You know why divorce is so expensive?

[ThreeFingerPete]

I dont consider it rushing at all because i know its right. Funny how none of my actual friends or family has been nothing but happy for me and him because they have seen us together and know we are perfect for eachother. I can honestly say we have yet to have one arguement or fight and we have lived together for while now. He gives me everything i want in a relationship and i dont question one thing about him. Coming from me, that means a lot given my past relationships even from people on this board. So you guys go ahead and knock everything you want whether its my relationship or someone elses. Its what you do best.

I can honestly say i have never been happier and i really dont care what anyone else thinks about anything.

My true friends and family support my decision and wish me nothing but happiness and thats all that matter to me.

Whoa, whoa, whoa, killer. All anyone here is recommending is to think about the extent of your decisions before you make them. Your attitude on this matter is very immature and bitter. Is this how you normally have a discussion?

[Jester]

People always accuse realists of being cynical when they are talking about pedaling their bicycle to the moon and living there. Knock yourself out dude. I'm glad you're happy. I don't see any reason to make a LIFE decision a week after you've gone through the wringer. Like Brent said, it is irresponsible and grounded in your cock rather than your brain. Nothing I can say is going to change your mind, and I'm fine with that. I didn't get any pleasure from the long list of "I told you so's" last go around, and I won't next time either. Even if it does work, it won't validate this as being a "good" or "smart" decision on any level.

The difference is, you will actually like this one. Last one made your radar go off, right? Kinda like you can just detect evil....lol

Kelly always wanted me to be around her and her only. She hated my friends and never wanted yall around. Lauren asked me the other day "so just what in the hell do we have to do to get these assholes down here!? I have hot and horny friends that would love to meet them all!"

She even has an Asian one for Danny. lmao

[Jester]

Whoa, whoa, whoa, killer. All anyone here is recommending is to think about the extent of your decisions before you make them. Your attitude on this matter is very immature and bitter. Is this how you normally have a discussion?

lol, stop pushing her buttons, Igor!!!
roflcopter

[talisman]

Levi, the only person you need to justify your actions to is yourself.

But, take the advice of others, and do what you want with it. Most of it is meant to be a form of love for you.

As for Brent and Eric, both are bitter and skeptical from their own fuck ups in the world of marriage, each for their own reasons. But in the end they will probably end up being roommates like The Odd Couple.

I know you're probably joking, but Brent and I have a lot in common. My parents also celebrate 51 years this year. I think marriage is a GREAT thing, and it was the most important thing in my life until my ex decided to pull the plug out of the blue. We rarely fought(certainly no screaming matches, and the only time I ever even raised my voice was when things were already over), both came from married families, etc. I made a bad choice by jumping in too early and rushing into things a YEAR after we had been together. If I had waited another year, I would have seen several warning signs of future trouble. Why rush to get married? What's the big deal? If you're happy, be happy. People have their entire lives in front of them, but treat marriage as if they are ordering it from a drive through window. It sucks, and I don't like seeing people I care about get hurt. In the end though, when people keep repeating the same bad decisions over and over again, what can you do?

[Treasure Chest]

Eric and Brent may be cynical bastards, but there's something to be said when the cynics can pinpoint your next move with such a degree of accuracy. They have your M.O. down.

[Silverback]

Obviously you're making a joke, but I am absolutely not bitter that things didn't work out. I was for a short time when it was all fresh, but you know damn well I'm the happiest I've been in a long damn time.

I know you are happier now than you were before, but because of what's happened in your own marriage you draw from those experiences and give advice from someone who had a hell of a divorce, along with Eric. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I agree with just about everything you've said about taking your time, and being safe. The only advice I'd give Levi at this point is, if you're going to jump, and there's no stopping that, then at least take a parachute so you don't kill yourself.

Same thing I told Ash. I'm happy for her as long as she's happy, but set aside some time before making all those major life decisions. Make sure you have an exit strategy in case it goes bad. There's nothing wrong with being prepared, especially if you never have to use that exit strategy.

Life is short, there's no reason to approach it with a guarded heart and an over protective mind. Have fun, make mistakes, just learn from those mistakes, and make better choices the next go around. In the end I'd rather have a few bad relationships under my belt, than end up old and alone, wondering why my balls don't work anymore, and when my next round of metamucil will be delivered by Nancy the bitch of a nurse at Shady Acres.

