Sex education in school....How to talk to a 12 yr old ?

[80coupe]

Forget all the nonsense posted so far. Tell him with a poem!

Son, you're twelve, and life couldn't be meaner.
But it gets a lot better once you discover your weiner.

That thing between your legs isn't only for tinkles.
With a tug and a slap it will lose all it's wrinkles!



Shit, gotta go back to work, but that should get you started. I'll add more later if I have time.

hhaha Lmao!

[SSMAN]

Got a playboy on hand? Then top it off with some porn? LOL, same here with my 12 year old.

[Hobie]

He's 12 - it's too late, he already knows. Most boys I knew at that age had already seen porno mags or VHS and with today's web I'm sure he's seen it all by now.

[Snatch Napkin]

He's 12 - it's too late, he already knows. Most boys I knew at that age had already seen porno mags or VHS and with today's web I'm sure he's seen it all by now.

No shit!!

We had a Penthouse in an old stump to look at when we were 7 or 8.

Got my first blowjob at 11, then a week later the same chick wanted to have a simulated rape session with her. Later that night this same chick got me and her little sister naked to see if my dick would fit.

What fine times we had when our parents were getting hammered with their friends!!!

[billybob81]

I had to help teach that class at the elementary school I work at. Being one of two males that work in the building, me and the PE coach were asked by the school nurse to go over the "Growth and Development" video with the 5th and 6th grade boys. The nurse thought the students would feel more comfortable talking and asking questions to us instead of female teachers. It was amazing some of the things that 5th and 6th graders already know, and they weren't shy about it. Chances are, he already knows more than what you think he does. Just go over the basics about it with him and explain how guys are "visual people and sometimes things will make you excited." Explain the consequences of what can happen and how that can affect his whole life. Our videos didn't really go into detail about sex, but rather how everything "works" on the male body.

[Hobie]

Buy him a stack of porn and lock him in his room, he'll figure it out.

I'm confused, how does one stack bandwidth? ;P

Teach him how to wrap it. He's almost the age of getting at it. Abstinence is bs.

This - I've known guys in their mid 20's that didn't know to leave some room at the top.

When I was a teenager I had a friend whose mom left condoms in a table drawer for her older brother. Her mom never checked/counted/asked. She simply made sure the box wasn't empty every so often. This wasn't until he was 17-18, but it's definitely something I have thought of doing when my boys get older. They are NOT going to walk in a store and buy condoms and they definitely ARE going to have sex.

My mom found a girls panties in my bed when she did laundry when I was 15. When she folded the sheets and left them on the bed there was a box of condoms on top. Good move, at that time I sure wasn't going to buy condoms, but I was still going to have sex.

I can't imagine having that conversation with my mom. Holy shit. The stack of porn method may be the best course of action. Or better yet, a subscription to realitykings.com. Nothing explains the way a man can love and be committed to a woman like a Mike's apartment video.

My pops wasn't around and my mom had the talk with me, a-w-k-w-a-r-d, but I was 10 or so. By the time I was in 6th grade I knew a handful of kids having sex. Two girls and about five-ish guys. At least 4 of them had sex with the 1 girl in a row at least once that I know of. Getting trains run on you at 12, shit, can't imagine what that poor girl is into at 30, if she's even still alive.

Being uninformed, ashamed, or scared of sex is what leads kids to give in to peer pressure, or make bad decisions on sex.

Hell don't be afraid to even start discussing alcohol and drugs and the effects they can have on judgement during sexual encounters. The more informed and confident your son is about all of these things, the better decisions he'll make down the road.

Most of the friends I had that got the "sex is wrong", or "sex is dangerous" speaches were the first ones to blow it all off and end up knocking someone up, or having to dip their cocks in vats of alcohol after a drip to Mexico

Couldn't agree more.

