Grandfather about to pass away, what should I do/say?

[Tyrone Biggums]

What would you talk about with your grandfather if you had one last chance?

Everything.


Take full advantage of this opportunity as fast as possible. Some of us never got that chance.

[Machx2]

Tell him you love him and that he made you a better man and you hope one day you could be like him. If he believes in God tell him that his mom and dad / relatives are waiting for him in a much better place. I watched my dad take his last breath when I was 21, I held his hand and cried. I was unable to say anything because my dads family wouldn't leave the room. There were literally 20 people in the room in icu pressuring me and one of my brothers telling us to say something. I wanted to punch every one of them. I regret it everyday not saying anything and still hold a grudge on my dads side of family.

[Denny]

Tell him you love him and that he made you a better man and you hope one day you could be like him. If he believes in God tell him that his mom and dad / relatives are waiting for him in a much better place. I watched my dad take his last breath when I was 21, I held his hand and cried. I was unable to say anything because my dads family wouldn't leave the room. There were literally 20 people in the room in icu pressuring me and one of my brothers telling us to say something. I wanted to punch every one of them. I regret it everyday not saying anything and still hold a grudge on my dads side of family.

A GTFO has never been so justified.

[Machx2]

A GTFO has never been so justified.

Yea, looking back on it I would have done a lot differently. I was close to my mom and dad and never even thought of losing one at 21 so I was just overcome with emotion. Op, defiantly say whatever you think of him and let him know everything he did for you. I would leave nothing on the table (for the good of course)

[Sean88gt]

I'd give damn near anything to sit down with my grandfathers as an adult. I was 14 Nd both died within 3 months of each other.

[jyro]

If you have faith in God, it's a lot easier to deal with for you both.

[SC457A]

Look into your heart. Tell him what you mean from there. I never got that chance with all my Grandparents, Parents, an Aunt and Uncle. I could not say anything to 3 of them, too young or too sudden. A few had no clue what was going on, one I had the chance.

Same situation as you, what do you say? I screwed it up as usual in those kind of situations... He died that night. I have not forgotten my chance, but He knew how I felt.

[SMKR]

I'd give damn near anything to sit down with my grandfathers as an adult. I was 14 Nd both died within 3 months of each other.

X2

No man in my family has lived past 66

[Sean88gt]

X2

No man in my family has lived past 66

My dad's dad was a WWII vet/POW. He was ravaged with cancer, from nuts to neck and died right before he hit 74. He was completely tranq'd up the last month or so of his life. I didn't get to say a final goodbye.

My mom's dad was in a United Airlines crash, 100% fatality. Saw him 4 moths prior to the accident. That one really burns me. He was 58.

[Sgt Beavis]

My Grandpa was basically a Dad to me and my brothers. However I was closer to him than anyone. His adopted daughter told me that I was the son he always wanted. He taught me all those important things in life from how to tie my own shoes to how to treat my wife like the fine lady that she is. I think I do a pretty decent job as a Dad and I credit him for teaching me a lot of that.

I was able to make it to the nursing home a day before Grandpa passed. He wasn't responsive but he was conscience while I was there talking to him. I more or less told him things he already knew like how much I appreciated him as a Grandpa and that I had always considered him my Dad. I told him that I had a good relationship with my actual father because he had taught me forgiveness.

I think that letting him know that those things he passed along to me, stayed with me, and would be passed along to the future were comforting to him. If he accomplished anything in his life (and he accomplished a lot) he had managed to raise three boys into good men.

He passed exactly one month after Grandma had left. He had told me his last goal was to outlive her so she wouldn't be alone with Alzheimers. Always a man on a mission..

I wish you and your family the best. May your Grandfather find peace with God.