Legal question regarding divorce/money

[Sleeper]

stay away. As far away as you can.

[talisman]

Some people don't want to be helped.

[BlackGT]

If you must get involved, I don't think there is much you can do unless she gives you power of attorney over her assets. A judge may award you power of attorney based on her situation, but they may not and it would all require an attorney and money...

Best of luck to you!

[sc281]

Stay out of it. Even with it being your mom. She has to sink or swim on her own. Judging by her age, she has probably been bailed out of her bad decisions her entire life, and isn't likely to change without the cold reality of rock bottom slapping her in the face. Hell, maybe not even then.

Best you can do is keep her in your prayers and let her and God sort it out.

If my assumption is incorrect, apologies. I went through this with my mom as well, with alcoholism on top of it, and she never changed, right on til then end.

[Sean88gt]

Sounds like a woman that knows how to earn $14, the hard way.

[DON SVO]

Stay out of it. Even with it being your mom. She has to sink or swim on her own. Judging by her age, she has probably been bailed out of her bad decisions her entire life, and isn't likely to change without the cold reality of rock bottom slapping her in the face. Hell, maybe not even then.

My mom reached the rock bottom of drinking (became an alcoholic at 52) and smoking cigarettes with advanced COPD (literally smoking until the day she died) by have a pulmonary embolism and dying on the floor of her room, alone. Nothing I did to help would stop her. Nothing.

To the OP, stay the fuck out of it. I lost years of my life to the stress that 3 year long ordeal caused me, trying to help every goddamn step of the way, only to have it all thrown back at me.

[FastFox]

Taking $$ for someone else

Cooter called it 100% correctly. "Stay Out Of It"

[Gear_Jammer]

Stay out of it. Even with it being your mom. She has to sink or swim on her own. Judging by her age, she has probably been bailed out of her bad decisions her entire life, and isn't likely to change without the cold reality of rock bottom slapping her in the face. Hell, maybe not even then.

Best you can do is keep her in your prayers and let her and God sort it out.

You took the works right out of my mouth.

There isn't anything you can do for her, and even if she agreed to let you get the money and give her an allowance, you'd just be enabling her such that she wouldn't get better. Doing something like that would only delay the inevitable. I saw the same thing happen with the wife of a family my family was very close to growing up. She became a bad alcoholic in her 40's, which lead to a divorce, a settlement in the divorce whereby she received several fairly sizable payments which lead her down a very dark path. By the time the money was gone she went from being your average everyday stay at home mom to a broke divorced drunk that had been in and out of mental hospitals, rehabs and jail countless times, calling my parents and begging for money or to get her out of jail and moving back in with her elderly mother. Her sons did everything they could to try and help her and keep her from further ruining her life to the point to where they themselves began having serious mental and physical problems from all of the stress and strain it caused. Whether she was a good mom or a bad mom, I know it's hard to see her fail, but it's something you have to do for both her health and well-being and yours.

[HECDOGGIE]

Stay out of it and let the chips fall where they may. NO matter what you do, when the money runs out, its your fault. If you get invovled , you stay invovled.

Your mom is in the situation because she wants to be. Remember that. If she wants or needs help, she will ask you .

Just trying to be blunt and offer advice..... I can relate.

Good luck.

[sc281]

Stay out of it and let the chips fall where they may. NO matter what you do, when the money runs out, its your fault. If you get invovled , you stay invovled.

Your mom is in the situation because she wants to be. Remember that. If she wants or needs help, she will ask you .

Just trying to be blunt and offer advice..... I can relate.

Good luck.

Jeez, it looks like we've all been down this road.

Bright side: At least I can now say my family was ordinary. Lol!!

[93LXHORSE]

Yep, just let her bottom out. Sometimes an influx of money helps that process along, one way or another.

If you get involved with the money, you'll just have to listen to every con trick in the book on a regular basis with her asking you for it. It would cause you more pain than just stepping away from it.

I do hope something happens to stop her in her tracks. There is a way out of all of this when one has had enough pain. I happen to know first hand.

We can and do recover from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body.

[mstng86]

So would you consider your toes getting amputated rock bottom?

[War Machine]

how much money?
what kind of drugs does she do?
what does she look like?

send me a pm

[BradM]

So would you consider your toes getting amputated rock bottom?

Only if she does. It's not about your idea of rock bottom.

[mstng86]

Yea. Don't know what her mental attitude is at the moment. I didn't know she was there until my ex stepdad told me.