Need some cheering up guys, cuz im lost!

[FATHERFORD]

It wasn't.

horse shit

[talisman]

[bubbaearl]

you need a trip to the farm. good country boy ass whopping will fix you right up and i wont write a check for none of your shit.

[4bangen]

I know how you feel.
I had to leave my ex wife after 6 years together. Even though I was the one who walked I still took it hard. Took me a year to get over it. But I'm happier now than I've ever been. I've taken what I learned from my first marriage and the mistakes we both made, and have applied them to my new one. All the bad shit was worth it considering the joy I have now.

God bless man it's going to be a bumpy ride.
(pm me if you need any advice or an ear. I also have a brother in law who is a minister down there if you need some help in that way.)

[Jester]

you need a trip to the farm. good country boy ass whopping will fix you right up and i wont write a check for none of your shit.

That is exactly what i need!

Thanks 4bangen

[DON SVO]

I've stayed relatively quiet in this thread but I'll add a bit of personal experience... I've learned that when someone is very accustomed to a certain behavior, when time comes they are going to shut down. It won't matter how much you change, it won't matter how better off you end up after making your changes and it sure as hell won't mean a damn thing when you realize what you've lost and it's too late... They are gone until they can see it for themselves.

Some get lucky and they have a significant other that believes them and sees it and wants to have the better you... They give you the opportunity to show them and they want to support you. Some (like you and I apparently) have created a monster in the person that loves them built out of resentment and fear. That monster won't go away on your terms, ever.

I have no doubt that over time, if you TRULY are changing for the better, she will turn towards you again. She will see the difference in the way the kids and friends act around you and talk about you. She might even fall IN love with you again. Only time will tell. The problem with the whole mess is that if/when it happens, you might not be on the same page. Oddly enough, SHE might be too late. She might also be right on time life is funny that way.

Whatever the future holds for you, Levi, keep your head up. You've got good friends and you're not a loser. Take some time and let everything settle: reflection is a mighty powerful asset. You might just realize things are actually not so bad now! You've got a lot of life ahead of you, keep truckin' Holmes!

[Jester]

Thanks Don. Appreciate the kind words, bro.

[bubbaearl]

we talked about the demons long time ago jester . you either overcome them or they own you . no one can help , no one can advise , you must stand before the sunset and decide what tomorrow will bring . cowboy up and handle it .
semperfi bro , remember it .

come see an old fat farmer when ya can.

[Jester]

we talked about the demons long time ago jester . you either overcome them or they own you . no one can help , no one can advise , you must stand before the sunset and decide what tomorrow will bring . cowboy up and handle it .
semperfi bro , remember it .

come see an old fat farmer when ya can.

[Cooter]

good post, Don

[DON SVO]

Thanks Don. Appreciate the kind words, bro.

Lol I didnt say too much that was overly kind... More just matter-of-fact. A few folks here know what ive been dealing with the past few months, and a lot of what you're going through is strikingly similar to my own situation (woman only no kids obviously). I've been busting my ass and doing exactly what I told her I set out to do... The question is will she be there when I'm done? Will I ever be done? I have no idea, but oddly I am not too concerned if she is going to be around or not.

Wasn't the whole purpose of turning a new leaf to make you a better man? Wasn't it to change your life for the better, for the kids etc? That needs to remain your focus. Not her. If she wants to come around she will. You can't stop because she's not responding the way you anticipated. Keep making Levi a better Levi.

[davbrucas]

Yeah, I did have that attitude. I used to get into a pissing contest with guys like davbrucas because of the stupid shit they say. Take for instance the "I wouldnt be whining about it" comment. Well, until you have ever fucking been in my shoes you have no fucking clue just what you would do. And since when does asking for help from people you have come to know over the years been considered whining? It's just comments like that used to make me drop a bitch, but I have grown up and moved on. Now I just shake my head and say to myself "whatever you say tough guy."

LoL...I live in Houston too.

[Jester]

LoL...I live in Houston too.

I'm sorry.

[Cooter]

LoL...I live in Houston too.

but you're rich and happy!

[davbrucas]

I'm sorry.

I dont see the bad side that many speak of...but I spend most of my time either at work, the baseball field/cages or the MX track/golf course. I dont get out in the city much.

but you're rich and happy!

LoL...I am rich and happy but not because of the amount of money I have.


And Levi, I was just throwing a dig on you earlier. It is out of character for you to post stuff like this and took the opportunity to get in a jab. Get some girlfriends and never allow another woman woo you into putting a ring on her finger.