Spanking = Felony

[94form2000z]

You can not negotiate with kids who dont behave. Ive never had to spank my 3 nephews or my son. Ive never had any problems with my son because he knows what will happend if he gets out of line. my brothers two boys i warn them one time with the belt right next to me, they immediately stop. i do the same thing with my sisters newphew whos living with me. anytime he gets into to trouble or doesnt do what hes told they just mention that they will get me and he immediately stops. I have never negotiated with them which is what i see a lot from parents now a days. i explain to the boys that if they get out of line they get one warning, the next one they will be spanked. its not about making them fear you but fear what the consequences will be.

I am not sure how old the kiddos you speak of are, but they will test you eventually and of course you will have to follow through. I think we all do what your saying at first and it does work for a while with most of them.

[idrivea4banger]

I am not sure how old the kiddos you speak of are, but they will test you eventually and of course you will have to follow through. I think we all do what your saying at first and it does work for a while with most of them.

4, 5, 7 and 10. Believe me the 5 & 7 do test me sometimes but not enough to spank them with the belt; my brothers sons. The 4 yo who lives with me does not like the idea of me punishing him. Usually I take away something he likes. It works, he hasn't made the same mistake twice since he's been with me. I do show him the belt and let him know what will happen. Same goes for my other two nephews, they understand that I don't mess around. I've never had problems with my son because he's never been problematic but he does know what will happen if he gets out of line. I've got these boys in check that it only takes a verbal for them to straighten up.

[dustin]

Bcoop, I rarely read something that you post that I disagree with. Likewise, Steve often comes off as a total douche and I dont always agree with him. But in this case it's hard to justify leaving a bruise on a 2 yr old. You can deliver the message without necessarily "bringing the pain". I realize that it may have been meant differently than it was received but hitting your kids with the intent to maximize pain is a little borderline. I'm all for spankings even with ass beating accessories (belt, spoon, etc...). I'm more put off by your word choices and the overall tone of your post.

When I was a kid, my parents would make me wait in my room for my ass beating sometimes hours at a time. It was agonizing and I thought it was some mind fuck from my dad. As an adult, I discussed this with my mom who shared with me that he made me wait so that he would never hit me out of anger. By the time I was a teen, just the thought of disappointing my parents was enough to deter any badassery.

[GE]

Sounds like 4banger has a damn daycare running over there!

[idrivea4banger]

Sounds like 4banger has a damn daycare running over there!

Haha, seems like it most of the times. My sister is deployed so her son stays with me. My brother is trying to get his life back on track so they stay here every now and then. I've practically helped raise his boys. He's a recovering heroin addict who's turning his life around. So I've got pretty good experience in raising kids and 4 at that. They know i dont fuck around.

[Cheezebandit]

There's a blown tire joke in here somewhere, I just can't put it together.

If spanking your kid for acting up is wrong, I don't want to be right.

this made me LOL

[OreoStang]

I would say that we all agree spanking is acceptable. And like said before not all kids are the same and different things work on different kids. U just have to figure out what works. I don't have kids of my own yet but spanking will not be out of line. But hell I was one of the kids who didn't like a stern voice to me. That is how I was. I tell u what my niece(sister's girls) listen to me pretty damn good. I feel bad for my brother cause I am betting his little girl will be a real daddy's girl(musclestang89). Some of u guys know him. He was always the one the nieces played with but they listened to me far better

[94form2000z]

4, 5, 7 and 10. Believe me the 5 & 7 do test me sometimes but not enough to spank them with the belt

Yeah I don't use a belt. Well I did with my boy when he was about 13 or 14.. it was just more humiliating for him. I never left bruises though. I think my now 18 and 16 yr old might have gotten 3 MAYBE 4 spankings in their life. Beyond that it was the threat of it that worked

[Baba Ganoush]

But yet, here is a thread with a bunch of people, several I suspect that don't even have kids of their own preaching to others about how to properly raise children. Your perspective is much different after having children of your own, than before you had them when you can say your parents did this or that to you.

I completely despise this type of thinking.

"You're not a parent, you wouldn't understand.".

Horseshit.

Like there is some knowledge instantly attained the day you have a child, you're enlightened. Sure your perspective changes, but your knowledge base isn't instantly increased by the fruition of your crotch fruit.

Raising a child should be a learning process from day 1. Never discount an adult's opinion, regardless of their experience. No one has all the answers, but if you don't open your mind up to the diversity of ideas and opinions of intelligent individuals, you will fail in your duties.

