dealing with family after a death

[Ruffdaddy]

Sorry for your loss.

You just gotta lower your shoulder and keep pushing through this man. Live for the memory on your mom not the retaliation to the shit bags. Ignoring them will be the only way you win anything over them.

Good luck brah, it's a bumpy ride but it gets better.

[halo/horns]

Seems that it happens all the time. A family friend passed a couple of years ago and there was "fine print" that if anyone listed in the will tried to contest or complained they would only get $1.00!

Dad's is the same lol He told us upfront about it though lol Best way to keep everyone from fighting about it though.... I couldn't imagine trying to deal with grief and defend your actions to someone else.


That's a tough call about the pics because I'm the one that would want all that stuff too. Men aren't normally known for treasuring stuff like that (old family pics, ect). I know of a guy that tossed all his late wife's stuff out instead of letting her family have it, which I thought was pretty foul.

[VaderTT]

Damn bro! Want to grab a few beers tonight? I'm sorry but I was pissed the whole way through that tid bit until the end. " Fuck You Very Much!" ROFL!!!

I need to do something, fuck I feel like I'm going to kill someone.

[Unicorn Jeff]

I need to do something, fuck I feel like I'm going to kill someone.

Call me my nukka.

[Tyrone Biggums]

Sorry to hear about what you're going through. If you never plan to see these people again and they are only causing you heartache and misery, write them off as non-existent. Don't open any emails, don't take any calls, don't open any letters. Doing so will only get in the way of your healing this wound by opening it back up time and time again. Why let someone who means nothing do that to you? I hope everything works out, man. Focus on you.

[VaderTT]

Ignore them, give them nothing and the incentive to harass you will go away. Sorry to hear about your mom

Yeah, that's what I tried. It was 2 years feb22 and they won't fucking stop.

I'm just getting really tired, like borderline mental/emotional breakdown tired.

Sorry for your loss.

You just gotta lower your shoulder and keep pushing through this man. Live for the memory on your mom not the retaliation to the shit bags. Ignoring them will be the only way you win anything over them.

Good luck brah, it's a bumpy ride but it gets better.

Thanks dude!

[VaderTT]

Call me my nukka.

Devon has my phone.

[YALE]

Damn, Phil. I'm sorry for your loss, dude.

[VaderTT]

Dad's is the same lol He told us upfront about it though lol Best way to keep everyone from fighting about it though.... I couldn't imagine trying to deal with grief and defend your actions to someone else.


That's a tough call about the pics because I'm the one that would want all that stuff too. Men aren't normally known for treasuring stuff like that (old family pics, ect). I know of a guy that tossed all his late wife's stuff out instead of letting her family have it, which I thought was pretty foul.

FUCK.... I truly hope everything works out for you. I like to be pessimistic, so until it turns for the worse, it won't turn for the worse, if you know what I mean.

Damn, Phil. I'm sorry for your loss, dude.

My ninja! thanks dude!

[Samhain]

Dang, sorry for your loss. My uncle passed a few years ago and I was in a similar situation. What I came to learn was that a lot of people don't understand how to cope with the loss, or the regret they might have. It really sounds like your extended family is in that boat. I wouldn't worry about any of those fucks until you are ready. My 2 cents.

[helosailor]

Man, that's rough Phil. I agree with the cutting them out and off completely. Nobody should have to deal with oxygen thieves like that. My family went through some pretty major shit with an aunt and her loser button-pushing second husband after my Grandmother passed away. After I found out what had happened, I said my peace and never so much as thought about them again.

If ya need anything, holla at a brotha.

[racrguy]

Phil, first, sorry to hear about your mom. Second, fuck those people. Take solace in knowing that you're better than they are, as you wouldn't stoop to the levels that they have. Like the old saying goes, haters gonna hate.

Just keep on keepin' on, it should get easier with time.

[80coupe]

Dang sorry phil.

[kingjason]

Two piece of shit sons cost my aunt 80k recently fighting the will. They ended up not getting anything they couldnt steal for a few weeks while things were getting worked out. My uncle built his wealth from a bag of concrete and they never raised a fucking hand to help. One was in another part of Texas for 20 years until my uncle was about to die, then all of the sudden moved up here right after he died. My uncle lived with this woman for 25 years and she put alot of money into the place they had and acres. They got married about five years ago finally and them mf's accused her of pulling a fast one. Hell we were talking guns up until a couple of weeks before he died. Shit he was up on the ranch shooting a glock I got him with a tank of oxygen behind him. Sound mind all the way up until the end and them fuckers thought it was gonna be all theirs. I hate leaches and people that come out of the woods when someone dies. I could care less if I am related to someone or not. If I dont like you, screw you, I will cut all contact with you. I prefer my good friends to most of my family any day of the week.

[talisman]

Phil, I am deeply sorry you are going through this. There is little on this planet lower than the type of scumbag that would do that type of shit. Fuck them man, try everything you can to avoid contact until the end of time. Very sorry man. What a bunch of bullshit.