addiction

[slowyellow]

Not sure why I opened this thread, but for some reason this video provoked some thought from me. Especially the car crash picture. I've never really been addicted to things, but I truly believe that my wife has a very strong alcohol addiction. I wish that she didn't and I see her some nights where she can barely put together a sentenace and I will think of this video from now on. I wish I could get her to slow down, just do not know how. Do I have to quit?? I don't drink a lot, but I enjoy my beer and crown.

Also, on another note, if you are at one time an addict, are you considered that for the rest of your life?? (real question, not trying to be a smart ass.)

[Big A]

Also, on another note, if you are at one time an addict, are you considered that for the rest of your life?? (real question, not trying to be a smart ass.)

Yes, the propencity will always be there, no matter how stong one's will has become. To consider yourself "cured" only opens the door wider for a relapse.

[dsrtuckteezy]

Not sure why I opened this thread, but for some reason this video provoked some thought from me. Especially the car crash picture. I've never really been addicted to things, but I truly believe that my wife has a very strong alcohol addiction. I wish that she didn't and I see her some nights where she can barely put together a sentenace and I will think of this video from now on. I wish I could get her to slow down, just do not know how. Do I have to quit?? I don't drink a lot, but I enjoy my beer and crown.

Also, on another note, if you are at one time an addict, are you considered that for the rest of your life?? (real question, not trying to be a smart ass.)

remove all alcohol from the house if you think there's truly a problem

that would be the first step

[Big A]

remove all alcohol from the house if you think there's truly a problem

that would be the first step

Anyone that wants to drink is going to drink. Until she decides on her own that she wants/needs help, any steps that he takes is only going to make her harbor resentment. Until she decides that on her own, the only two options are to make his feelings well known, and/or to end the relationship.

[slowyellow]

remove all alcohol from the house if you think there's truly a problem

that would be the first step

I do think that it is a problem. But it does not affect her performance at work or in life really. She just drinks for no damn reason, and I was never exposed to that growing up. She can drink beer for beer with me and she takes a shot of vodka with every one of her beers, it just scares me sometimes. I just don't like having a wife who can't talk or walk. And sometimes when she doesn't eat, it's like a light switch from being there and completely fucked up, which is very embarrassing when around her (very successful) parents. I really have a hard time making up excuses for it.

[Broncojohnny]

I'm addicted to breasts. Specifically big naturals. Can't get enough of them. Strange, I know.

Preach on my brother

[slowyellow]

Anyone that wants to drink is going to drink. Until she decides on her own that she wants/needs help, any steps that he takes is only going to make her harbor resentment. Until she decides that on her own, the only two options are to make his feelings well known, and/or to end the relationship.

Thank you very much for your input, and don't look at this response negatively towards you. But when I said I DO, it means for life for me, son ending the relationship is just not an option for me. And sometimes if I just don't drink that will slow down or stop her for the night, but when I'm out of town it gets bad. Which is bad for me because I'm in the navy and out of town quite a bit. I'm in Bahrain right now and skyped her the other night and could just tell that she was in an altered state of mind. I've only been gone about 4 days.

[dsrtuckteezy]

Anyone that wants to drink is going to drink. Until she decides on her own that she wants/needs help, any steps that he takes is only going to make her harbor resentment. Until she decides that on her own, the only two options are to make his feelings well known, and/or to end the relationship.

ok dr. drew

if there's no alky in the house, then she aint drinking when shes home.

[YALE]

My dad is a School Resource Officer in Parker County. They got to talk to a bio chemist. He says that after about 6 months of use of any drug be it alcohol weed, cocaine, ect that your body forms a chemical dependance on it and you will have a very hard time quitting. He says he doesn't know much about the mental aspect of it all but knows the bio chemist side and says that is one of the reasons have such a hard time quitting.

The dopamine pathway functions as a risk/reward feedback loop that helps codify past decisions for you. Some drugs can become addicting very quickly, and some can become a habit without being a real physical addiction, like pot. That's how people get addicted to all kinds of crazy shit, not just drugs. In fact, some parkinson's drugs can make you prone to behavioral addiction, like gambling and sex addiction. It's crazy.

[JFurst]

I do think that it is a problem. But it does not affect her performance at work or in life really. She just drinks for no damn reason, and I was never exposed to that growing up. She can drink beer for beer with me and she takes a shot of vodka with every one of her beers, it just scares me sometimes. I just don't like having a wife who can't talk or walk. And sometimes when she doesn't eat, it's like a light switch from being there and completely fucked up, which is very embarrassing when around her (very successful) parents. I really have a hard time making up excuses for it.

She is an addict man

[slowyellow]

She is an addict man

What is the best way to stop it? Do I need to quit drinking all together? And also, that is a hard part because every one of our friends drink. Even her parents, it's just that nobody gets drunk very often.

[ThreeFingerPete]

Who writes these stupid fucking tags?

[JFurst]

What is the best way to stop it? Do I need to quit drinking all together? And also, that is a hard part because every one of our friends drink. Even her parents, it's just that nobody gets drunk very often.

Honestly I'd get rid of all forms of alcohol in the house to start. One of my good friends is a cougar in her 40s and does the exact same thing as your wife. She has to drink every night, says she doesn't have to but does and its sad how it controls her.

[Big A]

Thank you very much for your input, and don't look at this response negatively towards you. But when I said I DO, it means for life for me, son ending the relationship is just not an option for me. And sometimes if I just don't drink that will slow down or stop her for the night, but when I'm out of town it gets bad. Which is bad for me because I'm in the navy and out of town quite a bit. I'm in Bahrain right now and skyped her the other night and could just tell that she was in an altered state of mind. I've only been gone about 4 days.

I specifically said options, because they are just that, I was not inferring that is what is warranted at this step, or appropriate for you, certainly with kids involved. I feel for you man, you are "stuck" until she decides to slow down or quit.

ok dr. drew

if there's no alky in the house, then she aint drinking when shes home.

She will take steps to make sure she picks up whatever on the way home, or unless he's got her strapped to the chair, she will make a run to the closest beer store. I'm not Dr. Drew, I am just speaking from experience, one of being a "functioning alcoholic" like his wife myself, and two of having grown up with the stereotypical 24x7 drunk in my family.

[Big A]

What is the best way to stop it? Do I need to quit drinking all together? And also, that is a hard part because every one of our friends drink. Even her parents, it's just that nobody gets drunk very often.

That is my very point, you personally can't stop it. All you can do is make your opinion be known, be supportive, and not drinking with her would certainly go far in proving that you are serious about what you are telling her.

She has to be the one to decide that it is a problem, until then she is going to drink, and distance herself from everyone that dissapproves.