What to say to girlfriend's ex?

[Rick Modena]

Washed up?

Retired?

Out to pasture?

You just have my room ready, I like to hit up CC in the fall...

[Rick Modena]

I probably shouldn't be on this site.

You're right you shouldn't, your ass should be working instead of complaining about certain threads not being work safe. We have better things to do than to be policing threads that you can't open while surfing the net at work.

[mstng86]

You're right you shouldn't, your ass should be working instead of complaining about certain threads not being work safe. We have better things to do than to be policing threads that you can't open while surfing the net at work.

What is better than surfing this site? Besides pron of course.

[Mychael101]

Look dude... just grab her phone take a pic of your dick and send it to him with the text "she's busy with this" he should get the point.

But be prepared for a reply with a similar pic with the message "I've seen your girl's butthole!"

[0 GT 2]

Why come here and ask for opinions if you're going to blow them all off, and make excuses? You asked for opinions, we are giving them to you. You can't change your tune now because you don't like or agree with what you are hearing. Everyone here is speaking from experience. If you don't want to listen, that's fine. Don't ask then.


I'll sit back and wait for the "Just found out my girlfriend has been banging her ex" thread, or the update to this one "Well, I went in acting all billy badass, and she got pissed and broke it off".

I'm not making excuses but the things that are being said here are not relevant to the situation. My question was is someone has dealt with something like this and what they found to work/not work.

From this I've gathered -
- Don't meet him in a parking lot
- If she has a family don't expect them to just fall by the wayside
- Put my ego aside and don't rile up his emotions because that's only going to lead to more contact
- Don't get mad when he asks how his dick tastes

[Silverback]

I'm not making excuses but the things that are being said here are not relevant to the situation. My question was is someone has dealt with something like this and what they found to work/not work.

From this I've gathered -
- Don't meet him in a parking lot
- If she has a family don't expect them to just fall by the wayside
- Put my ego aside and don't rile up his emotions because that's only going to lead to more contact
- Don't get mad when he asks how his dick tastes

How long ago did they break up?

How long have you been dating her?

How long has it be serious?

[Ruffdaddy]

I'm not making excuses but the things that are being said here are not relevant to the situation. My question was is someone has dealt with something like this and what they found to work/not work.

From this I've gathered -
- Don't meet him in a parking lot
- If she has a family don't expect them to just fall by the wayside
- Put my ego aside and don't rile up his emotions because that's only going to lead to more contact
- Don't get mad when he asks how his dick tastes

You forgot to add that she's cheating on you...or at least hiding some texts.

[0 GT 2]

How long ago did they break up?

How long have you been dating her?

How long has it be serious?

They broke up last winter, we met in January and started taking it serious at the end of February.

[Mychael101]

They broke up last winter, we met in January and started taking it serious at the end of February.

Why would you take any relationship "seriously" after only 2 months?

["MrEd"]

no i didnt read every post.
but
3-4 months later and she still cant shake the "X"...
she is still fucking with him....
leave her alone and i wouldnt even fret over him.
good luck
find you a fat girl!
LOL

[Silverback]

yeah, sounds like you're in for some problems.

This is typically within the six month time frame when he starts calling again, missing her because he's lonely or regrets his mistakes. She still has a connection to him, and if he plays his cards right, he'll win her back.

Dating her that close to their breakup definitely puts you in the rebound category. I'm not saying it can't work between the two of you, but you definitely need to set the ground rules and expectations, and not be afraid to stand up to her. The only two options I'd settle for in this situation would be to block his number, or change her's, it's honestly the only way to get him to stop contacting her. Especially if it's via text. By the time he realizes he's blocked or her number doesn't work, he'll have sent her 100 messages, and gotten extremely pissed at her, that he's talked himself out of wanting her back.

You're trying to stand up to him, when he has the edge on you, he probably knows more about her at this point, what buttons to push, which strings to tug on, than you do.

[Silverback]

You forgot to add that she's cheating on you...or at least hiding some texts.

I wouldn't say she's cheating at this point, but it is very possible.

At most she's staying in contact with him outside of your radar, and that's what's causing him to contact her when he's drunk and vulnerable.

[0 GT 2]

Why would you take any relationship "seriously" after only 2 months?

Because we're two like minded, no bullshit people that don't invest our time into something if we're half assing it.

[Smurfette]

I have had to deal with this a few times..

In my experience ignoring the texts works but takes awhile because some guys just don't give up. If she changes her number the texts will go away but he will then try to contact her on facebook, email or show up at her place. Every time she texts him back (regardless of what they say) he is getting a response and that feeds the situation.

She needs to make it VERY clear that she is not interested, is with you and if he continues then you will be having a conversation with him. Let her deal with it and just be willing to step in if she can't get it to stop .


Good Luck.

[Jimbo]

They broke up last winter, we met in January and started taking it serious at the end of February.

They broke up in 2010, and he is constantly calling in july 2011? Yeah, there is something missing there.