10 year old wants to live with the other parent.

[diablo rojo]

Agreed on both points. Let her go and she will probably want to come back.

We've all touched on this when we've discussed it. Our concern is her believing that this is the answer to lifes problems. If you don't like the one you're with, just leave. Hypocritical coming from 3 divorcees....but true.

[Treasure Chest]

The "friend" was always the dominant one in the friendship and has now become her bully.

That's unfortunate. Girls can really turn into antagonistic pricks at this point, and bullying spreads like wildfire. You two sound like loving, involved parents. That's a definite advantage for her.

[ELVIS]

maybe let her go for a bit during the summer?

god bless.

[ceyko]

She really is a daddy's girl, and he's a good guy. But he agrees 100%, even though he would love to have her up there.

Clutch and good to hear there is cohesion among the family/step family. Only input I have is to send here up there longer during the summer if she is not up there long. Show more emotion when she comes back...etc...etc.

Of course, like the rest I'm an outsider - but these are just some ideas.

[diablo rojo]

maybe let her go for a bit during the summer?

god bless.

She does, and it does help. The last few months have been particularly difficult though.

Clutch and good to hear there is cohesion among the family/step family. Only input I have is to send here up there longer during the summer if she is not up there long. Show more emotion when she comes back...etc...etc.

Of course, like the rest I'm an outsider - but these are just some ideas.

At this point, every suggestion is greatly appreciated.

[SSMAN]

She's 10, Unfortunately is about the age they want to move. My Daughter who is 10, recently moved in with me. It's the best feeling ever knowing her Mom agreed it was the best thing. I even requested no child support to be paid on her end.

There is no stronger bond between a Father and his Daughter.

That is pretty cool.

[Rreemo]

I still remember the custody hearing after my parents were divorced (I was in 2nd grade)....the judge took my brother and I into his chambers and asked us each separately, point-blank....do you want to live with your Mom or your Dad?

My brother immediately said Mom, and was shocked when I said "Dad...for sure my Dad". (Brother has always been closer to Mom and I've always been closer to Dad).

[Baron Von Crowder]

I still remember the custody hearing after my parents were divorced (I was in 2nd grade)....the judge took my brother and I into his chambers and asked us each separately, point-blank....do you want to live with your Mom or your Dad?

My brother immediately said Mom, and was shocked when I said "Dad...for sure my Dad". (Brother has always been closer to Mom and I've always been closer to Dad).

my sister stayed with my mom, but she didnt ever really get the chance to speak up.

[idrivea4banger]

Shit I've been trying to convince my son to move in with me for the past 3 years without any luck.

[Kimmypie]

All my mom had to do when I threw living with my dad in her face was remind me that he'd never let me do as much as she did. Shallow, I know, but that shit worked.

Maybe there's not as much to do where her dad lives? Whatever she's into - sports, dance, etc. Just a thought.