You know why divorce is so expensive?

[ThreeFingerPete]

Well i really dont have to sit here and justify myself to you, but to say that i didnt think about my child is completely wrong. Anyone that has been around me or my child knows that she absolutely comes first to me, before any man ever will! Everything thing i do is to provide a good life for her. Moving hundreds of miles away from everyone i know including any support i had being a single mother to provide a better life for her might be the first hint. Clay came down here after me when we met, which shows how much he cares for the both of us. My mother went through several marriges when i was growing up and i know how it takes a toll on children, so i take this all very seriously which is part of the reason why i have never been married. I'm doing whats best for me and my daughter. Like i said just because you made mistakes doesnt mean anyone else is. Youre being pretty damn shallow Brent.

anyways, i know why i dont post on this board much anymore.

Because you rush into decisions that will have life long repercussions? Because you let your mind run free about your feelings on what you perceive other people to have said to you?

Everyone wishes you the best, but jumping into marriage is a risky proposition at best, and it's almost a guaranteed failure in this day and age where people can and will just pull the plug and walk away.

Brent talks about his parents and how they are "marriage people". The last few generations as a whole are too selfish to understand the dedication that marriage takes. All of the people who have been married 30+ years aren't necessarily still married because they chose the right person. It's that combined with the overwhelming efforts on both parts to make it work.

[Treasure Chest]

Allow me to play the Devil's advocate for a moment.

for awhile, i felt like keeping my life and problems as a secret, but decided just maybe my crazyness will help others. In the last year, i have been to two mental hospitals and survived an attempted suicide. Its kinda funny actually, you would think killing yourself was easy but it is far harder than you think. Now, with the mental state I am in, suicide seems "crazy" but it is just a way out for a desperate hopeless person. life is funny that way. I have seen friends that i thought were good friends, leave my side. and guys that i thought were just buddies, become friends for life. the world is a seriously interesting place. and i tell you, those guys that you think are "crazy" in a mental hospital are some of the most sane people you have ever met.....but dont take it from me, because i am certified two times over...

Twice certified, tried to kill yourself, jumped into the first relationship that came along AND moved in before the divorce was finalized, THEN got engaged before the ink was dried....

I've put of with a ton of bullshit and bitten my tongue for the sake of my kids. I would have no choice but to severely limit their exposure to their father under aforementioned circumstances. Any responsible parent would.

[Roscoe]

For the life of me, I can't understand why the treatment of exes isn't considered the acid test for new relationships. If s/he treats the ex like absolute crap and can't maintain some level of civility, it's a good indication that you will be treated in a like manor.

Glad I wasn't the only one to notice.... (and it's "manner", you aren't talking about a lavish estate...)

[ImayBblack]

Because you rush into decisions that will have life long repercussions? Because you let your mind run free about your feelings on what you perceive other people to have said to you?

Everyone wishes you the best, but jumping into marriage is a risky proposition at best, and it's almost a guaranteed failure in this day and age where people can and will just pull the plug and walk away.

Brent talks about his parents and how they are "marriage people". The last few generations as a whole are too selfish to understand the dedication that marriage takes. All of the people who have been married 30+ years aren't necessarily still married because they chose the right person. It's that combined with the overwhelming efforts on both parts to make it work.

I dont consider it rushing at all because i know its right. Funny how none of my actual friends or family has been nothing but happy for me and him because they have seen us together and know we are perfect for eachother. I can honestly say we have yet to have one arguement or fight and we have lived together for while now. He gives me everything i want in a relationship and i dont question one thing about him. Coming from me, that means a lot given my past relationships even from people on this board. So you guys go ahead and knock everything you want whether its my relationship or someone elses. Its what you do best.

I can honestly say i have never been happier and i really dont care what anyone else thinks about anything.

My true friends and family support my decision and wish me nothing but happiness and thats all that matter to me.

[Jester]

I'm experiencing Deja Poo: the feeling that I've heard this shit before. Levi, I want you to be happy. But you know I'm going to tell you exactly what I think, and I think you have lost your fucking mind in a piece of ass. 6 months ago you were ready to suicide yourself over that fruitcake of an ex of yours. Now here we are and the cycle is starting to repeat. We all have to go down our own paths in life, but man, you're acting like a dumbass, and not in a funny way. You need to take some time to get your head on straight and stop jumping into idiotic decisions. Sooner or later even your friends are going to get tired of holding you up, and let you fall on your face.

