dealing with family after a death

[68RR]

Phil..

Sorry for your loss. I went through the same shit with my sister when my dad , then mom passed on. Haven't spoken to her in almost 40 years. Wife is going through the same with her sibs after her parents died.
What's sad is that it isn't a case of a large estate, or tons of money, it's just as if these so call "family" members want to get a hit in for something that happened long ago.

Bill

[NTexas_V-Star]

Ignore them, give them nothing and the incentive to harass you will go away. Sorry to hear about your mom

This.

I've been in a similar situation before. Just ignore them, and they well eventually disappear.

I'm incredibly sorry for your loss man.

[joes01bullitt]

Yeah, that's what I tried. It was 2 years feb22 and they won't fucking stop.

I'm just getting really tired, like borderline mental/emotional breakdown tired.

FUUUUUUUUUUCK THAT!!!

fuck ignoring, you need to do something about it, get a lawyer or someone involved. You seem to have a lot more tolerance and patience than i do because i would have already drove/flew those 4k miles and whooped some ass!

oh and sorry to hear about your mom.....

[The King]

How the hell do you deal with a selfish entitled family member (not immediate) after a loved one passes?

My mom passed fairly recently, we were extremely close and now I have her side of the family (not all of them) constantly sending me fucked up emails and facebook messages.
I blocked all the wackos on facebook and reported what I can, but this situation is fucking me up (worse than I already am). They even started a "hate page" about my dad. Even though we have hard proof of libel, my dad just wants it to end and doesn't want to go to court.


ps: Please don't make me regret posting anything personal, I know how this goes sometimes and I never do this. I just know some damn smart people on here and need some advice.

Very sorry to hear about this situation you're having to face. I know we've had some shitty posts back and forth on this site before, but regardless I know what it is to lose your mom, as I did myself years ago. I still miss her to this day too.

Meanwhile support your dad as best you can.

[VaderTT]

Its all in fun dude! I appreciate it though.
Dads doing good, he's actually dating a hot German chick now and she's half his age, lol. It really sucked for him because that side of the family pretty much attacked him.



And no hard feelings, thanks!

[VaderTT]

Phil, I am deeply sorry you are going through this. There is little on this planet lower than the type of scumbag that would do that type of shit. Fuck them man, try everything you can to avoid contact until the end of time. Very sorry man. What a bunch of bullshit.

Yeah dude, this is one of the reasons I have a fucked up temper. Never been like this before but after she died, this stuff started happening and I got pretty messed up. I've lost relationships and friends because of it.


Working on it though, so sorry about Austin!

[VaderTT]

And thanks everyone, it's good to hear some of this stuff!

Even though this site is a fucked up dysfunctional family, it's fucking cooler than my actual family, LOL

[talisman]

Yeah dude, this is one of the reasons I have a fucked up temper. Never been like this before but after she died, this stuff started happening and I got pretty messed up. I've lost relationships and friends because of it.


Working on it though, so sorry about Austin!

LOL, it ain't no thing man, I've got my "Crazy foreigner with a gun" story! lolz! And I've gone through some temper problems myself. It tends to mellow out the older you get. With something like this going on though, it would be really easy to push the wrong buttons. Fuck.

[Snatch Napkin]

I'm sorry you're dealing with this, man.
My therapy when I'm dealing with shit I'd rather not deal with is to jump out of a plane--which I'm coincidentally doing tomorrow in Lexington. You should join me.

[Forever_frost]

You're going to have to cut them out of your life. I have some family right now that is trying to pull basically the same thing, trying to weasel things that aren't theirs. Keep your head up

[Snatch Napkin]

We'll be here until Monday jumping as many times as I can. It has got to be the best legal therapy I've ever encountered.

It's better than most of the illegal ones, as well.

[Sleeper]

These type of people piss me off.

What ever the will stated that's how it should be. I don't expect anything from my family. It's theirs, not mine. If they choose to Give it to me I'd be greatfull.

[VaderTT]

We'll be here until Monday jumping as many times as I can. It has got to be the best legal therapy I've ever encountered.

It's better than most of the illegal ones, as well.

Shit dude! That is so cool that you offered and I look at myself as a fairly "manly man" But I am way too much of a pussy to do that. I would shit myself on the way down, lol.

Seriously, thank you though!!!

[VaderTT]

LOL, it ain't no thing man, I've got my "Crazy foreigner with a gun" story! lolz! And I've gone through some temper problems myself. It tends to mellow out the older you get. With something like this going on though, it would be really easy to push the wrong buttons. Fuck.

Let me know if you want to grab a beer sometime.

[VaderTT]

I truly appreciate the kind words though guys!!!!