I've never been very good at telling my wife how I really feel....

[Ruffdaddy]

Think about the quality of life for the second kiddo as well. Will the older sister and mom hold any resentment at all simce they both don't want it?

[samuel642000]

My youngest brother is 12 yrs younger than I am, we are pretty close. Even though I have a child of my own and am not around as often as I once was, he still is a big part of my life. Maybe even more so than my siblings closer to me in age.

[downshift_me]

My brother and I are 13 years apart and when my mom told him she was having another he had the same response as your kiddo. He went as far to tell my mom I was asian and the wrong baby so she needed to take me back. However, I won that jerk over and we are best friends. He is absolutely and wholeheartedly my best friend. We'd do anything for each other and we're always there whether we agree with the other's decisions or not. He's 37 and I'm 24 and we've been thick as thieves all 24 years.

However, this is something you both have to want or meet in the middle on somehow. I know first hand this can take a toll on one's emotional well being as well as a relationship so I'd flat out sit her down and have a heart to heart stat.

[Denny]

Aaron, put aside your desire for another one until EVERYONE in the house wants him/her around. Want all you want, plead your case, but only advance with your wife agreeing with you, not giving in.

[dsrtuckteezy]

how much does it cost to raise a kid per year? just looking for a general figure

[slow99]

how much does it cost to raise a kid per year? just looking for a general figure

Feels like a couple hundred grand.

[JC316]

I agree, but his kids will be too far apart to even grow up together. The oldest will gone to college by the time the youngest is of any age. My bro and I are 9 years apart and we are not that close because of that in my opinion.

My sister and I are 6 years apart and we are very close. Always have been.

[dsrtuckteezy]

Feels like a couple hundred grand.

hah. sounds like a lot of beer money

[slow99]

hah. sounds like a lot of beer money

Ha, I actually have an anecdotal number but it's severely skewed due to the San Francisco factor. Just taking a half-buzzed shot in the dark, I'd say $200 a month plus daycare (obviously the biggest factor and variable). A thousand a month for daycare (assuming infant) would put you at roughly $14,400 a year or roughly $18,000 tax effected.

[KBScobravert]

I am 37 and my wife is 33 and together we have a daughter that just turned One 2 weeks ago. I would like another and so would she (a little more than me). It scares the shit out of me to think of being 50 to a 14 year old as it is.

Ha, I actually have an anecdotal number but it's severely skewed due to the San Francisco factor. Just taking a half-buzzed shot in the dark, I'd say $200 a month plus daycare (obviously the biggest factor and variable). A thousand a month for daycare (assuming infant) would put you at roughly $14,400 a year or roughly $18,000 tax effected.

I thank my mother in law every chance i get for retiring to stay at home with our daughter while I am away and my wife is at work.

[dsrtuckteezy]

i am 24 and my sister is 28. our parents are 51 & 52. it would be fucking weird if they were ten years older.

[idrivea4banger]

I'd like to have another kid because i missed out on a lot of things with my son. Don't know if it will ever happen though. Im only 32 but its been in the back of my mind ever since my nephew went back to his mom's. I miss being there for him and doing all of the caretaking. Plus the one I have right now is close to getting punched in the throat so I need a distraction.

[samuel642000]

I'd like to have another kid because i missed out on a lot of things with my son. Don't know if it will ever happen though. Im only 32 but its been in the back of my mind ever since my nephew went back to his mom's. I miss being there for him and doing all of the caretaking. Plus the one I have right now is close to getting punched in the throat so I need a distraction.

I need a son, that made me laugh out loud as my daughter sits on my lap watching Barney. She hopefully never needs a punch to the throat, or I'll be sending her to her momma for that.

[Cobraman]

Thanks for all of the replies, guys. It gives me something to think about and how I can approach talking to her about it.

And LOL @ the last reply asking for pics. A lot of the guys posting in here have met my wife, so they already know what she looks like. ;-)

at least he didn't ask for pics of daughter

The last guy almost got his legs broken IIRC

[bcoop]

Ha, I actually have an anecdotal number but it's severely skewed due to the San Francisco factor. Just taking a half-buzzed shot in the dark, I'd say $200 a month plus daycare (obviously the biggest factor and variable). A thousand a month for daycare (assuming infant) would put you at roughly $14,400 a year or roughly $18,000 tax effected.

Ha! I think your number is way low. Just wait til the kid gets older.