Need some divorce info, please

[Ratt]

Have y'all tried any kind of counseling? Or do yall plan on just giving up when it gets boring?

You don't read much, do you?

[mustangguy289]

You don't read much, do you?

My bad, I missed that one the first time through.

[Ratt]

My bad, I missed that one the first time through.

Just messin' with ya,.

[Chas_svo]

Look for a "father's rights" attorney. Be ready for things to get uglier than you can imagine. Try to keep you kid out of this, but don't keep everything from them.

Remember, TX is a community property state, and she will get half of evrything that you cannot prove you had before the marriage. This translates into half of everything, and then half of your half. That is a quote from a Tx judge...

Fight for custody, or you may regret it the rest of your life. I do. F@k being amicable, as you will miss your kid growing up.

My 2 cents.

[Cobraman]

Me ! My 10 year anniversary is in October and we're going on our first cruise. Can't wait !

Oh, uh, sorry to hear about your troubles, OP. She sounds like a nut job. No offense. Did you not know she was a nut job before you knocked her up ?

-Aaron

Been on two cruises. Get ready to eat!!

[Jasonone]

I am divorced. my divorce went well but I do have some valuable advice. First, try talking your wife into divorcing without the lawyers as they're just a massive expense, for both of you. If both parties (you included) can be adults there is no reason you can't divide the assets and debt evenly. Your child will be more difficult, but trying to reach a conclusion with your exwife without the hired guns will be beneficial for your son, your pocketbook and your sanity. Second, if you have to lawyer up don't bankrupt yourself on the lawyer, but get the best you can afford. Be prepared for joint custody, especially at first. The laws are written in her favor, and both parties lawyers know it. Shop around for the lawyers, check the fathers rights website, ask friends who have been divorced. A lot of lawyers will work with you on their hourly rate. Lastly remember that whatever you say and do to the mom your son will find out about. You will do best to remember this is not a war of attrition. Both parties have a lot emotion involved and compromise will take you far. I know its the last thing a guy wants to hear when his woman has gone off the deep end but try a little empathy, it will give you the advantage if you know what she really wants. Kind of an understand your enemy thing.

[Mychael101]

It's pretty easy to understand the mindset of a woman in a divorce/custody case. The majority are only interested in maintaining the status quo and saving face in front of their family and friends.

[bluecollar]

Thanks for all of the advice so far. Yes, we have tried counseling. I have tried everything I can think of to make it work and to make her happy. No, she was not like this when we met. She has always been on depression meds, but everything seemed under control and she was an awesome person to be around. Everything started to change about half way through the pregnancy. I hoped that it was just all of the hormones of being pregnant and would pass.

I have packed up my entire life and moved, twice, for her. I have always been willing to do whatever it takes. But when her only answer to anything is now "I don't know" then I am kind of stuck. I can't make it better if she can't tell me what's wrong.

Honestly, I am squeaky clean. I work, go home take care of my son, go to bed. Repeat. I have not and will not ever cheat, it's just not who I am. I have no desire to "bash" her verbally on here or anywhere else, it's just pointless. I think that we could settle everything without lawyers, but I KNOW that her mom won't allow that. She has to have her nose in every single thing my wife does.

For whoever asked for me to sell the formula cheap...it's actually her car. She's had it since she was 15.

[Treasure Chest]

I am divorced. my divorce went well but I do have some valuable advice. First, try talking your wife into divorcing without the lawyers as they're just a massive expense, for both of you. If both parties (you included) can be adults there is no reason you can't divide the assets and debt evenly. Your child will be more difficult, but trying to reach a conclusion with your exwife without the hired guns will be beneficial for your son, your pocketbook and your sanity. Second, if you have to lawyer up don't bankrupt yourself on the lawyer, but get the best you can afford. Be prepared for joint custody, especially at first. The laws are written in her favor, and both parties lawyers know it. Shop around for the lawyers, check the fathers rights website, ask friends who have been divorced. A lot of lawyers will work with you on their hourly rate. Lastly remember that whatever you say and do to the mom your son will find out about. You will do best to remember this is not a war of attrition. Both parties have a lot emotion involved and compromise will take you far. I know its the last thing a guy wants to hear when his woman has gone off the deep end but try a little empathy, it will give you the advantage if you know what she really wants. Kind of an understand your enemy thing.

I'm pretty sure that at least one party is required to have a lawyer if there are kids involved.

[bcoop]

Buy a 55 gallon drum of KY, a 55 gallon drum of whiskey, and bend over and grab your ankles. That's the only advice I'll give.

[Blackpony]

Is there anyone on this site that is NOT divorced?

Im not! Been together for almost 9 years, married for almost 3!

To the op, sorry to hear bro. Its especially bad for the kids. My parents got divorced, when i was young. Best advice i can give you, is stay positive around the kids. Dont say anything bad about the other.

[Kenny_Stang]

I'm pretty sure that at least one party is required to have a lawyer if there are kids involved.

That's not true at all... just finished getting divorced (court date was September 2nd), I filed and filled out all the papework myself. Total out of pocket cost was $375 for filing fees.

BTW, that was for an uncontested divorce WITH children. For a contested divorce, I would agree that you will need to both have lawyers.

[Jasonone]

I'm pretty sure that at least one party is required to have a lawyer if there are kids involved.

We didn't have kids and I'm not aware of any law about that... I could see how the courts might have to get involved with todays legal bs, but i'm not sure they can require you to hire a lawyer... would probably be in your best interests if a trip to the courthouse is required though...

[onemeangixxer7502]

Sorry bro, I hope you can get it sorted out without costing an arm and a leg. Makes me scared to ever get married

[racrguy]

Is there anyone on this site that is NOT divorced?

Can't get divorced if you've never been married