Eric, I love you man, but you are forever a cynic. It eats at your very core. When you remove that layer for even a second, your real light shows thru and you show how inspiring and amazing your attitude can be.

I tried to off myself about 9 months ago because of the situation I was in. I was with a woman that had convinced me I was bi-polar. remember, she has a degree in biology and would back up her claims with facts that she would show me. I was put on medication for depression and bipolar medicine.........with my family telling me the whole time I am not bipolar and to get off that shit. well, the main side effect of the shit I was on was severe depression and suicidal thoughts. Even after talking to the doctor and telling them what was going on, all she did was increase my dosage.......pushing me to the point where I tried to kill myself. I have NEVER been a person like that.

When I moved her back up to dallas to be closer to her mom's tit, I thought getting away from my job would help. Moving in the house out back of her parents and having to see those people every day was not good for the soul either.

When I was in ICU, my folks and other family member basically pushed her the fuck aside and told me they were gonna fix me. well, I got out of the hospital and immediately got a decent paying job. The very first day, one hour into the job I find out my perfect job is going to be cleaning brainmatter off of ceilings after people off themselves. Well, I decided "fuck it, im not doing this." I finally decided I didnt give a fucking shit what her dicked up family thought about me. I quit on the spot and it felt amazing to take my life back.
When I got back home to her, she gave me a rash of shit about how I couldnt quit and blahblahblah.......now, keep in mind that our agreement for us to move back to Dallas was that she would get a job and I would go to EMT school. Silly me for believing this. She wanted to sit on her fat worthless ass while I worked so she could play mommy. So, I was stuck in this hell.............and then I left. I called my parents who were in Tennessee at the time and told them what was up. I packed some clothes, grabbed my dog, and started driving.

WHen I got there, my parents had talked to a doctor friend on how to get me off the meds.......over 2-3 weeks I was slowly weened off. All I could do was cry and chain smoke cigarettes with a beer here and there. It was the worst I have ever felt. Absolutely undescribable and I wouldnt wish it on anyone. I called the ex and told her every day I loved her and missed her.....blahblahblah. She showed her true colors very slowly at first during this time. She fed off the fact that I was miserable.

Now, fast forward a couple of weeks and I meet a girl. She was cool and great in the sack. Had a lot of fun with her and she helped me get away from Voldemort's evil clutches. Well, while I was datign this girl, I met Lauren.
From the moment I saw Lauren I even told my mother "wow, she is beautiful!" when we talked on the phone, we talked about everything. We hit it off on our first date like we had been old friends. We were just comfortable with each other. Didnt put on any fake appearances or any bullshit. Just had fun with each other.

Lauren got a job in the oil field being a geological mudlogger.......she would be gone for 28 days...........after the first time she got to come back home, I told her "fuck that shit, you need to be home with your daughter and with me." I had her quit her job and we moved in together. I took care of her because I knew that she was not a worthless lazy woman and would get a job. Well, she was off maybe 2 weeks and got a great job offer close to home.
I got hurt at work and tore my adductor, nutsack, and stomach hernia, and I have been not working for 3 months. She has busted her ass taking care of me and going to work. I get around just fine and do what I can do when I can do it.

I have never met a kinder person. I have never met a person that encourages me to be the dork I am. Even today, she sent me a text saying comicapalooza was coming to town so we could go check it out.

From he moment my family and friends met her, she fit in. And the same goes for me with hers. Her dad hated all her former guys. He is my best friend out here. we shoot guns together, he is teachign me how to farm and ranch, and I fix his tractors and other equipment when it breaks.

So, in short, I am an astronaut driving my ice cream truck with a shit eating grin!


lol, and the first thing she said to me last night with a big grin on her face was "You are gonna get so much shit from Eric!"


So, that is a summed up life story. My life is heading in the right direction and all I can do is wish for the best and go with what feels right in my gut.

I am thankful as hell for having friends that give a shit enough about me and are concerned with my life........that is truly priceless.

[Treasure Chest]

Glad I wasn't the only one to notice.... (and it's "manner", you aren't talking about a lavish estate...)

