You know why divorce is so expensive?

[ELVIS]

if it puts a smile on your faces, i am nothing but happy for you folks.


god bless.

[talisman]

Preach on, Brent.

[Roscoe]

That's the thing. You never have any doubts or regrets, then one day it hits you like a freight train. What the fuck was I thinking? And even if you did have doubts, you'd never admit it until after it was over. I never had any doubts about my ex, but shit just didnt work out. The person in the relationship is ALWAYS the last to see it coming.

What I'm about to say is guaranteed to piss some people off, but I can't tell you how much I laugh at the absolutely retarded shit I see on Facebook daily. A girl I know, was a lesbian. In an apparently bad relationship. They split, she moved back to Dallas, and for her first two weeks back in Dallas, every fucking day, she was complaining about the heart break, and how much it hurt. One week later, she's not only gone back to men, but she's head over heels in love with some guy. You don't fall in love in a week. You dont fall in love in 3 months, or even six. That's not love. It's lust, mixed in with a delusional mind and unhealthy codependency, and it's doomed for failure from the start. You can always spot these people, because they complain about their life every day. Ten they meet someone, and life is suddenly wonderful. "falling in love" so quickly is not only illogical and fake, but it's wildly irresponsible. People who can't be happy with themselves, and depend on someone else to make them happy, doom things before they ever start.

I'm not trying to be mean, I've just seen it happen to people I care about repeatedly. I wish y'all the best, but I know how this always plays out.

Troof...

[Tyrone Biggums]

Not surprised in the least. Good luck, bud.

[ImayBblack]

Ashley, no offense, I love both you and Levi to death, but you've been in that relationship all of six months and were getting married after a month. You guys can do what you want, and I hope you're happy, but don't expect me to pander to you and praise it as a good decision, especially in Levi's case seeing as he hasn't even been divorced a FUCKING WEEK.

We were together 2 mnths before we got engaged, get it right. LOL

That's the thing. You never have any doubts or regrets, then one day it hits you like a freight train. What the fuck was I thinking? And even if you did have doubts, you'd never admit it until after it was over. I never had any doubts about my ex, but shit just didnt work out. The person in the relationship is ALWAYS the last to see it coming.

What I'm about to say is guaranteed to piss some people off, but I can't tell you how much I laugh at the absolutely retarded shit I see on Facebook daily. A girl I know, was a lesbian. In an apparently bad relationship. They split, she moved back to Dallas, and for her first two weeks back in Dallas, every fucking day, she was complaining about the heart break, and how much it hurt. One week later, she's not only gone back to men, but she's head over heels in love with some guy. You don't fall in love in a week. You dont fall in love in 3 months, or even six. That's not love. It's lust, mixed in with a delusional mind and unhealthy codependency, and it's doomed for failure from the start. You can always spot these people, because they complain about their life every day. Ten they meet someone, and life is suddenly wonderful. "falling in love" so quickly is not only illogical and fake, but it's wildly irresponsible. People who can't be happy with themselves, and depend on someone else to make them happy, doom things before they ever start.

I'm not trying to be mean, I've just seen it happen to people I care about repeatedly. I wish y'all the best, but I know how this always plays out.

Brent, I turn 29 next week and have never been married. I also have never met someone that has made me this happy and wouldnt want to change anything about him. Yes we did hit it off fast, we have also known each other for a long time beforehand. I have never been able to keep a steady realtionship in my life, its always been lots of fighting and breakups every other week because for one, i was not happy with myself and for two i couldnt accept people for who they were. When i met my fiance i was finally in the point in my life where i had everything going for me and was happy, so it just worked out. Everyone has their flaws and everyone makes mistakes, but to underestimate someone elses happiness because it did not work out for you or in other cases is not right.

Youre probably right about the lust part in the beginning, but i find myself falling in love more and more everyday and each day is better than the last.

[Jester]

I remember from day one before I was married to satan, my friends and family all said to me "man, something is just a little off about her." Well, they were right.....completely and totally right. I have no idea what is really wrong with my ex, but she does have some serious psychological issues that she needs to get worked out. After I got the fuck away from her and her family, got off all the meds that she convinced me I needed to be on, and got back to being true to myself, my life has completely changed for the better.
The reason my life has changed for the better is with the help of a woman that saw me completely ripped apart physically and mentally and emotionally. she picked me up and told me we would work thru this together and she was there every step of the way. I feel better than I have ever felt and it is because of this amazing person that has entered my life.
Will it work out? How in the hell do you ever know? No matter how long you have been together, you never know if you are going to make it. I was with Kelly for 3 years before marrying her.........i have been/lived with Lauren 7 months. If it works, it works, If we go our own ways in the future, so be it. A huge factor for tellign me I am making the right choice is how she treats her daughter's "father." This guy is fucking worthless and she has not made him pay a dime of child support in 5 years. Any time he calls to talk to the girl(which is maybe once every other month at the most) she gladly lets him. My cunt ex never lets me talk to my kids and has pulled every fucking string in the book to keep me away from them.
So, from what I have seen around the small town of Winnie.....she knows everyone.......she is very well liked and is known to be a good honest person.

