Advice/child custody

[bcoop]

Start writing her checks for every dollar you give her...

Yep. No cash under no circumstances.

Yes unless she opts to keep him under her coverage in which case you have to pay her for what it costs her for him to be under her insurance. If her insurance costs more than it would cost you for him to be under yours just tell the judge that you will provide insurance.

You don't really need an attorney to do all this since its pretty basic stuff. You will be awarded co-manager, she will maintain the right to pick where the child lives so long as its within a contiguous county. Outside of a contiguous county she has to file a motion in court to be granted permission to move further away. You would be present and allowed to protest her moving the child or agreeing but with stipulations such as decreased child support due to the increase in distance you must travel to pick him up.

You'll be granted the standard visitation schedule. Every Wednesday from 6-8pm, every other weekend and on weekends where Friday is the first day of the month. Every other holiday, rotating Christmas breaks so one year you would get the first part of Christmas and she the second part and the following year it would flip. Summer vacation you would get him for all of July.

This is of course if she doesn't have any dirt on you that she could use against you to show that you're unfit to have unsupervised visitations.

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Yep again. I kept my daughter on my ex wife's insurance, because it is cheaper, and much better coverage. They deduct the premiums from my paychecks along with the child support.

Get ready for a fucking. If you make a decent amount of money, it's going to hurt. It hurts regardless, but the amount they get when you make decent money usually far exceeds what it costs to raise a child. I know it does in my case, and she doesn't even get 20%!

[silverranger]

She has my DUI from 7 years ago, other than that nothing except her domestic violence with her ex. She beat the hell out of his sister, funny story. She has some bs cps charges on her from her ex.
I tried to play it nice and say we could work it out, her words where get a lawyer. I talked to him today, they should have the papers drawn up and I will be in court soon.
She will spend it on credit cards and a new car, before we split she made a comment about using her ex's money to buy a car....
My Lawyer seems to think it will go smooth (well the visitations?) I just have so many doubts and what if.. She will say anything and do anything, I was dumb for not seeing it before with the ex.
I did take pictures of the hundreds I gave her with her ID card a newspaper with the date, I know it wont mean much but that is all I could think about at the time.

[RCITNet]

Kinda sounds like you know what you're talking about... Can you create an ACCESS database to help him track and report?

Yes I could, should it be linked to SharePoint or have an SQL back end?

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[silverranger]

Yes I could, should it be linked to SharePoint or have an SQL back end?

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Thank you again, for talking. I will be calling you again. Haha.

[appelingogt]

keep your head up, nose clean, and mouth shut...good luck bro. by the way, did i say keep your temper???

[Roscoe]

Yes I could, should it be linked to SharePoint or have an SQL back end?

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SQL 2008 R2 preferred....

You'll fit in well here, with the love of Ron Paul and all.... Great feedback above.

[RCITNet]

Thank you again, for talking. I will be calling you again. Haha.

No problem boss. I'm here if you need me.

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[silverranger]

So she wants to meet at the police station tonight. Something doesn't seem right to me, no i do not have warrants or anything. Just very odd.

Thoughts?

[downshift_me]

Just a "safe" public place, possibly. If it's Crowley PD they won't get involved if that's her plan or likely won't even pay attention you're there knowing them.

So she wants to meet at the police station tonight. Something doesn't seem right to me, no i do not have warrants or anything. Just very odd.

Thoughts?

[BradM]

Truck that cunt, go get your boy.

[RCITNet]

So she wants to meet at the police station tonight. Something doesn't seem right to me, no i do not have warrants or anything. Just very odd.

Thoughts?

You know my thoughts on that. Maybe she's trying to paint the picture that the only way you can see your son is when around police because you have a tendency to be violent.

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[silverranger]

Yeah I just dont think it will be a good idea, everyone has said don't put yourself in a bad spot. I didnt get any sleep last night thinking about what to do. I asked her if we could meet somewhere else she said no. I just dont want it to look bad if I dont go and see him.

[Chas_svo]

Sorry to hear, does she have a job (you mentioned daycare) and why couldn't she just drop the kid off at your place? I think scientists need to identify the crazy bitch gene in women and develop a cure.

That would be great!

I do make more than her, but I am 100% com for pay. So i am sure she will try to use that, even though we are always busy. Yeah I kinda figured it would not be easy, but I will not go down without a fight. I love my son more than anything, and feel like he is going to have it hard living with her. I am glad I went ahead and got a Lawyer (I wanted to work it out between us) but everyone said that would be a terrible idea.
I think i will go up there on my lunches to see him.

I think the 100% comm will help you, but I would think the judge/mediator will go after tax returns.

There is lots of good info above from Brent and others. Protect yourself, document everything, fight for custody of your kid, and don't let her or her lawyer run over you. You are in a bad position as a father, as TX and most other states do not play fair with this. Everything is your responsibility.

Good luck.

[Crownline79]

Yeah I just dont think it will be a good idea, everyone has said don't put yourself in a bad spot. I didnt get any sleep last night thinking about what to do. I asked her if we could meet somewhere else she said no. I just dont want it to look bad if I dont go and see him.

There is no police at municipal police stations ironically, they say to use a fire station as a safe place.

[silverranger]

There is no police at municipal police stations ironically, they say to use a fire station as a safe place.

I Called the station she wanted to go to, they said they wont kick us out but they do not like it. The lady said they do pick up and drop offs all the time. But people just sitting in the lobby, not so much.
I asked the ex again she said that is the only place, so oh well I will let the Lawyer take care of it.