Need some cheering up guys, cuz im lost!

[Cooter]

oh don't get me wrong... mo' money = mo' problems, but no money = ALL problems! LOL

[Leah]

There is just a nip(a hint, if you will) of him in there. I got rid of all of the asshole(you know, the guy that always showed his penis) and tried to leave the good stuff. lol

But...but...that was your best quality.

I've stayed relatively quiet in this thread but I'll add a bit of personal experience... I've learned that when someone is very accustomed to a certain behavior, when time comes they are going to shut down. It won't matter how much you change, it won't matter how better off you end up after making your changes and it sure as hell won't mean a damn thing when you realize what you've lost and it's too late... They are gone until they can see it for themselves.

Some get lucky and they have a significant other that believes them and sees it and wants to have the better you... They give you the opportunity to show them and they want to support you. Some (like you and I apparently) have created a monster in the person that loves them built out of resentment and fear. That monster won't go away on your terms, ever.

I have no doubt that over time, if you TRULY are changing for the better, she will turn towards you again. She will see the difference in the way the kids and friends act around you and talk about you. She might even fall IN love with you again. Only time will tell. The problem with the whole mess is that if/when it happens, you might not be on the same page. Oddly enough, SHE might be too late. She might also be right on time life is funny that way.

Whatever the future holds for you, Levi, keep your head up. You've got good friends and you're not a loser. Take some time and let everything settle: reflection is a mighty powerful asset. You might just realize things are actually not so bad now! You've got a lot of life ahead of you, keep truckin' Holmes!

Great post, Don.

[Jester]

I dont see the bad side that many speak of...but I spend most of my time either at work, the baseball field/cages or the MX track/golf course. I dont get out in the city much.



LoL...I am rich and happy but not because of the amount of money I have.


And Levi, I was just throwing a dig on you earlier. It is out of character for you to post stuff like this and took the opportunity to get in a jab. Get some girlfriends and never allow another woman woo you into putting a ring on her finger.

Yeah, I got to find me some hobbies down here. Time to get me a nice longboard and get to surfing. Got a beautiful jeep and its time to put a beautiful board on top of it.

[Jester]

But...but...that was your best quality.

I know, it really is a magnificent penis, but
I still have my assless chaps!!!

[Leah]

I know, it really is a magnificent penis, but
I still have my assless chaps!!!

Well, at least you have that.

[DON SVO]

Great post, Don.

Thanks, lady

[FATHERFORD]

I dont see the bad side that many speak of...I dont get out in the city much.

I see the bad side of houston everytime I leave work or my house... People are just fucking assholes down here.

I purposely avoid going anywhere past the beltway.

[Denny]

Get on a 3 year plan to work out as much as you can, eat the best diet, make AND save the most money and build some confidence.

3 years is nothing for that kind of investment. Don't go looking for the ultimate cool pad or ride. Bang a chick here and there without any attachments. Get good at something (job, hobby, talent, etc). Then make the world YOUR bitch by starting life at the young age of 36. Think of this opportunity as a gift.

[SSMAN]

Two very important things in life to know (learned this in my old age)

1. Make no mistake about it, you are in control of your own happiness.

2. Don't sacrifice your happiness for anyone. (if there is an exception, it's your kids)


Shit does happen for a reason. Look at it as a new beginning for a better life.

[bubbaearl]

like the man once said . " buy land son , they aint making anymore of it "

[BlackSnake]

I've stayed relatively quiet in this thread but I'll add a bit of personal experience... I've learned that when someone is very accustomed to a certain behavior, when time comes they are going to shut down. It won't matter how much you change, it won't matter how better off you end up after making your changes and it sure as hell won't mean a damn thing when you realize what you've lost and it's too late... They are gone until they can see it for themselves.

Some get lucky and they have a significant other that believes them and sees it and wants to have the better you... They give you the opportunity to show them and they want to support you. Some (like you and I apparently) have created a monster in the person that loves them built out of resentment and fear. That monster won't go away on your terms, ever.

I have no doubt that over time, if you TRULY are changing for the better, she will turn towards you again. She will see the difference in the way the kids and friends act around you and talk about you. She might even fall IN love with you again. Only time will tell. The problem with the whole mess is that if/when it happens, you might not be on the same page. Oddly enough, SHE might be too late. She might also be right on time life is funny that way.

Whatever the future holds for you, Levi, keep your head up. You've got good friends and you're not a loser. Take some time and let everything settle: reflection is a mighty powerful asset. You might just realize things are actually not so bad now! You've got a lot of life ahead of you, keep truckin' Holmes!

Spot on!

[JP135]

It's nauseating to see a grown man groveling over a woman. Get your suspended mancard renewed.

Then puke. Not everybody's as perfect as you think you are.




Jester, do the only thing you can - take it one step at a time. Focus on the next 8 hours, or four hours. When it gets real tough, focus on getting through the next minute one breath at a time. Been there myself, thought it'd kill me, but it didn't and life is SO much better now than what I lost and was grieving over. It took a while and sometimes it was damned tough.

I know you've been going through this for a while. Hoped it'd turn out for the best, but I guess it didn't. I'm sorry for that.

Find things you can fix and fix 'em one at a time - start with the little stuff. Learn from the past. Don't crawl in a bottle, pipe or a needle - that shit just replaces one problem with another one that's worse.

[Emwun Garand]

Did you look like this in high school?

[Jester]

Did you look like this in high school?

very similar. lol

[bcoop]

I have no doubt that over time, if you TRULY are changing for the better, she will turn towards you again. She will see the difference in the way the kids and friends act around you and talk about you. She might even fall IN love with you again. Only time will tell. The problem with the whole mess is that if/when it happens, you might not be on the same page. Oddly enough, SHE might be too late. She might also be right on time life is funny that way.

Oh for the love of God.... Don, have you listened to a single fucking word I've said?