How would you handle this

[347Mike]

at what age is it ok to start making kids responsible since we have so many experts in here?

i had stolen my first car by age 11.

god bless.

I was raised very young to be responsible so I enstill the same into my kid. I did the dishes, I mowed the yard, I took out the trash I did all of that and more at a young age. I think letting a dog out and making sure it has water is pretty minute in comparison.

Kids are fucking lazy these days and I will be damned if mine will be a lazy, slob, couch body.

[SEB]

but he was there, that morning before he went to his house and let buttkiss in, and then came back and stayed the night. there were 2 chances to do something. even if it isn't my dog locked in a car i would break the window to save it... most people would

I left that morning at 5 am. I try & get my work done early so im not in the heat working, Also I didnt bring my dog in, I called my Neighbor Gabe & had him bring my dog in. At which point I called Mandy to do the same.

[big_tiger]

If it's not your dog, and is your GF's home and son, you need to teach both of them a lesson.

Why the hell are you digging the hole? Your daughter, and that kid should have been digging that hole.
This thread is full of.

[clevelandkid]

If you tell your kids to look both ways when crossing a street, or not to get in a strangers car, or not to play with matches - and they do it any way.... do you absolve yourself from any responsibility?

The mother is every bit as responsible for the death of the dog as the child is. The lack of care exhibited by them for not bringing the dog in out of the heat, or at least making sure it was watered makes it obvious that they are not fit to be pet owners, and the lack of supervision by the mother is a big red flag for me on her ability to raise a child.

I can only hope this is the last pet and child that is placed in her care.

[KBScobravert]

"Never let a crisis go to waste"

There are several lessons to learn here, it is your job as the adult to make sure they are understood.

[Blackout]

Trust me I am pissed. Very pissed considering I called & told her to bring him in.

You guys are really gonna be pissed cause this isnt the first time a dog has died, About 5 years back they had another dog named Rocky. He was a Boston Terrier we bought for Peyton & he got out the house & got hit by a car.

This is why I am frustrated and don't know how to handle this or jsut walk away & not come around till I calm down. Because I am a animal lover & outside his Dad who see's Peyton maybe 3 times year. Im the closet thing he has to a father. Me & his mom seperated 4 years ago as some of you know & we see each other. But I am not in his life every day. But I do take Responsibility of this cause it is my job as a Animal lover to teach him & make it burn in that this is not how we treat animals.

ok so you and this kids mom aren’t even together anymore. damn dude. you’re a stand up guy in my book I’m kind of in the same situation as you with a kid. but idk if you should do anything about it. sounds like the mom is a lazy ass and shouldn’t be allowed to have pets then end.

[papapepper]

This thread is crooked and all kinds of sick. SEB did you learn your lesson? Good. I believe you have. Now you need to make sure the mother and child both learn their lesson. Be the man in the relationship, obviously they don't understand the importance of this situation. Ultimately it is the mothers fault but since you play the daddy role you're also involved.

[Leah]

do NOT put this on that child no matter what.... he's fucking NINE man....

Yes you told him, but ultimately YOU are responsible for everything living and breathing in that home...not a child. YOU should have made sure the dog was being taken care of properly.

This is a situation where it is really everyones fault. The kid should have given the dog water, but the adults should have been checking on this. Everyone needs to go outside and start digging.

Seriously, it will be a somber moment that everyone will remember, the kid especially.

I buried a few dogs as a kid, and it wasn't even my fault. I remember each one of the circumstances to this day.

These. He's fucking 9 years old. Do you guys know what putting this on a 9 year old could do to him? As a Psych major and working with the psyche of kids for over 10 years-he is going to feel like shit enough (or at least he should-if he doesn't, you have a whole other set of problems) without forcing a baby to dig a fucking grave and lament over how he (AT 9 YEARS OLD) killed something.

Go out with him and while you are ALL digging a grave or doing whatever you are going to do with him, talk about it, discuss it and explain to him that while he was given the responsibility to watch over him, it was ultimately YOUR responsibility as a parent to watch and make sure it was getting done. Maybe even talk about how it will probably be a while before he is given responsibility of that magnitude in order to allow him to understand that actions have consequences and sometimes it's a hard lesson.

[papapepper]

These. He's fucking 9 years old. Do you guys know what putting this on a 9 year old could do to him? As a Psych major and working with the psyche of kids for over 10 years-he is going to feel like shit enough (or at least he should-if he doesn't, you have a whole other set of problems) without forcing a baby to dig a fucking grave and lament over how he (AT 9 YEARS OLD) killed something.

Go out with him and while you are ALL digging a grave or doing whatever you are going to do with him, talk about it, discuss it and explain to him that while he was given the responsibility to watch over him, it was ultimately YOUR responsibility as a parent to watch and make sure it was getting done. Maybe even talk about how it will probably be a while before he is given responsibility of that magnitude in order to allow him to understand that actions have consequences and sometimes it's a hard lesson.

He is 11. In 6th grade I knew enough about death.

[Nash B.]

Make him dig two holes - one for the dog, and one in case he lets it happen again.

[HarrisonTX]

Did the dog show any signs of arm bar?

HA! this deserves recognition.

[46Tbird]

What kind of fucking idiot has a dog outside in this heat? Are you kidding me? If you have a stinky slobbering dog that will tear shit up, then buy it a kennel. But don't leave it outside when it's 110+ degrees, damn.

[KoopaTroopa]

At that age,he should be responsible for something..BUT,it is the parents duty to check(physically) on their childs "chores" to see if they were done. This situation absolutely makes me sick. It really pisses me off that your ex failed to take in consideration of how fucking hot it is outside,it was 106 in Saginaw yesterday! I think that the child should have a good "talkin' to" but also,your ex needs to have this and serious matters brought to her attention. Also,take the xbox away... no more until he can prove that he is a little more responsible!
I don't think that household is "fit" for family pets,end of story!

[Sean88gt]

These. He's fucking 9 years old. Do you guys know what putting this on a 9 year old could do to him? As a Psych major and working with the psyche of kids for over 10 years-he is going to feel like shit enough (or at least he should-if he doesn't, you have a whole other set of problems) without forcing a baby to dig a fucking grave and lament over how he (AT 9 YEARS OLD) killed something.

Go out with him and while you are ALL digging a grave or doing whatever you are going to do with him, talk about it, discuss it and explain to him that while he was given the responsibility to watch over him, it was ultimately YOUR responsibility as a parent to watch and make sure it was getting done. Maybe even talk about how it will probably be a while before he is given responsibility of that magnitude in order to allow him to understand that actions have consequences and sometimes it's a hard lesson.

You have to drive that shit home and every time the chance presents itself, rub it in. Throw a tennis ball and wait, then call the dog's name, then look at the kid and say something comforting like "Oh..that's right...he's FUCKING DEAD! Murderer..." And keep this going for months.

[Leah]

He is 11. In 6th grade I knew enough about death.

I thought he was 9? My 6 year old knows about death. Eleven is still too young to be told you're RESPONSIBLE for something's death.