How would you handle this

[347Mike]

As did I, and if I didn't fulfill my roles and responsibilities I'd get an ass whoopin in a new york minute. My parents still made sure I was doing as I was instructed though.


It's awful that for whatever reason this dog died, but it's not JUST the kids fault. Him forgetting about the dog was a weighing factor, but what about the parent making sure it got done?

When there's something THAT important, I'll stand there with my hand on my hip and supervise if that's what it takes to ensure it's done, and done properly

If you have to stand there and supervise that isn't much of a responsibility it is more like a chore that no one wants to do.

You're making the kid accept some responsibility and dig a hole. Its not like you are telling the kid he is a piece of shit and kicking him into the hole.

It all depends on how it was conveyed, if the kid wanted to do it, was forced to do it etc. I do also agree that the onus lies with Seb. If you were really afraid of the outcome then I would have done something.

[Ruffdaddy]

Why the fuck didn't you give the dog water or bring him in? You really have that much trust in a 9 year old? You teach him lessons by verifying he did what you told him, not by letting a dog die. This could have been easily prevented if anyone in your house was responsible.

And I do think you need to take the opportunity to let him learn the lesson that this was his fault.

[big_tiger]

scold yourself for not bringing the dog in... fuck relying on that dumb ass kid!

x3 Good lesson you taught the kid, and it only cost the life of a dog.

[MutherjuggZ]

I don't want this to sound wrong because whatever your arrangement may be is your business but why are you the one scolding this nine year old when you aren't his dad? To me that is going to be sending all sorts of crazy signals to the boy. His mom should be the parent here shouldn't she?

Well, if me and my son had both contributed to the death of one of my dogs, I wouldn't involve my ex-husband in the matter at all. Not his dog, not his house, not his problem. Then again that's only because he takes 0 involvement with the kids anyway.

In this case SEB and baby mama are the adults in the household so it should be handled primarily by mama, and backed up closely by SEB on a mutual decision.


SEB, you should at least talk to the kid like "Oh no, Look what WE did, we should be ashamed of ourselves...let's go give this guy a proper burial" not , "look what you did Peyton!"

[mustangguy289]

Explain to him what happened. Then explain how you failed as a role model/ father figure because you did not check on it. Scolding will not be needed as i am sure just the event alone will teach the kid a lesson.

[papapepper]

Honestly I don't think anyone in that household should own another dog.

[EW]

scold yourself for not bringing the dog in... fuck relying on that dumb ass kid!

yep

[Blackout]

SEB, you should at least talk to the kid like "Oh no, Look what WE did, we should be ashamed of ourselves...let's go give this guy a proper burial" not , "look what you did Peyton!"

^ this. its sad that the dog died and the kid should know that because no one came out their including your self the dog died. i have had pets for years and im lucky to have had parents that would pick up mu slack if i didnt do my part to take care of them. but im not going to bash you for this its hard enough you had to lose a pet and same goes for the kid next time both of you will know better.

[MutherjuggZ]

If you have to stand there and supervise that isn't much of a responsibility it is more like a chore that no one wants to do.

Bullshit if it's not a responsibility. If it's THAT important to me for them to learn something... they're damn well going to learn it, and I'm not going to turn them loose on it to learn it wrong or fuck it up. I'll stand there for 5 fucking hours to ensure they learn how something is done PROPERLY and make them do all the work themselves.

I'm not going to just say...."here kid, tag you're it...you're responsible... good luck figuring that out"

[HarrisonTX]

Make him did the dogs grave.

[GrayStangGT]

Be sure he is the one that has to carry the dog and put it in the hole too, I think that will really drive the point home.

[talisman]

do NOT put this on that child no matter what.... he's fucking NINE man....

Yes you told him, but ultimately YOU are responsible for everything living and breathing in that home...not a child. YOU should have made sure the dog was being taken care of properly.

I agree with this.

[bjtheman1]

No pets should be outside in this shit, you're both to blame.

[SEB]

Well I made Peyton get a garbage sack & help me bag his body up & got a shovel & took him in to the pasture to bury him. To make matters worse. The ground is rock hard. I had to put 4 hoses together & letting the water wet the soil through out the day. Going to bury him tonight when their mom gets home.

Kim Peyton is 11 years old. Not 9 as I had said before. He is going to be a 6th grader this year. This is a tough matter to handle because I think he didnt water the dog every couple hours like I said. His mother said he watered him that morning & once that night. He was alive last night from what I was told. But his body stunk pretty bad & was stiff. I found him at 7 this morning & cant imagine him stinking that bad in a 12 hour window. I dont think Peyton is telling the truth completely.

But he did water the dog like I asked, But I don't think he did it every couple hours like said. I imagine he got all in to his X-Box games & forgot about the dog.

[BP]

Honestly I don't think anyone in that household should own another dog.

Best answer yet, and they should get a visit from the ASPCA. At 9 a kid probably doesn't understand what a heat stroke is or that animals can die from it. I'd bury the dog myself and tell the kid it ran away. No way is it his fault it died and he shouldn't have any reason to have that kind of crap haunting him for the rest of his life.