Sex education in school....How to talk to a 12 yr old ?

[80coupe]

Buy him a stack of porn and lock him in his room, he'll figure it out.

lolz!

[yellowstang]

Teach him the "hit it and quit it" method of dating.

[Baron Von Crowder]

Is that class when girls find out a blow job doesn't have much to do with actually blowing air?

[Racewerx]

Live demonstration always work best!

[MutherjuggZ]

Why not just sit down with him and say, "they are going to be teaching sex education at school, and i wanted you to know that you can come ask me any questions you may have, before or after. Nothing is off limits, and we can talk about anything you like."

Maybe just taking an honest approach will also allow him to feel comfortable coming to you later on in life with major questions/concerns... Like if he ever needs money when he knocks a chick up??

Well I have done that honest approach several times (letting him know I have an open door, no questions asked policy). I always will, I just like to make sure I can make the best possible approach on this new portion of our past conversations.

When I was a teenager I had a friend whose mom left condoms in a table drawer for her older brother. Her mom never checked/counted/asked. She simply made sure the box wasn't empty every so often. This wasn't until he was 17-18, but it's definitely something I have thought of doing when my boys get older. They are NOT going to walk in a store and buy condoms and they definitely ARE going to have sex. One more measure of preventative maintenance on my end could keep me from being a grandparent before I'm 40.

To me the most important thing is safety and no teenage egg fertilization. Not only is the act of having sex an important issue, but also the respect and care for the other person that needs to be addressed too.

[MutherjuggZ]

My dad told me not to screw up and get a girl pregnant and to always use protection basically. Condoms aren't rocket science he should be able to figure out how to put it on himself.

Make it matter of fact like. Y'all with both feel weird but that's part o the humor. What killed me was my mom bitching about how it's wrong and shut. At that age I didn't give a shut what was considered wrong by adults.

Oh but definitely teach him the laws. Only thing not worth screwing around with.

Good stuff, thanks for the input

[Racewerx]

Is that class when girls find out a blow job doesn't have much to do with actually blowing air?

That is the class were girls learn if they will drive a Honda or a Corvette.

[MutherjuggZ]

Is that class when girls find out a blow job doesn't have much to do with actually blowing air?

No, that comes in the next class called "Fellatio 101"

[UserX]

Just show him this, problem solved. Oh, and you're welcome.

[GhostTX]

They are NOT going to walk in a store and buy condoms and they definitely ARE going to have sex. One more measure of preventative maintenance on my end could keep me from being a grandparent before I'm 40.

To me the most important thing is safety and no teenage egg fertilization. Not only is the act of having sex an important issue, but also the respect and care for the other person that needs to be addressed too.

Sounds like you have a plan. Get into the realities of it (diseases, pregnancies, life after pregnancy, etc.). Since you've already made the decision that it's "ok" for him to have sex, do what you can to help him keep it "safe". I'd reinforce to not rely on "her" (pill, diaphragm, etc), and make the condom the way to go. Make sure he's the more responsible party.

Agreed the whole condom thing isn't rocket science, but there's always a banana to demo with.

With this board, I'm sure there's several that'd volunteer to do a live demo with you.

[Broncojohnny]

I can't imagine having that conversation with my mom. Holy shit. The stack of porn method may be the best course of action. Or better yet, a subscription to realitykings.com. Nothing explains the way a man can love and be committed to a woman like a Mike's apartment video.

[Silverback]

I think the best thing you can do it make it so that sex isn't akward for you or him to discuss. Make him confident and comfortable with not only the process, but with being open and talking about birth control, abstinence, pregnancy, diseases, etc not only with you, but with his friends, girlfriends, etc.

Being uninformed, ashamed, or scared of sex is what leads kids to give in to peer pressure, or make bad decisions on sex.

Hell don't be afraid to even start discussing alcohol and drugs and the effects they can have on judgement during sexual encounters. The more informed and confident your son is about all of these things, the better decisions he'll make down the road.

Most of the friends I had that got the "sex is wrong", or "sex is dangerous" speaches were the first ones to blow it all off and end up knocking someone up, or having to dip their cocks in vats of alcohol after a drip to Mexico

[Silverback]

I can't imagine having that conversation with my mom. Holy shit. The stack of porn method may be the best course of action. Or better yet, a subscription to realitykings.com. Nothing explains the way a man can love and be committed to a woman like a Mike's apartment video.

Nothing says I love you like using your foot to shove a chicks head in the toilet while railing her from the back like a roughneck on his first prospecting claim!

[DamonH]

My Dad basically just said, 'you better not be having sex, and if you do, you BETTER be using a condom'. That being said, I took the "BETTER use a condom" thing to heart, but it had some flaws. The few tips that would have helped me out:

1). I lost my virginity at 15 (girlfriend was 14). Your son probably already knows someone at 12 who talks about it and has done it so the more accurate information he gets from you the better.
2). Reinforce that girls can get pregnant even with no penetration (just rubbing).
3). At least explain to him to pinch the the tip of the condom and hold it to keep air out of the reservoir as he rolls it on, I didn't know that for a while. Maybe there are some drawings (or videos with fruit, etc) on the internet to help take away the awkwardness.
4). Make sure he knows, condoms DO break. The second time I had sex, the condom broke and I had no idea why it felt so much better until I was finished. I lost 10 pounds over the next 20 days waiting for my girlfriend to have her period worried literally sick I got her pregnant.
5). I wanted sex bad enough to go through the embarrassment of buying condoms, but I didn't want to mill around the condom isle either so I'd grab something and run. Make sure he knows they come in different sizes, I ended up with Magnums one time.
6). Let him know some STDs are permanent, and you can still get them from oral sex.

I know some of the above is obvious, but it never hurts to reinforce.

[Magnimike1]

If he is twelve, he already knows more than most of the guys on here. I learned at 9. I went over every detail with my son at that age.