Set up to get married...thoughts?

[qk03cobra]

lmao!! Wishing I could have somehow done this without hurting my child or going to jail

[bcoop]

Why you SMF's don't get vasectomies is beyond me. Also, for not being you, why did you post the same thread nearly nine months ago?

[Captain Crawfish]

I had a mom and a dad when i was young and I would make sure that my child had the same even if i had to go fishing 3-4 days a week to get away from the wife

[YALE]

I had a mom and a dad when i was young and I would make sure that my child had the same even if i had to go fishing 3-4 days a week to get away from the wife

My parents have been divorced since I was 6. My dad is still a good dad.

[Captain Crawfish]

My parents have been divorced since I was 6. My dad is still a good dad.

Just think its easier on the child not to have to have 2 separate

homes and be passed around like a hot potato. JMO opinions may differ

[YALE]

Just think its easier on the child not to have to have 2 separate

homes and be passed around like a hot potato. JMO opinions may differ

It's easier, but a child that doesn't see people behaving honestly and authentically is in for a much more turbulent upbringing than one who does. If parents can work together outside of a relationship to raise that kid, but can't inside one, the choice is a no brainer. Aside from that, do you want your kid to see you and think forced misery is the normal state of marriage? Fuck that. Life is too short.

[BttleFedC10]

So wrong, But so damn funny!! Lol

[lowthreeohz]

It's easier, but a child that doesn't see people behaving honestly and authentically is in for a much more turbulent upbringing than one who does. If parents can work together outside of a relationship to raise that kid, but can't inside one, the choice is a no brainer. Aside from that, do you want your kid to see you and think forced misery is the normal state of marriage? Fuck that. Life is too short.

My folks got divorced when i was like 2, i have no memories of them living in a home together. As i got older, when i was in trouble at one place i was in trouble at both. they always 'conspired' - part of their reasoning was to teach me that even as divorced parents they were still my parents and would act as such. When mom or dad would drop me off they would chat for a few, always very pleasant with one another. As i grew up, i started to learn that this wasn't the norm.. it was probably sometime mid elementary school when i saw other kids' divorced parents and how they interacted. all through jr high and high school, they parented as a team. my dad has remarried twice and my mom has had the same boyfriend for like 15 years now, but they can still hop on the phone and talk for a bit like old friends and there's never any bad blood.

my mom and stepmom are friends and chat on facebook all the time. my dad and moms boyfriend aren't really buddies, but they share no animosity. we've had numerous dinners together as one big 'family' without any problems. i know it's not the norm, but it happens.

sry4novel

[racrguy]

Butt babies don't live.

[BradM]

[bcoop]

sry4novel

That's how it is now with my ex. We were separated for a year, and the divorce took another year, and that entire time it was ugly and nasty. Now that it's all overwith, we get along great. I'd even say better now than it was for the last 2 years of the marriage. She even laughs when I make jokes about the loser she is with now.

My kids are handled the same way, though. You're not running to her house to get out of the shitstorm you created here, and vice versa. If they are grounded at one house, they are grounded at the other. The chores they are expected to do at one house, are expected at the other. Disrespect is NEVER acceptable. I'm a little tougher on them, but I'm the father so I'm expected to, and I'm ok with that.

[scootro]

repost!!!!!!

http://www.dfwmustangs.net/forums/showthread.php?t=25956

[DON SVO]

That's how it is now with my ex. We were separated for a year, and the divorce took another year, and that entire time it was ugly and nasty. Now that it's all overwith, we get along great. I'd even say better now than it was for the last 2 years of the marriage. She even laughs when I make jokes about the loser she is with now.

My kids are handled the same way, though. You're not running to her house to get out of the shitstorm you created here, and vice versa. If they are grounded at one house, they are grounded at the other. The chores they are expected to do at one house, are expected at the other. Disrespect is NEVER acceptable. I'm a little tougher on them, but I'm the father so I'm expected to, and I'm ok with that.

It's also a lot easier when parenting styles are very similar. My parents didn't see eye-to-eye on punishment/reward involving my sister and I (grounding, spankings, first cars, paying for school trips, et.al). This led to some deep rifts that got us two stuck in the middle. My parent's divorce was ugly: they've been split 23 years, mom has been dead for over 2 years and my dad still doesn't care to talk about her in a good light.

[Mychael101]

Why you SMF's don't get vasectomies is beyond me. Also, for not being you, why did you post the same thread nearly nine months ago?

These are different scenarios. One did everything possible to get pregnant to avoid getting dumped. This one is getting pregnant to force a marriage since her parents are the definition on self-righteous bible thumpers who's head would explode if faced with explaining a wedlock baby.

There are some similarities though, both already had divorces under their belt and met through online dating. It's pretty scary to think that you could literally be putting your dick into a trap. I've been lucky for the past several years but eventually I'll have to "settle down", but not before getting a job with health insurance so I can get snipped. That way I can be ready for my Maury "you are not the father" dance.

[TexasT]

I have a similar situation. Wife married twice before. I had to get her pregnant twice to get her to marry me. First one didn't take so I kept on. She tried to play it off as she couldn't get pregnant and that's why the first two left. I showed her.

Good Luck with your little situation. Sounds like you might want to get snipped. No sense in doubling or tripling the penalty.