Bad news today

[talisman]

Man, fuck cancer!

For real. Sorry about your father, Frost.

[quikag]

My wife is battling cancer, so I can understand. I keep telling my Dad to lose weight and take care of himself. He's just over 3 bills and it's sad to see his will power and energy down when he used to be a 160lb Marine Corps fighter pilot a few decades ago. I don't know what I would do if something happened to him as he's honestly my best friend and with everything I'm dealing with on my wife.

What is your Dad's first name, Jim? We would like to include him in our prayer list. We will be praying for you, your Dad, and your family. Makes it especially hard around Thanksgiving.

[SS Junk]

Sometimes that emotional numbness is a good thing but it feels like something is seriously broken inside.

I don't think anything is broken. It could be explained as a delayed reaction to something as difficult to deal with as this. Don't fight it or try to figure it out or become guilty because you aren't sharing the same kind of emotions as others. There is nothing wrong with what you are experiencing. Prayers are with you and yours.

[Back N Black]

I'm with Denny, Fuck Cancer!

It killed my Grandmother in 86, my Grandfather few years back and has damn near got my mom twice.

Prayers go out for you, your dad and the whole family dude. Don't let him give up, just keep on keeping on!

[davbrucas]

I'm sorry bud...metastatic renal cell carcinoma carries a grim prognosis. Median survival is around a year and 90% do not live 2yrs after diagnosis. I hope he beats the odds. PM me if you have any questions that arent answered by his doctors.

[Forever_frost]

This man, during his youth, worked at Red River Army Depot putting primers in the artillery shells and has told me stories of every so often feeling the ground shake because one of them went off down the line. He's been married to my mom for 50 plus years and the man can build anything. If he needs a tool that doesn't exist, he stops, breaks out his welder and creates it. At 75 he still keeps the retaining wall of his stock tank strong and tinkers on his diesel tractor and shoots at 'those damned turtles' that are eating his catfish.

[Forever_frost]

I'm sorry bud...metastatic renal cell carcinoma carries a grim prognosis. Median survival is around a year and 90% do not live 2yrs after diagnosis. I hope he beats the odds. PM me if you have any questions that arent answered by his doctors.

Thanks Doc.

[Leah]

So sorry to hear about this. My father passed from a rare form (he was the 6th case in the history of medicine to have his kind) of cancer. It was a 5 year struggle before he lost the battle so we've been through it all. PM me if you feel it would help, but we're sending our thoughts.

[jyro]

For the shit you've been through, you really don't need this but you CAN handle it. Glad you vented to us. Everybody needs to sometimes. Prayers for you and your family for a cure for your dad and peace with whatever the outcome is. Sometimes it's a blessing to know the future instead of dying suddenly.

[The King]

A man the caliber of your dad has lived his life according to his terms and will pass according to his terms when his time comes. Prayers sent for both you and him in the meantime.

[Forever_frost]

I got the call that my dad has, at most, days left and not many of those. Yesterday they were saying hours so the old man is still beating the odds. He's been in a hospital bed since 2 weeks ago and on oxygen since last week. He's slept for the last 2 days straight and more or less unresponsive with his morphine upped from 15mg twice a day to 30 to 60 twice a day currently with 15mg doses given as he needs them.

He hasn't been eating and has lost a lot of weight. I went out and bought my suit for the funeral today and I hate to admit it but I'm starting to actually feel this. I keep shutting off avenues of thought that go down that route and will do so until my mission is over but I've repaired (mostly) the motorcycle my brother wrecked, reworked my garden, cut my pasture, done home repairs and hit everything I can think of to stay busy and my research papers for class have been on average 2-3 weeks early.

What would be nice is to get seriously fucked up. I have the medication, booze and what have you here to do it epically for a few days but I don't have the luxury. I have two sons, school and all of the preparations to keep balanced. Fortunately, I paid for the funeral and casket a couple of months ago so that's one less worry and the Army will pay for his headstone.

You know what? I didn't even know he served in the Army until all of this. He never spoke of it and said he didn't because he never served during war time and all he did was put the 155 shells together at Red River Army Depot. It puts a lump in my throat to hear him call me a hero, or did. He hasn't really said anything to anyone who was in the room in days, just halucinate and whisper to people and things that weren't there.

My mom is a wreck but I've been there every week with dinner for her so she doesn't have to worry about cooking but since he hasn't been eating, she's been sticking to sandwiches because "what's the point in cooking if it's just me?" They've been married 50 something years.

I'm not making any sense and there's really no logical progression of thought and I did resurrect this thread for an update so I wouldn't clutter up the boards with multiple threads on my dad.

Damn I need a beer.

[Cobraman]

Hold it together frost. Shit is rough.

[Forever_frost]

Oh I'm doing my damnedest.

[War Machine]

you got kids? more than enough reason to hold it together. goodluck man, I feel for ya

[talisman]

I'm very sorry, Frost.