1). I lost my virginity at 15 (girlfriend was 14). Your son probably already knows someone at 12 who talks about it and has done it so the more accurate information he gets from you the better.
2). Reinforce that girls can get pregnant even with no penetration (just rubbing).
3). At least explain to him to pinch the the tip of the condom and hold it to keep air out of the reservoir as he rolls it on, I didn't know that for a while. Maybe there are some drawings (or videos with fruit, etc) on the internet to help take away the awkwardness.
4). Make sure he knows, condoms DO break. The second time I had sex, the condom broke and I had no idea why it felt so much better until I was finished. I lost 10 pounds over the next 20 days waiting for my girlfriend to have her period worried literally sick I got her pregnant.
5). I wanted sex bad enough to go through the embarrassment of buying condoms, but I didn't want to mill around the condom isle either so I'd grab something and run. Make sure he knows they come in different sizes, I ended up with Magnums one time.
6). Let him know some STDs are permanent, and you can still get them from oral sex.

Bolded the ones I felt were more important. Don't even kiss bitches with fever blisters, let alone them suck your cock!

If he's 12, he's most likely had numerous conversations about sex with his buddies, or at least what they think sex is. Teaching Abstinence is a good thing, but unfortunately only a small percentage will follow it, teaching responsibility will be very important. My dad had the birds an bees talk with me around 11 or 12 best I remember. There had been plenty of talk about girls and such at school and on the school bus long before that. Around 15 he proceeded to give me some condoms, like stated above it's not rocket science. With today's trends, waiting until he's 15 could be dangerous considering kids are starting at 12 and 13 commonly. My ex-coworker is a youth minister at a local church and it amazes me how young in age kids do things compared to when I was in school which wasn't that long ago.

On another note, I've had a nephew now for 4 and half years, my youngest sister had him just before her 16 Bday, I have to say she's been a great mom considering. My mom had her on birthcontrol, for acne/ period regulation which I call bs on. Point is, didn't do much good when she didn't take it.

I think explaining being responsible will go a long way, oh and "don't keep them in your wallet", "store in high heat areas", blah blah blah.

DEFINITELY explain that the pull and shoot method is not a safety, I can't believe the amount of 20+ age people that still think that is a viable method. Also that sperm can live up to 5 days inside the woman and that it only takes 1 out of the millions to fertilize the egg so the chances of pregnancy are super high. Also precum is more potent than ejaculate so no "just a couple pokes then I'll put it on"

Good luck

I wonder how different it really is. Everyone looks at the past through rose colored glasses. It's something I've been thinking about more and more as the years go by. I knew kids nearly 20 years ago having sex at 12. I've got two cousins I'm close with that are 10 years older than me and I've brought it up to them. They have the same kinds of stories. My Grandfather is 87 and grew up the son of a roughneck in the depression. He claims to have been smoking and drinking whiskey "years" before he could drive.

Society may be opening kids up to sexuality at younger ages, but no matter what boys aren't getting into sex until puberty starts to hit them. From then on pussy is on the brain. Once upon a time everyone got married in their teens. Boys have been into sex at roughly the same age since the dawn of time and that will never change by much.

I still think teaching abstinence or telling your kid in any way that sex is wrong will only drive him to hide it making him afraid to buy condoms and do it properly. The only reason I true hiding so much and chancing shot was because of the super religious stance my mom had.

I'm not super opposed to abstinence to a point, but all the super religious kids I knew growing up got REALLY weird about sex. Some of them had issues into their 20's that I know of. One was gay, disowned by his family, and committed suicide in his mid 20's. YAY RELIGION OF LOVE AND FORGIVENESS!

This is great advice.

He needs to know to pinch the reservoir tip and to use water based lubricants when necessary. It would be a good decision to use spermicidal lubricated condoms.

I usually present these types of conversations with a few key facts (keeping it minimal with one main subject) and allow that to sink in so that they will have questions. Once I feel they have adequately understood what I just said, then I move to the next block of information and repeat.

When the quandary of pre-marital sex comes up, my response will be two parted. I explain the benefits of abstinence first. Then I explain the benefits of having a profound knowledge of the inner workings of great sex.

