What age to have "THE" talk about girls to your son?

[SSMAN]

I am curious as to what age is appropriate to have the talk about the "birds and the Bee's" to your son? Since kids are progressing quite a bit now days, I know age 14 is too late. But what would be the appropriate age now days?

Do you have just a talk or throw him a tasteful magazine and get the full picture? Lets face it, no talk prepares you for whats to come.

I love my son's innocence and don't want to take that away by all means. But I remember some questions I had growing up with no one around to answer them. Lets here your input, good or bad. This should be interesting.

[bjtheman1]

Aren't they starting sex-ed in school pretty early now?

[ceyko]

I'm far away from that point, but I think every kid is different too. This in my opinion, is where it is handy to be spying on your kids a little. It'll help ya know when they are "getting to the age" and you need to talk with them.

I was fairly old when it happened and had my own conclusions. Porn really helped though.

[Tx Redneck]

Aren't they starting sex-ed in school pretty early now?

While that is the case, why in the name of ALL things good, would you want someone else teaching your child about sex?

[bjtheman1]

While that is the case, why in the name of ALL things good, would you want someone else teaching your child about sex?

Agreed, that's why I was asking. So the parents can get to their kids before the schools do.

[Wicked98Snake]

Whatever time you think it's appropriate take a year off of that then do it.

[davbrucas]

My son is 9 and I plan on waiting until 11 or 12.

[Roscoe]

I think my son was 10-11..... Typically it's not something you say to yourself, "I think it's about time we had this talk"....

It's, "Holy shit, where the hell did he hear that?!? Son, I think it's time we had a talk...."

[Sean88gt]

I imagine it will be easier with my son than it will be my daughters, who are both much closer to the talk than my 2yr boy is.

[Roscoe]

I imagine it will be easier with my son than it will be my daughters, who are both much closer to the talk than my 2yr boy is.

I think it will be pretty easy for me with my girl.

"If anyone touches you, daddy will stab them in the face. Clear?"

/end thread

[Sean88gt]

I think it will be pretty easy for me with my girl.

"If anyone touches you, daddy will stab them in the face. Clear?"

/end thread

Roger that.

[bcoop]

My oldest is 9, and I am NOT looking forward to it. Right now he's more interested in baseball, skating, and dirtbikes than he is girls, so I've got a little time left. I think the talk will have to happen before the next school year though, if I had to guess.

[Sean88gt]

My oldest is 9, and I am NOT looking forward to it. Right now he's more interested in baseball, skating, and dirtbikes than he is girls, so I've got a little time left. I think the talk will have to happen before the next school year though, if I had to guess.

Keep him focused on those things. Show him a picture of the dirtbike, then a pic of a naked girl, then set the pic of the bike on fire and explain why.

I never had the talk. I was very focused on sports until an injury said no more, then learned extremely fast, in not exactly the best way.

[LS1Goat]

My Birds and the Bees talk came when I turned 13. It was uncomfortable and embarrassing, but I guess it beats getting it from raiding Dad's hidden porn tapes.

[jluv]

We didn't have sex ed when I was in school, or at least not at my school. I also never got "the talk" from anyone, nor did I need it.

Honestly, I am not sure what "the talk" is even supposed to be about. Is it where you tell your kid about condoms and diseases, or are you actually giving them detailed instructions on how the pole goes in the hole, how to do the shocker, flicking the man in the boat, etc?

I think I learned at a very young age that boys have a weiner and girls have a hole (besides their butt) that we stick our weiner in. Between hand gestures, and naughty jokes, and the occasional exposure to something on TV or a movie, I think everyone I knew had the basics figured out as early as 3rd or 4th grade.

I didn't learn about the clitoris until my first sexual relationship, and I didn't really learn how to properly manipulate it until the next one, but that was fine and I enjoyed learning that on my own. So did she! Surely you aren't having that detailed of a talk with your children, right? Even as a teenager, I would have probably puked if one of my parents started in on that kind of subject.

By the time I started being active, we had indeed learned about diseases and protection in high school, so maybe that was "sex ed", but they never got into the physical act of it, or gave out any "how to" instructions for sex.

I guess where I came from boys and girls figured it out on their own. I'm not sure what talk to have with my future children, other than to tell them to wrap that shit up.