Should I Get Involved

[juiceweezl]

Talk to HER, not him. Like DRS2288 said, a lot of times people like your cousin have demolished self esteems and think that they're such shit, they deserve to be with a guy like him. It's crazy, but the baby daddy is a predator: his prey is weak-minded people he can control either with physical or mental abuse. Ask her what happened, ask if you can help. If she's cold towards you, realize and accept that she won't leave him until she finally gets the stones to do it.

Step in only if you feel her safety and her child's safety are at stake.

This is the correct approach. Do not go after him unless you feel there is a real safety threat to her or the child.

Oh, and pics of sister????

[Mike69]

Thanks fellas! I think I will have a talk with her & see what she plans on doing about this. If she chooses to stay with him then I will not get involved unless I have to.

[BlackSnake]

I took my son in law hunting. After shooting a hog I pointed out how devastating my 270 can be. Then I reminded him that if I ever heard of him putting a hand again on my daughter we was going hunting again. That whole weekend of blowing up beer cans with the pistols and scatter shooting cactus was a constant reminder to him. Haven't really had a problem since.

Not that I would ever shoot him but he didn't know that. Nor does he know that I spoke to my daughter and told her that if she stays with him, it's on her next time.

[talisman]

This will end well.

[DON SVO]

Thanks fellas! I think I will have a talk with her & see what she plans on doing about this. If she chooses to stay with him then I will not get involved unless I have to.

Read what I posted, and just make sure he's not killing her. As rough as that sounds, if she's tolerating getting slapped around a bit that's her choice and not really harming her (in the big scheme). Once she goes to the ER with broken bones or he lays a hand on the kid, well, that's up to you.

[03trubluGT]

If you get involved, make sure you have a damn good place to hide the body...

[Matt]

Kick his ass sea bass!

[DON SVO]

If you get involved, make sure you have a damn good place to hide the body...

Kinda my point on what happens when 'involvement' is needed

[Jimbo]

Read what I posted, and just make sure he's not killing her. As rough as that sounds, if she's tolerating getting slapped around a bit that's her choice and not really harming her (in the big scheme). Once she goes to the ER with broken bones or he lays a hand on the kid, well, that's up to you.

Sadly enough, I remember this rationale from my youth. The ole "open hand vs closed fist", rule.

[BradM]

Like was already asked, is her dad around? Does she have any brothers?

[Steve]

I agree with Don, talk to her first and get some background information. Is this the first time he hit her? Or is it a normal thing she allows?

[bcoop]

Is this the first time he hit her? Or is it a normal thing she allows?

If she didn't pack her shit and leave the moment it happened, it's something she allows.

[Geor!]

I agree with Don, talk to her first and get some background information. Is this the first time he hit her? Or is it a normal thing she allows?

Oh save the Captain America shit for another crowd. You know you'd armbar the fuck outta him in a heartbeat!

[Vertnut]

If you're gonna handle it yourself, then you had better make him your bitch. Slap him around for a few hours until he's begging for mercy with tears in his eyes.

Anything less will result in him beating the shit out of her.

Otherwise, press charges and move her out.

Right here. If you're not prepared to take this to the max, then have her file charges and/or handle it herself.

If it were my actual daughter, I would advise a different approach.

[BradM]

Oh save the Captain America shit for another crowd. You know you'd armbar the fuck outta him in a heartbeat!

I think he'd go for the crossface chickenwing this time.