So, after having checked the carfax, I am happy with my purchase.

[bcoop]

Everyone has their flaws and everyone makes mistakes, but to underestimate someone elses happiness because it did not work out for you or in other cases is no right.

See, I figured this would get misunderstood or misconstrued. I'm not anti marriage. It's not that at all. If that's the life you want, by all means, go for it, and I wish everyone the best. Marriage is an awesome institution when time is taken, the decision is thought through thoroughly, etc. They are great for people that know how to handle them. My parents are about to celebrate 51 years of an awesome marriage. I've got friends who are in great marriages. I gave it a shot, and found that I'm just not ready for marriage, or I'm flat out not cut out for marriage, but I'm leaning towards the latter, and it's questionable that I will ever slow down enough to be in a successful marriage. That's just me. I'm not bitter in the least about it. I'm happy, I'm healthy, and I'm having a blast.


What I'm saying, is people think they are in love, and more times than not it's not love at all. Especially when they fall in love so quickly. There isn't one single good reason to rush in to things. Not one. Getting engaged after two months is certifiably nuts to me. Getting engaged less than a week after the divorce papers from a previous marriage are signed, is absolutely certifiably nuts. Marriage is hard fucking work. Puppy love wears off. Quirks become annoyances. The little things will drive you crazy. Time and some serious soul searching needs to be done before getting married. Haley and I were together 2 years before we got married. I did some serious soul searching before I proposed. And I still got it wrong. To think that this kind of life changing decision can be made in 2 months, 6 months, a week, etc is just flat out lazy and irresponsible, especially when children are involved. Because if things DO go south, it's not just your own emotions you have to worry about. I see too many people that are far too reckless with their children. I've even made those same mistakes myself when Kenny was young. Just trying to open your eyes, and prevent some of the same mistakes, because trust me, there isn't anything easy about marriage, and there is certainly nothing easy about divorce.

[ELVIS]

I remember from day one before I was married to satan, my friends and family all said to me "man, something is just a little off about her." Well, they were right.....completely and totally right. I have no idea what is really wrong with my ex, but she does have some serious psychological issues that she needs to get worked out. After I got the fuck away from her and her family, got off all the meds that she convinced me I needed to be on, and got back to being true to myself, my life has completely changed for the better.
The reason my life has changed for the better is with the help of a woman that saw me completely ripped apart physically and mentally and emotionally. she picked me up and told me we would work thru this together and she was there every step of the way. I feel better than I have ever felt and it is because of this amazing person that has entered my life.
Will it work out? How in the hell do you ever know? No matter how long you have been together, you never know if you are going to make it. I was with Kelly for 3 years before marrying her.........i have been/lived with Lauren 7 months. If it works, it works, If we go our own ways in the future, so be it. A huge factor for tellign me I am making the right choice is how she treats her daughter's "father." This guy is fucking worthless and she has not made him pay a dime of child support in 5 years. Any time he calls to talk to the girl(which is maybe once every other month at the most) she gladly lets him. My cunt ex never lets me talk to my kids and has pulled every fucking string in the book to keep me away from them.
So, from what I have seen around the small town of Winnie.....she knows everyone.......she is very well liked and is known to be a good honest person.

So, after having checked the carfax, I am happy with my purchase.

are your balls still black and blue?

god bless.

[Treasure Chest]

So your new girlfriend (or fiance, or whatever) says she wants to see your ex-wife "burn. buuuurrrrnnnn".

That doesn't show you any warning signs??

For the life of me, I can't understand why the treatment of exes isn't considered the acid test for new relationships. If s/he treats the ex like absolute crap and can't maintain some level of civility, it's a good indication that you will be treated in a like manor.

And I'm sure I've said it before, but the best life lesson ever imparted to me was, 'In a new relationship, you spend the first six months getting to know the person they want you to know. You spend the rest of the relationship getting to know who they really are.'

[Jester]

are your balls still black and blue?

god bless.

yes they are......actually.....waiting to see general surgeon to see why.

[ImayBblack]

See, I figured this would get misunderstood or misconstrued. I'm not anti marriage. It's not that at all. If that's the life you want, by all means, go for it, and I wish everyone the best. Marriage is an awesome institution when time is taken, the decision is thought through thoroughly, etc. They are great for people that know how to handle them. My parents are about to celebrate 51 years of an awesome marriage. I've got friends who are in great marriages. I gave it a shot, and found that I'm just not ready for marriage, or I'm flat out not cut out for marriage, but I'm leaning towards the latter, and it's questionable that I will ever slow down enough to be in a successful marriage. That's just me. I'm not bitter in the least about it. I'm happy, I'm healthy, and I'm having a blast.


