Advice/child custody

[silverranger]

I usually do not do this but I am going through a child custody fight. This is the hardest thing i have ever had to do. My son is 6 months old, the mom and I just can't get along. She has two other boys from her first marriage, her ex gets the standard visitations. I remember when we first starting dating she would let him have the boys all the time (B4 they got the orders one was two the other was six). She wont even let me see my son, I have never done anything to hurt her or my son. I have tried calling, texting, emailing everyday asking to see him. She has not respoded once, do i have any options at this point or just wait till we go to court. I have heard people say just go get him from daycare, I dont think it would be a good idea. I went down and got a Lawyer Monday, and he says it could take up to a month before we go to court??????? I am not going to lie i can not go that long with seeing my son. people did tell me to text, email, call everyday and keep records of me trying. They say the judge might look down on her for not letting me see him. Anybody got any suggestions or advice they could offer. Anything i should be asking, trying to fight for (besides custody)
Is the first right of refusal a must have, to me it doesnt seem like there is anyway to prove it, if she does not call me first?
i will say this she is a pro at this, her ex and I have talked and he said it was a nightmare (of course this was after the fact) damnit
I did do a search but this is helping me vent a little.

Thank you

[juiceweezl]

Good luck, man. I know in any custody case, be sure to be as nice as you possibly can on communications, make sure you do whatever you say you will do (be at such and such place at such and such time; send a message about XXXXXXX on XXXXXX date; etc.), and basically expect everything you've ever done to be put under a microscope. If he is at daycare, you may even want to speak to the daycare manager, document it, and ask if they will let you spend some time with him there. I hope it works out.

[Crownline79]

Since no SAPCR, go get your kid from daycare. A protective order against crazy chic will have the case in court in a week if I remember. It's what I did. Due to childs age, custody isn't likely. Document EVERYTHING! Shit sucks and will probably get worse. Child's mentality will reflect this as age increases.

[95ragtop]

Sorry to hear, does she have a job (you mentioned daycare) and why couldn't she just drop the kid off at your place? I think scientists need to identify the crazy bitch gene in women and develop a cure.

[Crownline79]

Sorry to hear, does she have a job (you mentioned daycare) and why couldn't she just drop the kid off at your place? I think scientists need to identify the crazy bitch gene in women and develop a cure.

Haha appearance seems to reflect severity of crazy bitch gene. Dam the luck.

[Buick355]

Get a temporary custody order.

[silverranger]

Good luck, man. I know in any custody case, be sure to be as nice as you possibly can on communications, make sure you do whatever you say you will do (be at such and such place at such and such time; send a message about XXXXXXX on XXXXXX date; etc.), and basically expect everything you've ever done to be put under a microscope. If he is at daycare, you may even want to speak to the daycare manager, document it, and ask if they will let you spend some time with him there. I hope it works out.

I have been very nice and well not go to her level. All i care about is my son, i will do anything and everything for him. Yeah i heard to even take a witness with me when i get him so there can be no drama later. I have my demons from the past (7 years ago, dui) but like more lawyer stated she has hers. I didnt even know about till he looked her up. Thats a good idea i will call, I just know she will pull him out till court and wont tell me where he is at.

[silverranger]

Yes she has a job, she wont respond to anything I send her. My lawyer did bring up the protective order to get into court faster but he also said it can make it alot harder down the road. Hence the reason I just dont think it would be a good idea to go get him from daycare. I wish there was a cure. She is pretty out there now, and I just got through fixing her car, and buying my son all sorts of things. I guess i should order them again for when i get to see him haha. The hardest part to me is that he is starting to crawl, teething, everything you want to watch when he is growing up. Staying strong will be the hardest part for me.

[Crownline79]

Its good you have an attorney, make sure he predominantly practices that county...
. All you can do now is setup a support system for yourself to help you ease the pain and stay sane.

[silverranger]

Get a temporary custody order.

He is getting everything ready, just sucks not seeing my little man

[silverranger]

Its good you have an attorney, make sure he predominantly practices that county...
. All you can do now is setup a support system for yourself to help you ease the pain and stay sane.

He has been in tarrant county for thirty plus years, he knows the Judge pretty well. It just sucks having to do all this because of her issues. The saying it is cheaper to keep her is true. But I could not take anymore.
Do I still need to pay her even though we havent gone to court yet?

[fst_stng]

Pick up your son from daycare and then send her a text or leave her a voice mail saying you picked up your son. If there is no custody agreement then there is nothing illegal about that. He is just as much your son as he is hers.

[Crownline79]

He has been in tarrant county for thirty plus years, he knows the Judge pretty well. It just sucks having to do all this because of her issues. The saying it is cheaper to keep her is true. But I could not take anymore.
Do I still need to pay her even though we havent gone to court yet?

Don't pay crap. Your case probably wont go to trial since no protective order. Best to resolve in alternative dispute resolution (ADR) and avoid trial. Judges don't like it if you can't resolve that way and usually give the net 20% to crazy chic and extended standard possession for you. Joint managerial conservertorship.

[silverranger]

Don't pay crap. Your case probably wont go to trial since no protective order. Best to resolve in alternative dispute resolution (ADR) and avoid trial. Judges don't like it if you can't resolve that way and usually give the net 20% to crazy chic and extended standard possession for you. Joint managerial conservertorship.

I just want it easy and smooth.
They are saying with him being so small and being breastfeed, I will not have overnights for a little bit. She had made a comment saying I could only get him for four hours at a time, I told my lawyer this and he just laughed. So hopefully I will get him more than that. Just HATE waiting, my family is not up here anymore, so my nights consist of pacing around. Although tonight I might get the quad out and go mudding
Is there anything i need to ask for, I know first right of refusal, if anyone could go back and ask for anything they forgot what would it be?

[Crownline79]

Texas family courts dictate that you have unfettered access to your child on your custody times. I can see no overnight if under the 3 months but you shouldn't worry about that.. The extended standard possession is about 55% her and 45% you. Do you have a financial advantage over her? If so, you could make this costly on her. Good move not originating your case in the OAG, it will make it difficult for her raise your child support without hiring an attorney herself. ...it wont be easy or smooth.



I would get him from day-care since she's refusing visitation, its your kid too and with no SAPCR it's not violating any laws. Don't sit by and let her exploit your weaknesses.