear that. Stay strong for your Mom, and take care of her.

[Juiced4v]

Yeah I agree stay strong and be there for your fam! Sorry to hear about your pops!

[Sean88gt]

That sucks man. Mortality does weird shit to people's heads.

[BlackGT]

Is your dads name Walter by chance?

Shitty situation, but sounds like you are handling things the correct way. Keep your head up and, as hard as it may be, try to stay positive!

[GhostTX]

Dang! I'm sorry.

My dad had it a few years back and beat the thing. Still showing negative on his test results. Keep the faith! Times like this, I like the old saying... "And this too, shall pass."

[BradM]

So sorry to hear this. Be there for your mom. Hopefully he will come around to his senses. Do you have any siblings?

[46Tbird]

I'm sorry to hear about your dad's cancer diagnosis and how he's reacting. Your dad is free to do as he wishes and I can kind of understand where he's coming from. I also hate being a drag on other people. But this is the fight of his life, literally, and it's a shame he would rather be alone than surrounded by his loved ones.


Take care of your mom, she needs it. And feel free to vent to us, because YOU need it.

On the bright side, you now know that you are at risk for cancer. Keep on top of it with regular screenings.

[EW]

Kind of messed up that your aunt is helping him hide from his wife and son.

[scootro]

So sorry to hear this. Be there for your mom. Hopefully he will come around to his senses. Do you have any siblings?

nope just me

[inline 6]

Cancer scares the shit out of me.

[Sleeper]

How bad of a alchaholic is he? If he is like my old man he will drink him self to death.

It sucks he is just up and out. If its terminal hospice will come take care of him for free. They did my grandmother. Hopefully he will want to spend his last few months with his family. People do stange things when they find out they are going to die.

If he was a good father be a good son.

[mr tinfoil hat]

That's horrible, my heart goes out to you.

I lost my father to prostate cancer 16 years ago and it's a horrible way to die. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Just remeber everyone has different ways of dealing with being told they're going to die. My father went through the full spectrum of emotions when i told him he was going to die. Its very hard to watch that happen to someone you love, and even harder when it's a parent.

Keep your chin up and just know that you're doing everything in your power to help him while helping your mother at the same time.

[snacksnack]

Had an aunt do this a couple years ago. Divorced/separated from her husband of 20 or more years and went and got a boyfriend for her last few months.

[JC316]

Sorry to hear. That sucks royally. This might not be popular with you, but I have a serious illness, so I've been on you dads side of things.

I was about to go nuts with having to reassure and comfort everyone around me. Every time I made a funny face, I had people all over me asking if I'm ok. It was suffocating to say the least and I wasn't even close to terminal. Not condoning what he did, but I can definitely understand why.

[bcoop]

That is terrible to hear. I'd try not to be too hard on him. I don't want to be a burden on my family when the time comes. I don't want them to see me waste away. I want them to have good memories, rather than memories filled with sickness, doctors, me shitting myself, or whatever the case may be.

I lost my grandfather to prostate cancer several years ago. At the time, he and I were much closer than I'd ever been with my father. I can't count the number of times I drove up to see him (3.5 hours each way), and turned around less than a mile from his house. I didn't want to remember him that way. We talked on the phone often. He completely understood, and there towards the end, told me he felt like like a circus freak on display. He loved having his family around, but he was only allowing that for them, as he had grown tired of all the people in the house, 24/7.

In an effort to lighten your spirits, I've got a funny story about my grandfather's diagnosis. It was a HUGE deal when he was diagnosed. But not because he had cancer. At 76, he and my grandmother were still very sexually active. Like, 4-5x a week. So having his prostate removed was a decision that took some serious time and discussion. I thought it was so gross, lmao. Who really ever wants or needs to hear that their grandparents are still getting it on? hahahaha