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Working in healthcare has led me to the conclusion that people are greedy at other people's expense due to a SIMPLE conversation that never took place. It seems like it is happening more and more that families will drag their family members through hell and torture them due to their greed.
I work in an ICU where some people are kept alive that should have died long ago. I see family members revoke their family wishes because of greed as well as guilt. Modern medicine can be a blessing and a curse at the same time and it is often due to people not willing to let go. People allow their family members to get such bad bedsores you could stick your hand under their tailbone. Their flesh and meat is gone and nothing is left but an infection and a gaping hole. They allow their family members to be brain dead and stay on ventilators for years to come. Neglect and poor care leads to suffering and pain. When doctors and nurses recommend allowing a persons wishes to be fulfilled, we are vilified. A nonsense fear of doctors want to intentionally allow people do die runs amok among the ignorant. Im tired of people being greedy and torturing their family members. Fortunately I am in the medical field though before that, as I grew up my parents have always told us that when it is there time to go, we should allow them to leave this world. Do not keep them alive to become a vegetable or burden of a nursing home. Why these conversations are not common place I do not know.
There are so many cases I could share that make people sick to hear yet we allow our own family members to do this to each other. CPR on a 98 year old is horrifying if people only knew. To the nurses and doctors, we get angry and family members who want us to break peoples ribs and allow them to suffer while they watch. A person who has exhausted all heart surgeries possible at the age of 80 that had a heart that stopped. A 75 pound lady who hasnt been out of bed in 2 years and family members give them alcohol and cigarettes. Dragging that lady through months in the ICU, a tracheostomy and a feeding tube just so she can be stuck in a nursing home in the same bed for the rest of her life. People are sick and it is sad we treat animals better than our own families.
Not really sure where Im going with this rant other than I ask all of you to please consider your families wishes. Talk to them, young and old and let them know what you want from your life and when you are not able to make these decisions. Young and old, people are taken from us and often medicine will intervene before this can happen and a patient cannot express their own wishes. Live the best life you can... Tell your family how you feel about moving on. If you want everything possible done to save your life, that is okay but they need to know. Im not here to sell a DNR (do not resuscitate) but you should allow your family to know your clear wishes. Please listen to your doctors and nurses. While they can be wrong, they have experience and can often predict how thing will play out. They are not hear to kill patients nor drag on a persons life because they want the money. Ultimately your family is your dictator. Me personally....just let me go. I dont ever want to be stuck in a nursing home. Dont drop me off to let me be neglected by overrun shitholes like that. I want the dignity and respect to allow me to die. I do not want someone to change my diaper until I die nor do I want my family members to have to make the decision of whether nor not to keep trying. I have told them and they know when it is my time it is my time. There is no need to be a hero. I live the best life I can and when I die, I will have been happy.
I work in an ICU where some people are kept alive that should have died long ago. I see family members revoke their family wishes because of greed as well as guilt. Modern medicine can be a blessing and a curse at the same time and it is often due to people not willing to let go. People allow their family members to get such bad bedsores you could stick your hand under their tailbone. Their flesh and meat is gone and nothing is left but an infection and a gaping hole. They allow their family members to be brain dead and stay on ventilators for years to come. Neglect and poor care leads to suffering and pain. When doctors and nurses recommend allowing a persons wishes to be fulfilled, we are vilified. A nonsense fear of doctors want to intentionally allow people do die runs amok among the ignorant. Im tired of people being greedy and torturing their family members. Fortunately I am in the medical field though before that, as I grew up my parents have always told us that when it is there time to go, we should allow them to leave this world. Do not keep them alive to become a vegetable or burden of a nursing home. Why these conversations are not common place I do not know.
There are so many cases I could share that make people sick to hear yet we allow our own family members to do this to each other. CPR on a 98 year old is horrifying if people only knew. To the nurses and doctors, we get angry and family members who want us to break peoples ribs and allow them to suffer while they watch. A person who has exhausted all heart surgeries possible at the age of 80 that had a heart that stopped. A 75 pound lady who hasnt been out of bed in 2 years and family members give them alcohol and cigarettes. Dragging that lady through months in the ICU, a tracheostomy and a feeding tube just so she can be stuck in a nursing home in the same bed for the rest of her life. People are sick and it is sad we treat animals better than our own families.
Not really sure where Im going with this rant other than I ask all of you to please consider your families wishes. Talk to them, young and old and let them know what you want from your life and when you are not able to make these decisions. Young and old, people are taken from us and often medicine will intervene before this can happen and a patient cannot express their own wishes. Live the best life you can... Tell your family how you feel about moving on. If you want everything possible done to save your life, that is okay but they need to know. Im not here to sell a DNR (do not resuscitate) but you should allow your family to know your clear wishes. Please listen to your doctors and nurses. While they can be wrong, they have experience and can often predict how thing will play out. They are not hear to kill patients nor drag on a persons life because they want the money. Ultimately your family is your dictator. Me personally....just let me go. I dont ever want to be stuck in a nursing home. Dont drop me off to let me be neglected by overrun shitholes like that. I want the dignity and respect to allow me to die. I do not want someone to change my diaper until I die nor do I want my family members to have to make the decision of whether nor not to keep trying. I have told them and they know when it is my time it is my time. There is no need to be a hero. I live the best life I can and when I die, I will have been happy.
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