[Jester]

Eric and Brent may be cynical bastards, but there's something to be said when the cynics can pinpoint your next move with such a degree of accuracy. They have your M.O. down.

Exactly why they are not surprised! my buds know me. Im not happy unless I am running around with my hair on fire or getting my adrenaline fix.

[bcoop]

Absolutely! Couldnt have said it better. I find it absolutely awesome that I have people warning me about this or that......it means you do have people that care about you.

see, this ^^ is the logical response to all this nonsense...

You never know what will work or wont. I thought Jodi and Eric would work.....you just never know

Very true. All I'm getting at is to be cautious. Don't let raw emotion cloud your judgement. Raw emotion misguides every last person on this planet. There isn't a single person that isn't guilty of it. But marriage is a big, huge committment to allow that to happen with.

[Jester]

I agree with just about everything you've said about taking your time, and being safe. The only advice I'd give Levi at this point is, if you're going to jump, and there's no stopping that, then at least take a parachute so you don't kill yourself.

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Well, she suggested we make a prenup......the only things I really have is my jeep and my 56 chevy. She doesnt want shit from me if we split. Just like she doesnt need shit from her daughter's father. She is a strong independent woman that doesnt need to use a guy for what he can give her.

My ex needs to learn that.

[Treasure Chest]

Exactly why they are not surprised! my buds know me. Im not happy unless I am running around with my hair on fire or getting my adrenaline fix.

Age quod agis. Best of luck to you.

[DaisyDoesDallas]

I know you are happier now than you were before, but because of what's happened in your own marriage you draw from those experiences and give advice from someone who had a hell of a divorce, along with Eric. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I agree with just about everything you've said about taking your time, and being safe. The only advice I'd give Levi at this point is, if you're going to jump, and there's no stopping that, then at least take a parachute so you don't kill yourself.

Same thing I told Ash. I'm happy for her as long as she's happy, but set aside some time before making all those major life decisions. Make sure you have an exit strategy in case it goes bad. There's nothing wrong with being prepared, especially if you never have to use that exit strategy.

Life is short, there's no reason to approach it with a guarded heart and an over protective mind. Have fun, make mistakes, just learn from those mistakes, and make better choices the next go around. In the end I'd rather have a few bad relationships under my belt, than end up old and alone, wondering why my balls don't work anymore, and when my next round of metamucil will be delivered by Nancy the bitch of a nurse at Shady Acres.

well said

[bcoop]

And Ash - this does come from a person who cares about you and your happiness. Seriously. You can say I'm wrong, bitter, or shallow all you want. I'm not here for an argument. I'm just telling you to be cautious. If it makes you feel any better, I'll tell you this. Haley and I only argue about two things these days, and they are both related. Kenny, and her new fiancee. Kenny hates him, so shit happens and we argue over it. I had this very conversation with her as well. No voices were raised, no insults were hurled. I came from a place of love, and told her she needed to be cautious about jumping in to marriage with this dude. If she's happy, and she seems to be, then great. I'm happy for her. But she needs to be cautious, because she's rushing in to it.

[Kenny_Stang]

Levi / Jester, I don't know you (other than posting on the same website for the last 9 years) but I wish you the best. I went through much of the same thing last year, my divorce was finalized in September, so I know personally all the heartache and turmoil that it entails. I also agree and understand the points that Brent and Eric are trying to communicate to you. They may be a tad cynical, due to their personal experiences, but they also know you very well and are trying to prevent you from suffering again. There are no guarantees in life, especially when it comes to relationships. There are few experiences in life better than a great relationship, and there are also few experiences more draining and devestating than being in a terrible one. I wish you the best, and I hope we aren't reading a thread a few years from now about how things fell apart, but if we are... take the good with the bad, learn your lessons and be a better man beacause of it.

[talisman]

dibs on being the flowergirl in his wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!

god bless.

Can't wait to see this...

[Treasure Chest]

Well, she suggested we make a prenup......the only things I really have is my jeep and my 56 chevy. She doesnt want shit from me if we split. Just like she doesnt need shit from her daughter's father. She is a strong independent woman that doesnt need to use a guy for what he can give her.

My ex needs to learn that.

Heh. A pre-nup is only worthwhile if you have assets to protect. You have a '57 chevy, a jeep, and are starting over from ground zero after a divorce. What you come into the marriage with isn't community property. You're injured and not working, she's supporting you and paying the bills. At this point, a pre-nup isn't really a gesture of goodwill, it's self-preservation for her interests.