What I'm saying, is people think they are in love, and more times than not it's not love at all. Especially when they fall in love so quickly. There isn't one single good reason to rush in to things. Not one. Getting engaged after two months is certifiably nuts to me. Getting engaged less than a week after the divorce papers from a previous marriage are signed, is absolutely certifiably nuts. Marriage is hard fucking work. Puppy love wears off. Quirks become annoyances. The little things will drive you crazy. Time and some serious soul searching needs to be done before getting married. Haley and I were together 2 years before we got married. I did some serious soul searching before I proposed. And I still got it wrong. To think that this kind of life changing decision can be made in 2 months, 6 months, a week, etc is just flat out lazy and irresponsible, especially when children are involved. Because if things DO go south, it's not just your own emotions you have to worry about. I see too many people that are far too reckless with their children. I've even made those same mistakes myself when Kenny was young. Just trying to open your eyes, and prevent some of the same mistakes, because trust me, there isn't anything easy about marriage, and there is certainly nothing easy about divorce.

Well i really dont have to sit here and justify myself to you, but to say that i didnt think about my child is completely wrong. Anyone that has been around me or my child knows that she absolutely comes first to me, before any man ever will! Everything thing i do is to provide a good life for her. Moving hundreds of miles away from everyone i know including any support i had being a single mother to provide a better life for her might be the first hint. Clay came down here after me when we met, which shows how much he cares for the both of us. My mother went through several marriges when i was growing up and i know how it takes a toll on children, so i take this all very seriously which is part of the reason why i have never been married. I'm doing whats best for me and my daughter. Like i said just because you made mistakes doesnt mean anyone else is. Youre being pretty damn shallow Brent.

anyways, i know why i dont post on this board much anymore.

[talisman]

I'm experiencing Deja Poo: the feeling that I've heard this shit before. Levi, I want you to be happy. But you know I'm going to tell you exactly what I think, and I think you have lost your fucking mind in a piece of ass. 6 months ago you were ready to suicide yourself over that fruitcake of an ex of yours. Now here we are and the cycle is starting to repeat. We all have to go down our own paths in life, but man, you're acting like a dumbass, and not in a funny way. You need to take some time to get your head on straight and stop jumping into idiotic decisions. Sooner or later even your friends are going to get tired of holding you up, and let you fall on your face.

[ELVIS]

yes they are......actually.....waiting to see general surgeon to see why.

just trying to lighten the mood bro, i actually not in the least concerned with your testes. im not eric.

god bless.

[bcoop]

Well i really dont have to sit here and justify myself to you, but to say that i didnt think about my child is completely wrong. Anyone that has been around me or my child knows that she absolutely comes first to me, before any man ever will! Everything thing i do is to provide a good life for her. Moving hundreds of miles away from everyone i know including any support i had being a single mother to provide a better life for her might be the first hint. Clay came down here after me when we met, which shows how much he cares for the both of us. My mother went through several marriges when i was growing up and i know how it takes a toll on children, so i take this all very seriously which is part of the reason why i have never been married. I'm doing whats best for me and my daughter. Like i said just because you made mistakes doesnt mean anyone else is. Youre being pretty damn shallow Brent.

anyways, i know why i dont post on this board much anymore.

Nobody said you have to justify yourself to me, or anyone else. I'm giving sound advice, that anyone will tell you is good. You don't have to take it. I'm just putting it out there in hopes that you'll give it some thought.

I also never said you don't care about your child. Do you make this shit up in your head? I'm not being shallow at all, either. You're just taking offense to what I say, which isn't my problem.

[Jester]

For the life of me, I can't understand why the treatment of exes isn't considered the acid test for new relationships. If s/he treats the ex like absolute crap and can't maintain some level of civility, it's a good indication that you will be treated in a like manor.

And I'm sure I've said it before, but the best life lesson ever imparted to me was, 'In a new relationship, you spend the first six months getting to know the person they want you to know. You spend the rest of the relationship getting to know who they really are.'

Exactly. I bust my ass to try and talk nicely to my ex. I let her know when I have sent child support, I ask nicely to speak to my kids, and I thank her after I get off the phone with them. I do all of this thru text and I do not get a text back and I never talk on the phone with her. I literally send a text to her saying "please have Holden call me today after school." I never get a response and I get lucky if I get that phone call. I have been asking for the last 3 days to have him call me and have heard nothing. I have no fucking idea if my kids are even alive.
What kind of a crazy evil person does that? A man is trying to be a good father and talk with his children and maintain a long distance relationship with them, and she wont let me. Sick in the head.

The good thing is, kids are smart. One day they will grow up and see for themselves that she was the one keeping me from seeing them. When I am able to get them for my week or two weeks during the summer, I am gonna blow their fucking minds! We are going to stuff an adventure into that time.

She is just doing the only thing she can to twist that knife a little harder in my side, because she is a sad and lonely person with no real friends.