I have no idea if that was morning brain or auto correct. I wrote that half awake and still in bed. Lol

[Randy]

What I'm about to say is guaranteed to piss some people off, but I can't tell you how much I laugh at the absolutely retarded shit I see on Facebook daily. A girl I know, was a lesbian. In an apparently bad relationship. They split, she moved back to Dallas, and for her first two weeks back in Dallas, every fucking day, she was complaining about the heart break, and how much it hurt. One week later, she's not only gone back to men, but she's head over heels in love with some guy. You don't fall in love in a week. You dont fall in love in 3 months, or even six. That's not love. It's lust, mixed in with a delusional mind and unhealthy codependency, and it's doomed for failure from the start. You can always spot these people, because they complain about their life every day. Ten they meet someone, and life is suddenly wonderful. "falling in love" so quickly is not only illogical and fake, but it's wildly irresponsible. People who can't be happy with themselves, and depend on someone else to make them happy, doom things before they ever start.

This is the best advice ever.

[bcoop]

Funny how none of my actual friends or family has been nothing but happy for me and him... So you guys go ahead and knock everything you want rather its my relationship or someone elses. Its what you do best.

If you're happy, you're happy. It's not about never fighting or arguing. Your entire marriage isn't going to be that way, and that's a fact. Marriage isn't about not fighting. It's about how you work through your issues, together. So you really have nothing to compare it to or judge it by, since you two have never fought.

I've stuck up for you countless times. You may not consider me a friend after what I said, but I'll tell you now... Your real friends are the only ones with the balls to speak up and say something. You might want to think about that. I'm not knocking your relationship. I'm saying there is no reason to rush, you've got your whole life ahead of you. I'm telling Levi the very same thing.

[Jester]

And I know PLENTY of people that got married right after meeting someone and have been happy. Craig and Leah are a great example. Look at the two of them and you can easily tell they are crazy about each other.

[Silverback]

Levi, the only person you need to justify your actions to is yourself.

But, take the advice of others, and do what you want with it. Most of it is meant to be a form of love for you.

As for Brent and Eric, both are bitter and skeptical from their own fuck ups in the world of marriage, each for their own reasons. But in the end they will probably end up being roommates like The Odd Couple.

[ELVIS]

Levi, the only person you need to justify your actions to is yourself.

But, take the advice of others, and do what you want with it. Most of it is meant to be a form of love for you.

As for Brent and Eric, both are bitter and skeptical from their own fuck ups in the world of marriage, each for their own reasons. But in the end they will probably end up being roommates like The Odd Couple.

Geor said he longs to be the meat in that white bread sandwich!!!!!!!111

god bless.

[talisman]

People always accuse realists of being cynical when they are talking about pedaling their bicycle to the moon and living there. Knock yourself out dude. I'm glad you're happy. I don't see any reason to make a LIFE decision a week after you've gone through the wringer. Like Brent said, it is irresponsible and grounded in your cock rather than your brain. Nothing I can say is going to change your mind, and I'm fine with that. I didn't get any pleasure from the long list of "I told you so's" last go around, and I won't next time either. Even if it does work, it won't validate this as being a "good" or "smart" decision on any level.

[bcoop]

And I know PLENTY of people that got married right after meeting someone and have been happy. Craig and Leah are a great example. Look at the two of them and you can easily tell they are crazy about each other.

I'd say Lea and Craig are the exception, not the rule.

[bcoop]

As for Brent and Eric, both are bitter and skeptical from their own fuck ups in the world of marriage, each for their own reasons. But in the end they will probably end up being roommates like The Odd Couple.

Obviously you're making a joke, but I am absolutely not bitter that things didn't work out. I was for a short time when it was all fresh, but you know damn well I'm the happiest I've been in a long damn time.

[Jester]

Levi, the only person you need to justify your actions to is yourself.

But, take the advice of others, and do what you want with it. Most of it is meant to be a form of love for you.

As for Brent and Eric, both are bitter and skeptical from their own fuck ups in the world of marriage, each for their own reasons. But in the end they will probably end up being roommates like The Odd Couple.

Absolutely! Couldnt have said it better. I find it absolutely awesome that I have people warning me about this or that......it means you do have people that care about you.

You never know what will work or wont. I thought Jodi and Eric would work.....you just never know.

When I FINALLY started not overthinking everything and going more with my instincts, my world started to fall into place.