I may not have a spawn, but I damn sure know a little about raising one.

[SS Junk]

I'm in trouble because I have no issue with swatting my kids or threatening to do so in public.

[Steve]

I completely despise this type of thinking.

"You're not a parent, you wouldn't understand.".

Horseshit.

Like there is some knowledge instantly attained the day you have a child, you're enlightened. Sure your perspective changes, but your knowledge base isn't instantly increased by the fruition of your crotch fruit.

Raising a child should be a learning process from day 1. Never discount an adult's opinion, regardless of their experience. No one has all the answers, but if you don't open your mind up to the diversity of ideas and opinions of intelligent individuals, you will fail in your duties.

I may not have a spawn, but I damn sure know a little about raising one.

Like it or not, it's the truth. Your attitude will change when it's a child of your own. As well as what you think your knowledge base it when it comes to raising a child. No matter how much you think you know, or how well prepared you think you are, everything changes when you actually have one.

I agree with you, raising a child is a learning process from day one, no doubt about that. But as you sit there now without a child of your own, what you aren't prepared for is the relationship and attachment you will have your own child. This is something you will not understand until the very moment you see your own child come into this world. When this happens, come back and we'll discuss it further because I can promise you, you attitude will change from what it is now.

[SS Junk]

I've never used a belt with my kids because I've been able to get my message through, however they are only 11 and 5. Once they get to the age where my hand no longer sends a message, the belt it is...

[Baba Ganoush]

Like it or not, it's the truth. Your attitude will change when it's a child of your own. As well as what you think your knowledge base it when it comes to raising a child. No matter how much you think you know, or how well prepared you think you are, everything changes when you actually have one.

I agree with you, raising a child is a learning process from day one, no doubt about that. But as you sit there now without a child of your own, what you aren't prepared for is the relationship and attachment you will have your own child. This is something you will not understand until the very moment you see your own child come into this world. When this happens, come back and we'll discuss it further because I can promise you, you attitude will change from what it is now.

You're probably right. I won't ever discount the opinion of a parent. I'm just disappointed when people say this to me, like I'm ignorant to the process. At my age, almost everyone I associate with has children. I'll offer my opinion, and they will refute with this logic, only once. Though it seems the mindset of every parent to dismiss good advice on the grounds of what they perceive as an unqualified source.

[Steve]

You're probably right. I won't ever discount the opinion of a parent. I'm just disappointed when people say this to me, like I'm ignorant to the process. At my age, almost everyone I associate with has children. I'll offer my opinion, and they will refute with this logic, only once. Though it seems the mindset of every parent to dismiss good advice on the grounds of what they perceive as an unqualified source.

I understand that someone being dismissive to your opinion and thoughts on it are abit insulting, but in my opinion, I don't think you should take it personally. While you are most likely very wise on most other things for people our age, you really are ignorant when it comes to being a parent. I know the word "ignorant" is offensive to the pride and ego, but all it really means is that you just don't know any better. There is a difference between being ignorant and stupid, I'm sure you're not stupid, just personally inexperienced on being a parent which just makes you ignorant on the subject.

It's easy to have an outside looking in opinion on a subject that seems very black in white in nature when dealing in a parental situation. But when it's your child, someone you are completely responsible in everyway to mold into a decent human being, it's very daunting task and very different when it's your child.

I respect the fact you passionate enough on the subject to be riled up on it, especially when you don't have a child of you own, but this really is one of those things that you need to experience for yourself before you can truthfully have a full insight on the subject before having a clear opinion on the matter.

Have a good day.

[ELVIS]

I understand that someone being dismissive to your opinion and thoughts on it are abit insulting, but in my opinion, I don't think you should take it personally. While you are most likely very wise on most other things for people our age, you really are ignorant when it comes to being a parent. I know the word "ignorant" is offensive to the pride and ego, but all it really means is that you just don't know any better. There is a difference between being ignorant and stupid, I'm sure you're not stupid, just personally inexperienced on being a parent which just makes you ignorant on the subject.

It's easy to have an outside looking in opinion on a subject that seems very black in white in nature when dealing in a parental situation. But when it's your child, someone you are completely responsible in everyway to mold into a decent human being, it's very daunting task and very different when it's your child.

I respect the fact you passionate enough on the subject to be riled up on it, especially when you don't have a child of you own, but this really is one of those things that you need to experience for yourself before you can truthfully have a full insight on the subject before having a clear opinion on the matter.

Have a good day.

holy condescension batman!

god bless.