How did this happen to me? Getting Divorced.

[STANGGT40]

Wow, that is terrible! I hope she's fair with you in the divorce. The worst thing is when the bitterness causes either or both of you to do things that would cause things to be costlier in the long run. Good luck, and remember that you have a bunch of friends to talk to.

[likeitfast55]

Why do you need a lawyer? She gets what she is entitled to and there is not much you can do about it. You need to both do up a list of what you want to take with you when the marriage is over, then discuss the things that are in conflict. (Not fight, discuss) You do that , no need for another lawyer. Not every divorce has to be a knock down drag out fight to the end. Make the best of a bad thing. Especially for your kid.

I have to agree that this is bad advise. Having gone through a divorce (2 kids and 26 years of marriage). while it might start out benevolent, you stand a 90% chance it will not continue that way. Get counselling ---- period. Know your rights, know what is and is not community property. Every case is a little different. With kido's involved it can take a turn you never expected. If you like surprises,----- by all means go with no lawyer. There are so many wild cards that you know nothing about --- now.

Good luck brother, it is not a fun ride. It does get better.

[petyweestraw]

Sux mang. Hope all ends well. Hope I never have to do this.

Told the wife if we did. I just want my kid. Take everything else. That won't be hard Cus he'd just piss her off and shed send to me anyways lol.

I'm good at surviving. I'll get my Shit back. Not fighting her would piss her off more than anything.

Good luck dude

[IHaveAMustang]

I told my wife that if she ever divorced me for no reason (i.e. I didn't cheat on her) that they would never find her body.

I was completely serious too...I think there is a new "talk" to be had before getting married.

[likeitfast55]

I told my wife that if she ever divorced me for no reason (i.e. I didn't cheat on her) that they would never find her body.

I was completely serious too...I think there is a new "talk" to be had before getting married.

Yea, let me know how that works out for you when they play the recorded version of that in court.

[talisman]

Yea, let me know how that works out for you when they play the recorded version of that in court.

Repeat after me: Madagascar.

This thread is actually bringing up some bad memories. Divorce was final 2 years ago today.

[petyweestraw]

I told my wife that if she ever divorced me for no reason (i.e. I didn't cheat on her) that they would never find her body.

I was completely serious too...I think there is a new "talk" to be had before getting married.

Lol I refuse to let anyone woman get me that angry. No way I'll go to jail and lose everything Cus she wanted to leave. For ANY reason.

[Jester]

Repeat after me: Madagascar.

This thread is actually bringing up some bad memories. Divorce was final 2 years ago today.

Yeah, mine was just before this. What a fucking nightmare.

[CJ-95GT]

Thank you for all the replies and pm's. This is half way through day 4 and I'm still in shock. I just got served here at the office which says I got 20 days to respond from the petition date. It also looks like she's shooting for full custody.

[bcoop]

Thank you for all the replies and pm's. This is half way through day 4 and I'm still in shock. I just got served here at the office which says I got 20 days to respond from the petition date. It also looks like she's shooting for full custody.

Get an attorney, and now. Seriously, take the rest of the day off to make some calls to attorneys. The longer you wait, the farther ahead her attorney will get. David Donahue would be my recommendation.

http://www.kfd-law.com/

DO NOT fight with her. DO NOT yell, cuss, etc. Don't even ask her why she wants the divorce. I know you feel like you need to know, but you don't need to know. Chances are you don't want to know. Closure is overrated, especially when she's about to fuck you with no lube. Don't call her, don't text her, don't communicate with her about anything other than the child involved. RECORD ALL CONVERSATIONS. Don't tell her you're recording anything. She doesn't need a heads up as to what you're doing. It is admissable in court. You're hoping to catch her slipping, so you MUST bite your tongue.

[racrguy]

Thank you for all the replies and pm's. This is half way through day 4 and I'm still in shock. I just got served here at the office which says I got 20 days to respond from the petition date. It also looks like she's shooting for full custody.

If you can swing it, get Brent's lawyer and follow his advice. This is going to get expensive for you.

[GE]

Sorry to hear that bud. I don't have anything useful to contribute other than that.

[talisman]

Get an attorney, and now. Seriously, take the rest of the day off to make some calls to attorneys. The longer you wait, the farther ahead her attorney will get. David Donahue would be my recommendation.

http://www.kfd-law.com/

DO NOT fight with her. DO NOT yell, cuss, etc. Don't even ask her why she wants the divorce. I know you feel like you need to know, but you don't need to know. Chances are you don't want to know. Closure is overrated, especially when she's about to fuck you with no lube. Don't call her, don't text her, don't communicate with her about anything other than the child involved. RECORD ALL CONVERSATIONS. Don't tell her you're recording anything. She doesn't need a heads up as to what you're doing. It is admissable in court. You're hoping to catch her slipping, so you MUST bite your tongue.

Brent knows his shit with this stuff man, I'd pay attention since there is a child involved and she wants full custody. Hell, take a few days off work if you haven't already. Your head is trying to process a lot right now. Rest a lot, hang out with friends and family as much as possible. They will help you in ways that can't be quantified.

[Lason]

Sucks man, sorry to hear.

Here are some things from my past marriage that may help.

As much as it will make sense in your head, dont decide 6 months from now that she is worth another chance if she comes crawling back. I went that route and the only good thing that came out of it is my youngest son so I guess it could be a blessing in my case but we still ended divorced with her cheating yet again. If they will do it once, they will do it again, especially with fresh memories of how fun it was "being single". They will also think that you will take them back everytime they do it.

Also we went in and got one lawyer for both of us and even with us both agreeing on me having custody and all that, the lawyer repeatedly tried changing stuff in my ex's favor. Then at the hearing, she said she was only representing my ex even though I paid for the majority of it. Get your own lawyer but make it as cordial as you possibly can for both you and the kids sakes. You will have to deal with this woman till your kid is 18 so make it as easy as you can on yourselves.

[CJ-95GT]

In general, are all our assets on lock down now that I've been served?