Need some cheering up guys, cuz im lost!

[Jester]

Remember that can'tdrive55 guy that posted instructions for eating a PB&J? Top that...

I think you are referring to my McRib episode. lol

[Jester]

if you're in San Leon, you should have gone to Topwater Grill!!!!

and we should get together for a bite to eat and a beer some time because I'm not THAT far from San Leon

We need to make that happen.
Im gonna give Topwater a try also. I ate so many damn fried and boiled shrimp last night at Bubba's I couldnt see straight! And the bottomless draft beer has me sitting here nursing a hangover all day. Great food and cool atmosphere.

[Cooter]

if you're in San Leon, you should have gone to Topwater Grill!!!!

and we should get together for a bite to eat and a beer some time because I'm not THAT far from San Leon

[46Tbird]

I may even throw in the before, while im at the bar, pics! lol

Remember that can'tdrive55 guy that posted instructions for eating a PB&J? Top that...

[Jester]

Splatter pics or it didn't happen!

I may even throw in the before, while im at the bar, pics! lol

[Denny]

I know man, I cant wait!!!! Im gonna throw some tabasco in there to liven things up a little!

Splatter pics or it didn't happen!

[Jester]

Sounds like a great combo for shitting yourself to death tomorrow!

I know man, I cant wait!!!! Im gonna throw some tabasco in there to liven things up a little!

Well, I am right by Bubba's shimp palace out in the middle of fucking nowhere in San Leon and I am taking my ass up to the bar to enjoy their $10 endless beer and $10 endless shrimp! Gonna be a good night!

Sounds like a great combo for shitting yourself to death tomorrow!

[Jester]

Well, I am right by Bubba's shimp palace out in the middle of fucking nowhere in San Leon and I am taking my ass up to the bar to enjoy their $10 endless beer and $10 endless shrimp! Gonna be a good night!

[DON SVO]

Oh for the love of God.... Don, have you listened to a single fucking word I've said?

Yup. Hence why I said what I did. That paragraph in context of my whole post reads differently than when you pull it from the body. Did you read my 2nd post at all?

Like I said... In Levi's case... She may come back around, she may not. But he can't sit idly hoping she does: the purpose of him being a better man should be really selfish. He needs to make himself better. He needs to be #1 in this instance. When he does knock his wife off the pedestal and put himself there, things will suddenly start taking care of themselves.

In my case, reflection most certainly is a curious thing.

[bcoop]

I have no doubt that over time, if you TRULY are changing for the better, she will turn towards you again. She will see the difference in the way the kids and friends act around you and talk about you. She might even fall IN love with you again. Only time will tell. The problem with the whole mess is that if/when it happens, you might not be on the same page. Oddly enough, SHE might be too late. She might also be right on time life is funny that way.

Oh for the love of God.... Don, have you listened to a single fucking word I've said?

[Jester]

Did you look like this in high school?

very similar. lol

[Emwun Garand]

Did you look like this in high school?

[JP135]

It's nauseating to see a grown man groveling over a woman. Get your suspended mancard renewed.

Then puke. Not everybody's as perfect as you think you are.




Jester, do the only thing you can - take it one step at a time. Focus on the next 8 hours, or four hours. When it gets real tough, focus on getting through the next minute one breath at a time. Been there myself, thought it'd kill me, but it didn't and life is SO much better now than what I lost and was grieving over. It took a while and sometimes it was damned tough.

I know you've been going through this for a while. Hoped it'd turn out for the best, but I guess it didn't. I'm sorry for that.

Find things you can fix and fix 'em one at a time - start with the little stuff. Learn from the past. Don't crawl in a bottle, pipe or a needle - that shit just replaces one problem with another one that's worse.

[BlackSnake]

I've stayed relatively quiet in this thread but I'll add a bit of personal experience... I've learned that when someone is very accustomed to a certain behavior, when time comes they are going to shut down. It won't matter how much you change, it won't matter how better off you end up after making your changes and it sure as hell won't mean a damn thing when you realize what you've lost and it's too late... They are gone until they can see it for themselves.

Some get lucky and they have a significant other that believes them and sees it and wants to have the better you... They give you the opportunity to show them and they want to support you. Some (like you and I apparently) have created a monster in the person that loves them built out of resentment and fear. That monster won't go away on your terms, ever.

I have no doubt that over time, if you TRULY are changing for the better, she will turn towards you again. She will see the difference in the way the kids and friends act around you and talk about you. She might even fall IN love with you again. Only time will tell. The problem with the whole mess is that if/when it happens, you might not be on the same page. Oddly enough, SHE might be too late. She might also be right on time life is funny that way.

Whatever the future holds for you, Levi, keep your head up. You've got good friends and you're not a loser. Take some time and let everything settle: reflection is a mighty powerful asset. You might just realize things are actually not so bad now! You've got a lot of life ahead of you, keep truckin' Holmes!

Spot on!