Got a playboy on hand? Then top it off with some porn? LOL, same here with my 12 year old.

Is Playboy still in print? Last I remembered they didn't even show snatch let alone sex. Either way, 12 y/o has seen internet porn and probably has more on his phone or at the least a usb drive than you ever had in print.

I had to help teach that class at the elementary school I work at. Being one of two males that work in the building, me and the PE coach were asked by the school nurse to go over the "Growth and Development" video with the 5th and 6th grade boys. The nurse thought the students would feel more comfortable talking and asking questions to us instead of female teachers. It was amazing some of the things that 5th and 6th graders already know, and they weren't shy about it. Chances are, he already knows more than what you think he does. Just go over the basics about it with him and explain how guys are "visual people and sometimes things will make you excited." Explain the consequences of what can happen and how that can affect his whole life. Our videos didn't really go into detail about sex, but rather how everything "works" on the male body.

I remember my 6th grade science class when we went over it for a week. Several students went out of their way to say things to make the teacher uncomfortable, greatness.

[46Tbird]

Just be glad you're not a dad having to explain this to your little girl.

Or worse, how she's supposed to wear a tampon, because we have no idea how that shit works.

[Fern]

jared killed it with the poem, but i gotta add -

what if the little man says "Mom, I've been fucking for a year now, but thanks."

*high five!*

[SVT Lurch]

Bill Engvall

I was going to have the talk with my son, but I know kids today are more advanced than you and me, So I sat him down and said, "Son, I know you already know a lot of things, so why don't you do this: why don't you tell me what you know, and I'll just fill in the blanks." About 30 minutes later I'm sitting there with a pen and a pad of paper going they'll do that?!.

[71chevellejohn]

You could tell him that he can't have sex because of Pillow Pants

[Binky]

Sit him down at the computer, hit redtube.com and then leave the room. Tons on instructional material at your disposal.

[jluv]

Forget all the nonsense posted so far. Tell him with a poem!

Son, you're twelve, and life couldn't be meaner.
But it gets a lot better once you discover your weiner.

That thing between your legs isn't only for tinkles.
With a tug and a slap it will lose all its wrinkles.

Just don't tug too hard. You don't want to bruise it.
And watch where you put it. You don't want to lose it.

Be prepared for the day in a couple of years
When you meet a nice girl and you both have some beers.

She'll live with her aunt, and you'll be at their loft.
You'll kiss for a while and her top will come off.

Try not to freak out, son. Just go with the flow.
If you get too excited, think of Grandmother's toe.

You know, the big brown one that smells like hot bile.
That will soften your boner, so you can last for a while.

Now take off her shoes - the girl's, not Granny's.
Get her out of her pants, and her bra, and her panties.

There's a hole on this girl, just in front of her butt.
Stick a finger in, son. If it's loose, she's a slut.

But that's not necessarily a terrible thing.
We should appreciate sluts for the condoms they bring.

That's right, son, a condom. Always put on a lid.
Or you'll end up with Aids, or the herp, or a kid.

Now back to your finger, take it out for a sec.
Bring it up to your nose while you kiss on her neck.

If it smells like bad cheese, rotten eggs, or a zoo
Pickles, a skunk, turds, vomit, or a burnt glue...

Or sweaty old gym socks, or the ass of a trout.
Then stop! Put your pants on and get the fuck out!

But if it smells like wet roses that are covered in honey,
Congratulations, my son. This is more right than money.

This is better than fun. This is bigger than freedom.
Dont think twice about friends, they'll be back when you need 'em.

Put your pole in her hole. Put your pud in her pocket.
This is wild new frontier, and your dick's Davy Crockett.

Have fun while you can, it goes downhill from here.
One day she'll be fat, and you'll need lots more beer.

[UserX]

[jluv]

In all seriousness, I never got the talk. Not sure when or how I figured it out. Must have been porno mags or dirty jokes.

[71chevellejohn]

Jluv, your words have brought a tear to my eye...


I'm laughing so hard I'm crying here!