For the married couples...a question for the men

[bcoop]

I brought my wife over to my apartment after our first date and we fucked for hours.

After completion she got up, went to the kitchen, and made my a grilled cheese sandwich.

To this day she will still ask if I want a sandwich even after a quicky. Probably why we are both fat.

That's a woman with her priorities in order.

[Big A]

Funny to pop on this morning and see this thread, after bringing Tanya to TX for the week to spend time with my family, I was wondering this very thing. I have yet to see even an inkling in her that she isn't marriage material, and she got along with the fam great.

I don't subscribe to the "she's the one" mentality anymore, but everything is still firing on all 8 cylinders between us, so I'm thinking I might be looking at rings in a couple more months.

[slow99]

We dated 16 months before getting engaged, then were engaged for 13 months before getting married.

[downshift_me]

That's a woman with her priorities in order.

All I could think of was Bad Santa, lol.

[talisman]

Nah man not that one HAHAHAHA.

Eh, not really a rush but I just feel it and ready to roll. I honestly don't know how to explain it. Sounds gay but it is what it is

Just because "you're ready" doesn't mean you have to do it RIGHT NOW. Being ready just means you're, dare I say, maturing a bit and looking at being open to that commitment, which is good. It is still no reason to rush. Stretch your legs. Travel with her some. You spend the first year getting to know the person she wants you to know. You spend the second year getting to know the real her. Trust me on this shit, bro.

I brought my wife over to my apartment after our first date and we fucked for hours.

After completion she got up, went to the kitchen, and made my a grilled cheese sandwich.

To this day she will still ask if I want a sandwich even after a quicky. Probably why we are both fat.

lmfao. That's awesome.

Funny to pop on this morning and see this thread, after bringing Tanya to TX for the week to spend time with my family, I was wondering this very thing. I have yet to see even an inkling in her that she isn't marriage material, and she got along with the fam great.

I don't subscribe to the "she's the one" mentality anymore, but everything is still firing on all 8 cylinders between us, so I'm thinking I might be looking at rings in a couple more months.

I thought you were going to make the Christmas Party?

[Big A]

I thought you were going to make the Christmas Party?

I wanted to, but the family had other plans.

[talisman]

I wanted to, but the family had other plans.

You realize you can't ask her to marry you before.. ahem... "We" meet her, correct?

[Big A]

You realize you can't ask her to marry you before.. ahem... "We" meet her, correct?

lol Well, damn, I guess I'll have to make it a lengthy engagement to give "you" a chance to talk me out of it, I don't know that we'll make it out that way in 2014.

[TxFordGirl]

Go to sleep, Hugo, before you do something you regret!

This made me laugh.

[BP]

I knew my wife for 6 months or so before I really started trying to date her. She was a good person in a bad situation, not of her doing and I managed to help her get out of it. We "officially" dated for 5 months before I popped the question but she had a very good idea it was going to happen, seeing as how she picked out the ring a few days before. The wedding was less than a month later.

[idrivea4banger]

It looks like there's more positive comments regarding marriage than the negative side.

[chuckacosta]

I honestly thought that the girl that I dated for over 2 years and broke up with last month was "the one". But as luck, stubbornness, and just plain non communication (mostly on my part) would have it we ended up in splitsville. It's hard to say really. I'd have to agree though that if you can be together without being at each others throats and it just "works" then why the hell not?

[bcoop]

It looks like there's more positive comments regarding marriage than the negative side.

It is what you make of it. I became unhappy for a variety of reasons, and flat out gave up.


You need to do your due diligence. You don't know someone after 6 months. You don't really know them after a year, either. Men have everything to lose and nothing to gain (financially) from a marriage. You need to separate your feelings from it and look at from a business perspective. What could you lose? Are you willing to risk that on a 50/50 chance of this marriage working out? How about losing half of what you have, and 20-25% of your future income if y'all have kids?

I'd also take a lot of time to think about what it is that you hope to get out of it. People have incredibly unreal expectations. And I would NEVER even consider marrying someone who is relentlessly pushing for a marriage, ring, etc. Women do this when they become unhappy, and foolishly think a ring is going to make things better. They don't. Ever. And that's just the beginning. That ring then becomes a wedding. Then a kid. Then multiple kids. It's the most illogical shit I've ever heard. A buddy of mine is dealing with this right now. Blows my mind. She is very bold and outspoken about it, has no problem bringing it up in front of anyone. She's also the same way about kids, despite his complete lack of desire to have kids, ever. I would have told her to pack her shit the first time she pulled something like that.

[Rreemo]

We were together 8 years before we got married. I like to be DAMNED sure.

[Rick Modena]

Dude, RUUUUUNNNNN!!!!!!!