Inheritance

[SEB]

Well my girl in short isnt getting anything while her sister gets it all & the parents stood by & backed the sister. How would you handle this situation? Just curious?
Keep in mind the family is very tight where my girls boys go over there at least once a week & the family all lives with in 3 miles of each other. Example the sister live right across the street from the parents

[GE]

Two sisters at the same time. Fuckin' A.

[Moose242]

Start fucking the sister.

[SEB]

Two sisters at the same time. Fuckin' A.

The sister is single if anyone is interested. But she is a COW Literally, I do have standards

[Chili]

Are the parents already dead, or just told your woman that is what is in their will? Just curious.

That said, I don't think I would be doing anything. It's the parent's decision and if that's how they wanted it, that's how it is. (IMO)

[2165 Turbo Rail]

The sister is single if anyone is interested. But she is a COW Literally, I do have standards

how much inheritance are we talking about? lol jk

[Ted]

Parents sometimes feel sorry for the losers they raised and feel responsible to take care of those more than they do the kids that are worth a shit and can handle their own business.

[Baron Von Crowder]

Parents sometimes feel sorry for the losers they raised and feel responsible to take care of those more than they do the kids that are worth a shit and can handle their own business.

truth. My wife is a great example of that, her folks are constantly helping out her brother, and if the subject comes up, they always say that they dont have as much as we do, etc. Bullshit, he hasnt done a fucking thing with his life and his wife is only working in hopes that one day he will actually make money and she wont have to.

They voted for obama too.

[Vertnut]

Who died and left her money? My dad (a widower) made me the executor of his estate. Technically, the way it's set up, I can take it all. He's leaving it up to me to dole it out as I see fit.

[SEB]

Parents sometimes feel sorry for the losers they raised and feel responsible to take care of those more than they do the kids that are worth a shit and can handle their own business.

This is what happened. Adrian (My Sons mother) just graduated Nursing School, Anyways Adrians parents decieded to go along with the Grandfathers dying wish before he passed 30 years ago that he wanted April (Adrians Big Sister to get the House when the grandmother passed. But he made his will before Adrian was ever born & didnt live to see Adrian born. Well the grandmother lived on for another 40 years & remarried to another man & she just passed. Well the last 10 years of the grandmothers life the mother paid the insurance on the house & taxes on the house till she died.

Now that the grandmother is gone. The mother said she wants to honor the grandfathers will. Adrian approached her grandmother & said she didnt think it was fair that April got the whole house & she not get anything. The Grandmother agreed but was vunrable to her mother to take her to doctors appts & bring over food & the mother stressed to Adrian that she would not get anything cause her father wanted April to get the house.

This has caused all sorts of drama between Adrian & her Mother & Sister cause she doesnt understand why her sister gets the whole house & feels like had the grandfather known about Adrian & lived to see her born that he would have included her in on the will.

My view is that the Grandmother should have changed the will since she lived on to reflect Adrian & her sister get equal shares, But the grandmother didnt do it because she feared Adrians mom would not help take care of her in her elderly age.

My question is what is the right way to handle this for her.

[Vertnut]

This is what happened. Adrian (My Sons mother) just graduated Nursing School, Anyways Adrians parents decieded to go along with the Grandfathers dying wish before he passed 30 years ago that he wanted April (Adrians Big Sister to get the House when the grandmother passed. But he made his will before Adrian was ever born & didnt live to see Adrian born. Well the grandmother lived on for another 40 years & remarried to another man & she just passed. Well the last 10 years of the grandmothers life the mother paid the insurance on the house & taxes on the house till she died.

Now that the grandmother is gone. The mother said she wants to honor the grandfathers will. Adrian approached her grandmother & said she didnt think it was fair that April got the whole house & she not get anything. The Grandmother agreed but was vunrable to her mother to take her to doctors appts & bring over food & the mother stressed to Adrian that she would not get anything cause her father wanted April to get the house.

This has caused all sorts of drama between Adrian & her Mother & Sister cause she doesnt understand why her sister gets the whole house & feels like had the grandfather she known about Adrian & lived to see her born that he would have included her in on the will.

My view is that the Grandmother should have changed the will since she lived on to reflect Adrian & her sister get equal shares, But the grandmother didnt do it because she feared Adrians mom would not help take care of her in her elderly age.

My question is what is the right way to handle this for her.

This is a perfect example of why folks need to keep their shit updated. Is it fair? No, but the old man wasn't thinking farther down the road. Money can tear apart a family quicker than anything else.

[SEB]

Well Adrians parents seem to think since Adrian is a college grad with Bachlors in Nursing that she will be fine & her sister April is a failure at life pretty much, April borrowed $20,000 from the parents to buy the cake Business that used to sit on the corner of Saturn & Northwest Hwy. Of course the cake shop had been in location the past 20 years & the first thing the sister does after a couple of years is change locations to more expensive shop & thus the business went belly up. The parents I suspect want their 20k back once April sells this house & think Adrian shouldnt get a penny cause she makes good money now.

My view on it is I told Adrian. To let it go & keep her distance from her family & just bust her ass to show them she doesnt need any handouts. I think personally that if her sister pissed away 20k on a business that existed for 20years its just a matter of time before she gets in over her head & ends up losing her own house. The sister now runs her cake business out of her house. Which i doubt is going to last forever. From what I understand her sister is already behind on mortagage payments. I checked the Tax records on the grandmothers house & they are $6000 behind on county taxes & of course Adrians mother also has almost lost her & her husbands house cause of gambling problems in the past & the grandmother bailed Adrians mom out of that one. but not before her mother lost another 30k of her husbands retirement & now her parents are broke & have no retirement & both her mom & Dad have new cars with car payments. I think its best to just let them have the house. Its cheap way to not have to help them out down the road cause its a matter of time before they fuck up their financial life again & will be begging Adrian for help & at which point they will think twice before asking Adrian for help considering they fucked her out of her share of the house

[Chili]

I would let it go, personally. I have never expected to receive any inheritance. The only thing I would want would be something personal in nature that reminds me of the person lost.

[ceyko]

Concur with Chili.

[YALE]

Dude, if she's going to let money come between her and family, and this isn't some sentimental deal, then you don't need to do shit. Is it fair? No, but if her not getting the house doesn't hurt her financially, what difference does it make? The house is still in the family, and she's allowed to buy her own house.